I've been sexual active with this guy for
seven months, and each time we've had sex,
or some type of sexual activity he is
unable to finish! It'll take hours before
he's even close. Weird thing is, he says
he's able to finish at home, alone, by
himself and it'll take 30-45minutes.
I'd really love to know if there is
something going on that can be fixed?
Thanks!
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w0rldd0minat0r
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2006 Posts: 238
Posted: 03-03-06 12:07pm
U need to learn how to do it better both
of you!!!!
Lol if not see doctor
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the_disguised
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Feb 2006 Posts: 6
Posted: 03-06-06 18:25pm
Well, if you can suggest anything that we
could be doing wrong, by all means.
Please share.
I'd like to fix this 'problem' because it
really bites when I finish before him.
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quicksilver024
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2006 Posts: 35
Posted: 03-06-06 19:15pm
So he's kind of got the opposite to
premature ejaculation, i've had this too.
I dont know what exactly caused it, but
pretty much being more honest with my
partner over what I wanted helped, tho I
never had trouble when alone, of course he
could be stretching the truth to, avoid
hurting you. That is not the issue
though, he might either have an issue with
sex, not feel completely comfortable or
has some physiological or pychological
probelm that is interfering.
Is he on any anti-depressants? They can
definetely cause this.
I know this is random thoughts but i'm not
a doctor, i've just had this problem
other things i'm thinking of
try being creative in bed, I dont know if
you engage in foreplay for sometime before
sex, but it can help, also he may not be
too sensitive, which could require some
skill. This is really weird to say, but
if i'm having trouble, I might ask if she
can "go down" on me for a few minutes,
then I reciprocate and back to sex, it can
really heat things up, to be spontaneous
in bed. Guys dont just get turned on
from being pleased but also from pleasing.
Also for an orgasm to happen in men,
they must get to the point of no return,
which may require some intense effort, but
once this happens, an orgasm pretty much
guaranteed. I have no idea what he's
like, but maybe this is the case. Also
sometimes I cant finish just from sex and
have to do it myself with her helping,
which is kinda hot for both of us, the
added friction helps.
I mean this basically is no ones fault, it
could be a problem solely with him or
maybe he just isnt getting turned on
enough, and by enough I mean creativity,
different positions, places, that kind of
thing. Just remember its not your fault,
but there maybe things you can do to help.
I dont know if you talk in bed, but ask
what he wants, not in a normal way, but
seductively. Make him feel as
comfortable as possible, but keep it
genuine.
Maybe you've tried all these avenues,
which would only lead me to believe he
needs professional help, maybe a doctor,
maybe a pychiatrist, cant tell, but if you
both truely love eachother this can be
worked out.
Hope this helps somehow and hope I didnt
offend anyone.
~silver
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the_disguised
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Feb 2006 Posts: 6
Posted: 03-11-06 01:27am
We've tried alot of those things..
I'll continue with some of your ideas.
Thank you, love. :d great help.
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the_disguised
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Feb 2006 Posts: 6
Posted: 03-14-06 22:05pm
We found out he's able to finish, but only
without a condom. Is this just a
subconcious thing.. Or what's going on?
Thanks for the previous help.
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quicksilver024
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2006 Posts: 35
Posted: 03-14-06 23:47pm
Actually I have the same problem, luckily
me and my gf are checked out and shes on
birth control, so we got rid of the condom
thing a long while back. I cant stand
them, dont feel a thing, and for some
reason that coming from a guy usually
seems shallow and irresponsible, but weve
taken precautions and both of us are a lot
happier.
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