19 Years Old And Having Sexual Problems Posted: 03-03-06 11:20am
Hi!
First of all i'm taking drugs for my
acne(roaccutan and some facial gel), which
I don't think interfere at all with my
problem.
I recently tried having sex for the first
time with my 16 year old (not virgin) gf,
and when it came down to penetration, I
lost completely my erection! When we are
making out (kissing and touching) on
public places, I get really hard for a
long time, and that is why I don't
understand my problem...Even when we were
in bed making out and touching her
everywhere I was excited, but then lost it
when it came down to the real deal.
She didn't do me oral sex(as I didn't do
to her also), she didn't let me touch/see
her vagina and she didn't take her bra
also(although she let me touch her boobs).
I'm planning to talk with my grandmother
who is a psychiatric doctor and knows a
lot about medicine and I trust her a lot
and have no problems with this...Should I
take viagra for the first times until I
get really comfortable? Thanks
oh and I can't say I have a stressful
life, I smoke some joints and drink
rarely. My gf was very sweet with me and
said that sex isn't important to her and
she likes me a lot even if I can't have
sex with her, and she told me she would
wait for as long as I need.
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w0rldd0minat0r
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2006 Posts: 238
Posted: 03-03-06 11:58am
Your lucky! No idea what it could maybe
viagra is a good idea
too young to give really gd advice tell me
how it all works out
gl
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LookAhead
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Feb 2006 Posts: 5
Posted: 03-04-06 16:21pm
Hey boogiedancer, i'm 19 too. I got the
same excitement issue with my girlfriend.
Every time we have tried sex I lose it
right as I reach to put on a condom. So
at this point i'm soft and got a condom
on...Awesome! And then once I get it
back again and we start, my premature
ejaculation kicks in right on cue. I
dont get it at all...
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fiona05
Supporter
Joined: 21 Dec 2005 Posts: 663 Location: , Norn Iron
Posted: 03-05-06 15:42pm
Well first of all, i'd like to stress that
I am totally sensitive and understanding
to anyone with erection difficulties.
But I don't think this is the issue
here.
This girl won't let you take off her bra.
She won't let you see her genetals,
nevermind touch them. What makes you
think she's the slightest bit prepared to
sleep with you? She obviously has
intimacy/confidence issues going on.
Don't you think you ought to sort these
issues out with her before you try to sh*g
her senseless?
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caes
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jan 2006 Posts: 8
Posted: 03-05-06 16:36pm
Viagra isnt really an option here because
viagra wont give u an erection if your
anxious.. Its used to correct physical
problem not psychological.
To get your manhood working u need nervous
stimulation from the brain then it needs
to fill up with blood etc. Anxiety
switches off that nervous stimulation of
the penis... Viagra targets the filling
up wth blood part..
You need to talk to your partner about
it.. Let her know its anxiety and that
you will get over it but let her know u
have to have some time to figure it out.
And it only really takes time...
You have to get really comfortable with
her... If shes all closed off (not taking
off bra, or letting u see her etc) thats
not great.. U want a girlfriend who you
really trust and who trusts you. Thats
the best scenario for getting over this
problem.
I went through this problem and I got
through it by being so comfortable and
open with my partner. We wud go to bed to
have fun not expecting sex.. Just fooling
around.. Me giving her oral sex,
massaging etc.. Eventually itll happen
and u will wonder what all the fuss was
about.
Good luck
