Well Is He Bi-polar Or Not? Posted: 03-10-06 14:09pm
Ok, I have been dating this guy for about
5 months now. We dated for about 3 months
this time last year. Nothing really
happened the first time we dated so when
his ex wife told my mom he was bi-polar, I
thought she was only trying to discourage
the relationship due to jealousy. Well
things have happened alot here lately that
have me thinking maybe she was just giving
me a warning and not trying to be mean
about it. First of all he is reallllly
indecisive. He changes his mind out of
the blue more than any woman I have ever
known. One minute he can't wait to see me
and the next he isn't sure he wants to be
with me anymore for no reason at all. He
is incredibly moody all the time. We can
be having the best time and all the sudden
I say the least little thing or have an
opinion that he may not agree with and he
explodes! One time I told him "i wished
you would have called me earlier in the
day" and he threw a foaming at the mouth
fit right in front of his kids and he told
me to get out of his house! This has been
very hurtful. I have asked him directly
if what his wife said was true and he said
no, he isn't bi-polat although he was on
effexer for about 3 months for depression
once. I don't know if he would tell me
the truth or not. What do you guys think?
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DSmith529
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2005 Posts: 59
With Friends Like Him... Posted: 03-10-06 14:40pm
Quote:
one time I told
him "i wished you would have called me
earlier in the day" and he threw a foaming
at the mouth fit right in front of his
kids and he told me to get out of his
house!
whatever is going on medically or
otherwise, I do hope you recognize that he
chose to behave like that.
If he is mentally ill, there will be
swarms of people singing the, "would you
leave him if he had cancer?" song. It's
apples and oranges. Cancer patients work
hard to get well and generally speaking
refuse further treatment only if they know
their illness is terminal and prefer not
to undergo more pain. If he is mentally
ill and if he is diagnosed and chooses not
to take care of himself, run. Knowing
he has taken effexor in the past means
that he has had experience with
depression--so he knows that depression
makes him miserable and can destroy
relationships. And he knows what to do
too.
There are likely a lot of reasons he is
now divorced. Not all of them are due to
bipolar, but the behaviours you witnessed
will get worse not better, the longer he
doesn't take charge of his life.
Do you need the drama? Your kids? I'd
examine my own life without him in it, for
my sake and the minors too.
