I Need Honest And Kind Advice Posted: 03-06-06 14:33pm
I want to be able to post my story without
being criticized for my behavior. So,
please, if you're going to be an fool,
please do not reply. I would like some
honest responses, thank you.
Last year (i know, so long ago), I had
unprotected anal sex, without much force
and there was no blood contact. That was
in may, and over the course of the summer
I started getting super paranoid about it,
even though I was told the person was
negative. My lymphnodes were swollen, and
I had chronic diarrhea. At the same time,
however, I had started vegetarianism and
thought that might be the cause.
In 2004, I participated in oral sex, and
without telling me, the person ejaculated
in my mouth. I had started thinking about
that incident last year, around sept. Or
oct.
I haven't gotten tested yet because i'm so
afraid of what the results might be.
However, i'm planning on it next week. I
just want to know the chances of me being
infected. When I gave oral sex, it was in
october of 2004, and in june 2005 is when
I started being paranoid about my
unprotected encounter. Like I said, my
neck glands have been swollen since june
2005, and I had chronic diarrhea. I have
diarrhea still, but it's usually only when
I eat something greasy, etc. Which is
what leads me to think it was/is because
i'm a vegetarian. Also, beginning in
january of this year (2006), I started
getting sore throats all the time.
Eventually, they developed into throat
infections, and I got two over the course
of 27 days. What exactly are my chances
of being positive?
Please don't respond with just "go get
tested, it's past the 3-6 month mark!" I
understand that, and I plan on goign next
week unless I chicken out (which is
possible), but i'd also ike some honest
and kind advice on my situation. Thank
you so much in advance.
-anonymous in nj
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Finess150
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Risks Posted: 03-07-06 07:38am
Your risk was relatively high. If the
other person is hiv+, the risk of
infection from unprotected anal sex is
approx. 6% per episode according to
studies.
Your oral encounter poses a very low
risk.
There is little point in discussing your
symptoms, but they are not suggestive of
hiv infection. Swollen nodes can occur
during the initial ars infection , lasting
perhaps two or three weeks. You diareah
is likely to be down to anxiety and diet,
not hiv. It is not a common symptom in
early infection.
Good luck in your test. From a single
encounter, the odds are in your favour.
Let us know how you get on. Best wishes.
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kiklis2k
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Swollen Lymph Posted: 03-13-06 05:22am
Swollen lymph could be a cause due to poor
immunity in the body. They need not
necessarily be a hiv infection. However,
early hiv also shows swollen lymph glands
to be a major symptom accompanied with a
high grade fever ( mononucleosis like
symptom)
you have involved in a high risk behavior
which stresses the need to get tested.
Please go ahead and test to leave your
worries behind. After all testing gives
you more confidence
avoid anal sex in the future. Also could
think of protective measures while
performing oral sex, unless with a well
known partner .
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Finess150
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Response Posted: 03-13-06 07:51am
Kiklis, your advice on this forum is
generally very well-informed, unlike many
others here. However, to say 'avoid
having anal sex' is not advice against
hiv, it is advice based on your view of
anal sex. People have the right to engage
in this activity with eachother, and it
isn't our place to tell them not to. Our
capacity is to inform them of how to go
about it safely if they decide to do it -
using strong condoms every time.
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kiklis2k
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Thanks Finess For Your Feedback Posted: 03-13-06 09:03am
Dear friend,
thanks for your valuable feedback. I
appreciate your interests too and your
ardent replies. They are very
informative too.
However, I agree, that it was my personal
suggestion, to avoid anal sex, as it not
only has a higher degree of possibility of
infection compared to other methods, but
also leads to a unnatural behaviour in
humans.
Anyway, sorry for my personal opinion.
Everyone have the right to choose what
they want. What ever it may be, be safe
and no worries later.
Bye.
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AnonymousInNJ
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Posted: 03-16-06 16:29pm
Thanks for the advice. I have yet to get
tested (i'm going tomorrow), but I
recently had a cbc done by my doctor.
When I went back for my followup visit, I
was told my blood counts were excellent.
Does this mean anything in regards to
being positive? I'm not relying on it, I
would just like some hope.
Also, I would like to add that in my anal
sex experience, I was not the receiver, I
was the giver. Does that also mak a
difference in the risk factor? Thanks
again.
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Finess150
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Blood Posted: 03-17-06 07:39am
There is no reliable indication of your
hiv status except for a blood test. An
hiv postive person may have excellent
blood counts.
Yes, to be the 'giver' is a lower risk
than to be the 'reciever'.
