Please Help "re: Premature Ejeculation" Posted: 03-01-06 15:51pm
Hello, i'm 23 years old and i'm having a
bad problem. I'm suffering from premature
ejeculation (pe) and it's ruining my
relationship. I'm currently married now
but for the pass 1 and half i've been
suffering from pe.
I'm very worry to loose my family, I
started feeling depression because of the
situation. It's embarrassing to hear your
wife telling you that you are bad in bed
and not actually have sex for a long
period because of the problem. Well
that's me right there, me and my wife
sometime last two months without making
love because she's afraid that i'm going
to come too quick and she will stay on.
I try to make her come first with my
mouth, which I never fail with that. But
when it comes to penetration I could only
last one or two minutes the most.
Please advise me of something. I try
buying pdf books for $65, I read it and it
was working but one day I fail and she got
mad and I started feeling pressure and
anxiety which again got me to the same
point where I started. She love me and I
love her too, so i'm trying to do what
ever to please my wife and have a happy
live as I had it before.
Any help or advise will be greatly
appreciated.
Thanks
_just a secret
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patch38
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Feb 2006 Posts: 6 Location: eNGLAND
Posted: 03-02-06 14:48pm
It sounds like you having a really tough
time. I would suggest sitting down and
talking to your wife about this. Because
basically unless she changes her attitude
you will never get better. Sex is not
about being bad or good, seeing to her
then seeing to him - its meant to be a
joint expression of love. How can it be
that when your wife undermines your
confidence.
Perhaps going to see a relationship/sexual
therapist would help matters. I really
tink you need to speak to your wife. Do
you actually talk about pe? I understand
she must be frustrated also but its
nobody's fault. And she has a big a part
to play in your recovery as you do.
Some of the practical methods I would
recommend are stop start method which is
pretty self explanatory. Also try kegel
excercises. Having suffered with pe
myself the major thing I noticed was I was
not able to tell when the point of no
return was, it felt ineveitable that I
would cum. You need to work out where
that point is again. Try masturbating to
the point, and then stopping. Each time
you stop your body will relaise its
limits. Ask your wife to stimulate you to
the point, then stop, then start again
when the feeling has subsided.
Hope this helps
patch
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brako
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2006 Posts: 16 Location: ohio
Pe Posted: 03-03-06 09:52am
Hey man dont feel bad I suffered from it
when I was depressed.
Patch has great advice I do recomend
kegels and masturbation
pretty soon she will be saying enough
already!
I cant come anymore!
Have her work trough this with you try to
make it romantic not a job
try mutual masturbation (you will also
find out what she really like this way
too)
remember you make love with your whole
bodies and minds try to take it to that
level.
Take your time and talk to her and try not
to be depressed or feel like less than a
man your confidence will come back and so
will your drive .
The ole clam hammer will be back in
buisness.
Remember allot of this is about confidence
it all starts in your brain.
I hope I helped and good luck
brako
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justasecret
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2006 Posts: 5 Location: New York
Thank You Path And Brako! Posted: 03-03-06 19:47pm
Thanks alot for replaying to my post.
I will try to talk to this weekend and see
if she's willing to help me go throu this.
I been masturbating and trying what you
guys mention the start and stop. I notice
it's helping a little bit, I read that in
the book I bough online. They have some
good exercises, like I mentioned before, I
was following the book and it was working,
but my self steme went down again. When I
saw the progress I made I noticed that
everything was mentally, but now I want to
see that progress and it's kind of hard if
I don't get the support I need from my
wife.
Another thing is that I been asking her if
I can buy viagra or something similar that
can help me stay erect for a longer
period. But she doesn't want that at all.
Sometimes I buy them without telling her
and everything works fine, just that I
don't like the way I feel the next day.
Those pills I was drinking have a side
effect, I kind of feel like heart burn and
nausias.
Sometimes I wish she can be more open to
sex, what I mean by that is that she
doesn't like to go for the second one, and
I know that if we go for the second one I
can function better. She just gets mad
and thats it, then I start thinking bad
things which I noticed it makes me worse.
I was planning to break up with her and
try a new relationship but I have 7 years
with her and a 5 years old daughter. I
don't think that's the right decicion to
make right? What i'm really affraid is to
go to someone else and have the same
problems.
Is anyone else going thru the same
problems as me. I feel so good after
finding this forum, I don't like telling
people my problem but this forum is
helping take my anger and my worryness
out.
Brako when you said you can come anymore
what exactly you mean? What did you do
that help you fix the problem?
Did you took any pills while curring your
self?
I think if she agree for me to take at
least something to help me last longer, I
might get used to the feelign of lasting
longer and I will cure my self. Does that
makes any sense?
I promise that if I cure my self with the
help of you guys, I will write the process
and try to help other people that are
going thru this horrible situation. I
will post the book I bought online for
$65, it might help any of you with the
same problem.
Here is the link and the password to that
download page. I hope this help
to start using the program simple log into
your account using the following
information:
hi mate, if u are suffring form PE Posted: 06-27-08 15:57pm
i am 23 and i am indian. i can understand
ur problem. the thing is that u need is a
treatment not pills because this is ur
body and u want something natural that
works for u for all of ur life not those
pills. ther are many indian Homeopathic
Practitioners in usa. i had this problem
to and i had this treatment too and it am
much better now trust me.
in usa there are many peole who suffer
from this problem. about every 3\10 male
is affected from this. and thera are not
many things that medicine has done to
overcome from this problem. so in indian
cultures this hemopathic stuff was
introduced many centuries ago. this is the
link open it and u will see and u can
recover from it.
good luck mate.
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Izzie
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jun 2008 Posts: 5
Posted: 06-29-08 15:24pm
You should really ask your wife to be more
patient with you, sounds like it's tough
to have an open conversation with her. In
such cases communication, openess and
trust really help a lot.
