I finally got the courage to register
here;
just wondering if anyone has some
experience with paternity issues and
whether the father (or not) has any rights
to demand dna testing.
My boyfriends ex is saying he's the father
of her child born on 02/11-06; we've known
about the pregnancy all along; they broke
up early may; he and I have been together
since.
Can anyone help determine roughly
conception date without any more info? -
wouldn't that be later in may?
Over the course of several weeks after she
told him she was pregnant it became
apparant that she was unclear who the
father was; her info on how far along she
was wasn't very consistant. She made it
very clear she wanted/wants him to be the
father. He made it clear that there
needed to be a paternity test as soon as
possible after the baby was born; she
seems to be dragging her feet and has not
set anything up yet.
He will do the right thing and step up and
support the child if it's his but doesnt
want to get attached or give in to her
demands until he knows for sure and is
willng to pay for the tests completely;
he's gone out of his way to go spend time
with her after she had the baby but is
really uncomfortable (as I am) - this gal
is pretty unstable, immature (she's only
21) and is acting out; came back to town
here just a week after giving birth,
driving around showing the baby off and
telling everyone he's the father; making
up rumors to cause additional problems.
This is awkward; i'm planning on
supporting him but I want to make sure
he's being honest with me about not being
with her since they broke up.
Any insight would be appreciated.
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Sunflower_pie81
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jan 2006 Posts: 5041 Location: to hell with this crap
Posted: 03-06-06 14:49pm
Hun, it seems pretty clear that your
b-friend needs to do a paternaty test.
If she is unwilling to do one then he
needs to go to court to have the court to
order one. He doesn't need to pay her
any child support until that has been
completed. If he says it's his then he
needs to do all he can to find out if it's
his sothat he can take care of it. Maybe
if she isn't a good mother (not saying she
is or isn't) but he may need to fight for
custody if it is his.
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tigresacanela24
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Nov 2005 Posts: 5261 Location: Treat your children well, eventually they'll choose your nursing home.
Posted: 03-06-06 16:57pm
sunflower_pie81
wrote:
hun, it seems pretty clear
that your b-friend needs to do a paternaty
test. If she is unwilling to do one
then he needs to go to court to have the
court to order one. He doesn't need to
pay her any child support until that has
been completed. If he says it's his
then he needs to do all he can to find out
if it's his sothat he can take care of it.
Maybe if she isn't a good mother (not
saying she is or isn't) but he may need to
fight for custody if it is
his.
amen sister!
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yellow ribbon
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 5554 Location: FL
Posted: 03-06-06 17:14pm
I had my daughter 2/4/05 and my last
period was 5/5/04 so that would make
conception of her like the 20thish if that
helps. Definately get a paternity test
asap so u can put this behind u if she is
lying
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spring2000
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Mar 2006 Posts: 2
Posted: 03-07-06 11:06am
Thanks for your comments;
i'd suggested last week that my bf he call
the child support agency in the state shes
living in to let them know who he was and
to see if she's even requesting the dna
test but they couldn't tell him; it's
pretty much up to her to get this set up,
apparently. The last conversation they
had last week he told her not to call back
until she had an appointment set up for
dna testing; I hope she is mature enough
to go through with this as it's unsettling
to have this hang over our heads, not
knowing for sure.
I don't think the child could be his if he
wasn't with her in may, so maybe he's
called her bluff...The other guy who could
be the father already has three children
by other women and I think she wanted a
more stable guy, financially, to be the
one; and I think she hoped he would claim
the baby as his without real evidence and
take her back. It's a sad situation,
really, for this little boy.
And, I guess, unless she requests child
support from him, there will be little he
can do bout this. Does anyone know what
his legal rights might be to demand dna
testing? It would be heartbreaking for
him if it did turn out to be his,
especially if much time passes; the baby
is almost a month old, now.
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yellow ribbon
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 5554 Location: FL
Posted: 03-07-06 12:20pm
I think he could ask a court to order a
dna test if he could would say shes an
unfit mom and he wants to know for the
interest of the childs custody but I dunno
I doubt shes gunna bring the baby to a dna
test unless she really believes its his so
hed prob need a court order
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tigresacanela24
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Nov 2005 Posts: 5261 Location: Treat your children well, eventually they'll choose your nursing home.
Posted: 03-08-06 09:25am
He can pay for a dna test on his own if he
wants to. But unless she's trying to sue
him for child support the court won't
order a dna test (he would actually have
to request it to have it ordered). If
he's trying to fight for custody of the
child but he wants a dna test to prove
paternity he will have to pay for it. At
least that's the way it works here. My
husband is still battling this over his
"daughter" but the mother is refusing to
get a paternity test done (this has been
going on for five years). His situation
is a little different tho, bcos he was
married to the mother according to the law
any children are automatically his
(whether that's true or not) and at the
time he didn't know that he could ask for
a dna test. He found out shortly
thereafter but by then it was already too
late, the order for support was in.
