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Katie in Trouble
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I'm 14 And Pregnant.....help!!
Posted: 03-05-06 14:09pm
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I am so scared I don't know what to do.
I'm 14 and I know i'm pregnant...I got two
pregnancy tests and my friend and I did
them in the restroom at school. My older
brother....He's 19...Brought a friend home
from college to spend the weekend but then
his girlfriend called and he had to go see
her...And my mom and dad had reservations
to go out...So my brother's friend....His
name is brian...And I were alone until
they came back. We were watching
wrestling on tv and horsing around when he
started touching me....Like between my
legs...And it felt so good that I think I
had an orgasm. Later that night when
everybody was asleep he came to my room
and we had sex....And we did it two more
times that weekend. When my period didn't
come I started getting worried but I hoped
would come....But it didn't and now i've
missed another one. I know i'm
pregnant....I've been having horrible
morning sickess.....Like only it isn't
always in the morning....And i'm really
tired....Lately my breasts are really
tender. I don't know what to do....My
parents would kill me if they knew i'm
pregnant. Pleasse help!!
Katie r.
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Carrie-Lucie
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Posted: 03-05-06 14:17pm
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Ok the first thing you need to do is take
a deep breath and chill out - my parents
are deeply religious, no sex before
marriage kind of religious and they were
great when I told them about being
pregnant with my son.
Have you told the baby's father? You
probably know this - but it is illegal for
a guy to have sex when the girl is under
16 years of age.
Is there anyone you trust about anyone
else you know? An aunt, sister... Etc?
Who could help you work out the best way
to tell your parents. Whetever you decide
to do you need to tell your parents
(depending on your location you may need
their consent for an abortion if that's
the route you want to go down.) also even
if you don't then you will definitely need
thier support. I wouldn't reccoment
telling .A.N.Y of your mates no matter how
much you trust them as nearly always word
will get out and if your not ready to deal
with it then it can be more stress. Also
parents have a natural knack of picking up
word off the street, lol.
Yes 14 is very young to be having a kid, I
am 16 and I have a son. If you want to
talk them pm me. Also another good person
to talk to would be asbobash - she is 13
and pregnant and quite frankly inspiring.
Not meaning to sound harsh but you did get
yourself into this situ and now you have
to get out of it. Ultimately there are
two lives which will be affected.
Good luck I hope it all goes well -
carrie.
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sarahmarie
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Posted: 03-05-06 14:44pm
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Wow you're in a tough situation... And if
I wer you i'd get an abortion... You're
only 14 and whether youd like to admit it,
legally the father 'raped' you. Now if
you feel you're ready to have this baby,
then I say have it, also therees
adoption... Oh and since u live in the
staes, im pretty sure most of ur country
doesnt need parental consent for
abortion...
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w0rldd0minat0r
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Posted: 03-05-06 15:32pm
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what was your brothers friend thinking.
Make sure you dont get romantically
attached to that boy because your
underaged and theres obviously some screws
missing
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Kia
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Posted: 03-05-06 15:59pm
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You need adult help sweetie.
Tell your mom, yes she will be mad to
start with but tell her you need her help
and you don't know what to do.
Mom's are great at coming around and
dealing with almost any situation.
If you ignore this it will not go away,
you can not pretend nothing is happening.
You need proper medical care for your sake
and the child.
Please go speak to your mom.
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AriellaGrimm
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Posted: 03-05-06 16:21pm
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I agree with everything that's been said.
Tell you mom or dad or whoever takes care
of you .R.I.G.H.T .N.O.W!!! Really, the
sooner you tell them, the more time you
have to figure out exactly what needs to
be done. I definetly recommend that you
don't do what I did. I waited for so long
to tell my parents that I ended up being 6
months pregnant before I finally told
them. By then, it was really too late to
do much of anything about it. So no
matter how you think they'll react, you
must tell them now. If you think they
will react with violence, bring someone
with you who can help you escape. Either
way... Do it now. You'll be much better
off in the end.
Pm me if you need to, okay? I have a new
baby now, so i'm not online much, but i'll
try to check once or twice a day to see if
you need me.
~.Ella
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Katie in Trouble
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Location: Pennsylvania
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Posted: 03-05-06 16:36pm
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Thanks for listening to me. I haven't
told anybody but my best friend...And she
won't tell anybody. I haven't told
brian....I feel like such a dork! I know
I have to do something but i'm sooo
afraid....My parents are going to be so
mad. I don't know what I want to do....I
don't think I could have an abortion.
There is a planned parenthood
clinic....Should I go there?
Katie r.
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 03-05-06 16:47pm
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You should go there for support and care
if you arent considering abortion but
eventually your gunna have to tell your
parents
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Lalee
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Posted: 03-05-06 23:01pm
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Oh, sweetie, I know you think things are
horrid right now, but that's because
you're probably feeling alone. Like
everyone else said, you need to tell your
parents. Yeah, they're probably going to
be angry and you're probably going to get
lectured, but they'll calm down and
probably end up being the best support you
could ever have.
Are you close to your brother at all?
Maybe you could talk to him and see if
he'll come home to be with you while you
tell your parents. I agree also that
brian needs to know, but I don't think
he's as important as your family right
now. You don't know how he's going to
react or if he'll be immature or whatever,
and you need to have your family in your
corner before dealing with him.
Good luck and let us know how things go.
I'll be thinking about you!
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Carrie-Lucie
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Posted: 03-06-06 03:19am
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The planned parenthood clinic will help
you a lot yes, but the first thing they
are gonna say is who have you told and
they will do exactly what we are doing and
get you to tell your parents... You
.W.I.L.L need their support in whatever
you decide. Someone mentioned violence -
have they ever been violent towards you?
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bounceyball
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Posted: 03-06-06 05:40am
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Chill out 1st then sit down wit ur parents
and tell them but dont get an abortion its
not the babys fault and the baby didnt
hurt nebody
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Kia
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Posted: 03-06-06 08:04am
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I'd just like to say that no-body here has
the right to tell you to get an abortion
or not.
An abortion is an extremely difficult time
for a girl no matter how old they are or
how much support they have.
It is an extremely personal choice and
should be a choice you choose for yourself
not because someone tells you to.
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diamondsz
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Posted: 03-06-06 09:04am
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You do need to to tell your parents,
everyones parents react differently to
each sitiuation, if they do get mad they
wont stay mad long but if you dont tell
them then both you and the baby are
suffering. I have two children and
honestly I would rather my daughter
approached me if she got pregnant and I
would help her but I would probally be mad
because she is throwing her life to
responisiblity when she should stil be
having fun!
As for stat rape I dont agree with it you
both agreed(consented) to having sex if
you guys were here it would have been
legal as long as your older than 14.
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AshBoBash
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Re
Posted: 03-07-06 00:28am
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Wow your brothers friend is going to get
into some trouble
i dont think there are any states in
america where the legal age of consent is
under 16 so even if you tell everyone you
agreed I think he can still get in
trouble
i'm 13 and pregnant with a baby girl but
my babys dad is 15 and i'll be 14 in april
which is before the baby will be born
i think you need to call somewhere like
planned parenthood and ask advice on what
to do in that situation and talk to some
people who know the facts in your state
about that stuff
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rasuyoung
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Posted: 03-16-06 17:29pm
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Wait, you didn't take a pregnancy test to
confirm that you are, right? Definitely
go out and buy one to make sure you really
are.
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Jennie25
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Posted: 03-16-06 17:30pm
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She's already posted a bunch more times
and been to the doc...Shes 100% pregnant
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