I'm just wondering... Is it possible for
a girl to get an abortion without her
parents knowing?
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Tylanas
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Posted: 03-02-06 20:01pm
It depends on your age; and I also believe
there is a law on the books or trying to
get on the books in california that would
make it mandatory for an under-aged girl's
parents to be informed of the abortion.
It depends on your state i'm afraid.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 03-02-06 22:53pm
California passed laws that say it is not
necessary for parental consent if you want
to have an abortion.
If you are curious about what clinics are
in your area, how much an abortion is
etc..
Check out
click "california" from the states menu
and you will have a list of many clinics
close by your area
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Tylanas
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Posted: 03-03-06 00:34am
Oh that's good news!
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sandyallen
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Posted: 03-03-06 01:13am
Kids tell their parents what to do now
anyway and when to do it, heck, you cannot
even spank or punish your children anymore
and it is sooooo sad! Why should
abortion be any different. We all wanted
to be adults growing up, now they are,
they even carry negative things around
with them and are tried as adults. I am
so glad that I have raised mine! This
system is horrible!
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Tylanas
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Posted: 03-03-06 10:51am
Well, I do think it's bad that almost all
power has been taken from parents. I
actually think that law should be more
definitive. If the girl is under 16 and
wants an abortion, her parents should be
informed. But 16 and over, they don't
need to be told anything.
My parents spanked me, only once or twice
my entire childhood and believe me, that
was enough to scare me into behaving!! I
don't see spanking as a bad thing, as long
as it's not done excessively. If it
works, and the kid still respects .A.N.D
loves you, then do it.
I don't approved of using
belts (or other objects) to spank, or
smacking kids upside the head or anywhere
else.
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sandyallen
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Posted: 03-03-06 23:58pm
I agree .Eiri, their is a difference
between spanking and abuse as my
step-mother was an alcy and she did not
give a caca sometimes when she was drunk,
yep, been there but we only threw(sp) one
tantrum in a store, when we were young
because we did not get something we
wanted.
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ashlee_veronica
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Posted: 03-19-06 20:57pm
I think that's it's usually better if a
girl's parents know... I know it's
probably the hardest thing to do (telling
them), but it helps them make an
informative decision and find a good
clinic out there to perform the operation,
instead of just picking one of a
phonebook.
I know everyone has different parents
though and some aren't as supportive and
understanding as others...
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sandyallen
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Posted: 03-20-06 00:25am
I agree ashlee_veronica as their are times
that young girls can get an infection and
can bleed out as their are some parents
that do care and do understand aand yet it
can be a difficult thing at times to tell
your parents that you are going to have an
abortion. Hopefully this will open up
some parents and daughters relationships,
I know that I would want my daughter to
tell me so that I could be their for her
this is part of the reason that I am
pro-choice because I do understand and I
would want my daughter to understand this
as well, just like if she chose to keep it
but we are not talking about that right
now. Their are not a lot of parents that
feel the other way or the daughter.
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ashlee_veronica
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Posted: 03-21-06 21:18pm
Exactly... And it's so sad that so many
girls go through traumatic experiences
from getting an abortion all because they
are so uneducated and uninformed about
what decisions to make.
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jenn_smithson
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Posted: 03-25-06 19:47pm
ashlee_veronica
wrote:
exactly... And it's so sad
that so many girls go through traumatic
experiences from getting an abortion all
because they are so uneducated and
uninformed about what decisions to
make.
their doctor should
provide unbiased options counseling. If
the doctor makes value statements or does
not provide all information about every
option, there are counselors available at
your local planned parenthood who are
trained to give non-biased, supportive
counseling for each person. Most of
these counselors are also trained and
qualified to set up open and closed
adoptions in the area if the .Woman
desires one.
Every .Woman, whether she is a teenager or
46 years old or beyond, should be given
.All information about every
option available to her from someone who
is not promoting an agenda one way or
another. My current doctor refuses to
set up referrals or even talk about
abortion during office visits. He is a
bad doctor who is operating under an
agenda to make his obstetric practice grow
because he gets much, much
more money for each pregnancy to birth
than he does if the .Woman decides to
obtain an abortion.
As for the "traumatic experiences" that
.Women face with abortion, they are the
exception rather than the rule according
to both the .American .Psychological
.Association and the .Allan .Guttmacher
.Institutes studies on the subject. The
vast majority of .Women, young or
otherwise, who obtain an abortion do not
report any psychological trauma associated
with the abortion. For .Women dealing
with an unintended pregnancy, the
unplanned pregnancy is the cause for
psychological stress, not the abortion.
Once a decision has been made, whether it
is an abortion or not, the .Woman has
successfully coped with the stressful
situation (the unplanned pregnancy) and
the abortion/miscarriage/birth is seen as
the resolution of the decision.
The apa's website here has much
more information on this topic.
Peace,
jenn
