Should I stay with my new boyfriend or should I give the ex-love of my life a second chance?
Stay with my new boyfriend
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Give my ex-boyfriend a second chance
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light_bright
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Feb 2006 Posts: 10
Had An Abortion..now I'm Confused!! Posted: 03-11-06 13:11pm
I was pregnant with my first child at the
age 16. I am still 16 now but I have just
had an abortion. When I first found out I
was pregnant I kept it a secret until my
mother found out. An when she did she
made the descision for me to have an
abortion because she had never met my
boyfriend and she thought I was way to
young. My boyfriend broke up with me
while I was waiting to be called on at the
abortion clinic. It hurt me so bad that I
felt like I was going crazy.I didn't want
to do it but I had no other choice I do
regret having an abortion and I wonder how
life would be if I were still pregnant. I
have found me a new boyfriend and he is
the sweetest person I have ever met my
ex-boyfriend calls me all the time but I
never have time for him. I still love him
with all my heart and I want to be with
him but I am in love with my new
boyfriend. My ex-boyfriend called me and
he asked me to give him a second chance
but he hurt me so much and I have someone
new. I really want to be with him because
we have that baby tie but i'm not sure if
I should give him a second chance although
I really want to.He sounds so sincere and
I really want to give him that chance but
I don't want to hurt my new boyfriend
either. I am so confused can someone
please tell me what to do...
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Eyes Wide Shut
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Posts: 7892 Location: *UPTOWN*NEW ORLEANS*, La
Posted: 03-11-06 13:31pm
You could've told them no, that you didn't
want the abortion. A close friend of
mine's mother forced her to have an
abortion. When they called her name and
brought her to the back, she told them
that she really didn't want to and they
legally couldn't do it. I don't know how
it is in your state but that's how it is
in new orleans. No matter how old you
are, it's your body and risks come with
abortions. Her mom was pissed and tried
to fight it, but the clinic could do
nothing. I'm soory that you had to go
through that...
As far as who you should be with, you need
to decide who is better for you. Not who
you like the most right now, ya know? If
you feel a stronger connection to the man
you were preggy for, than be with him.
Have you parents met either of them? If
not, it would be wise to introduce them
formally. Like mom, this is "so and so",
"so and so" this is my mom. It'll seem
strange, but it'll wind up working out for
the best.
I really hope that next time you take more
consideration for yourself and for your
body. Being preggy is nice, but only if
you're able to afford it and appreciate
it.(not saying that you didn't) just think
about how your family will take it and use
better judgment!!
I wish you the best of luck with your
decision and situation and hope you're
happy with whatever you choose!!
Sarah
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silver_rhoda
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Mar 2006 Posts: 10 Location: Michigan
Tough Times Posted: 03-11-06 13:35pm
I'm so sorry you have to go through this.
You are asking some major life changing
questions. I know a little about what you
are going through, because while I had an
abortion a little over a year ago and
understand the social pressures and
emotions that come with it, I was able to
make that decision for myself. You're
mother was completely out of her
jurisdiction to force you to have an
abortion. I am pro-choice 100%, and you
weren't given that choice. I know your
mother thought she was doing what's best
for you, but one day she will be the one
to carry that burden, not you. Thinking
about the "what-if's" about the pregnancy
are not healthy for you because it is
done. What you can do, is learn from your
mother's behavior and vow to be a more
supportive mother when the right time
finally comes for you be one. You are oh
so young and have much to look forward to!
As for the boyfriend and exboyfriend: if
you're this torn over it, my suggestion is
that you probably need some time to be
single and use that time to make some good
friendships. You need support right now
and boyfriends, god bless them, are not
always the most understanding at the age
of 16 (hence, the one breaking your heart
while you were about to undergo an
emotional overload and life-changing
event). This struggle between which to
choose will never end if you pick one over
the other because you'll still be battling
the same questions about which is better
for you. If they love you, they'll
understand. Counseling is another really
great option for you. Supportive friends,
personal time, and counseling. These
struggles will only make you a stronger,
more understanding person in the long run.
I wish you the best of luck and all my
support!
