She's Leaving For 16 Months to Australia Posted: 03-13-06 11:17am
My girlfriend of 2 years is taking a job
assignment in australia for 12-16 months.
I am angry because she is leaving, but I
am having a very difficult time being
happy for her. I know this is a lifetime
oppurtunity for her..But now what. She
wants to continue the commited
relationship, but I just don't see how
it's going to work. She will be able to
come back 3 times to the states for
vacation,maybe I could go there for a
time. I don't know if I can trust her
to be faithfull??? I know we are not
married but we are commited. I am so
confused as what to do. Let her go on
with her life??? And I as well????? The
relationship isnt perfect but we do love
each other very much. I find it very
difficult to believe that she wouldnt want
some guy to aske her out and attempt to
get into her pants. Temptation is
difficult when you're gone so long and so
far away. I won't even be able to talk
with her everyday. All that is on my
mind is "who are you with" "is this a
sign of addictive love"
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 03-14-06 07:22am
If you "love her very much" and are
"committed" what is the next logical step?
Why don't you marry her and go with her?
Maybe she sees your relationship as not
really going anywhere and has decided
she's not going to put the rest of her
life on hold waiting for you to come
around? The only problem I would see in
her marrying you would be the lack of
trust. If you can overcome that I can see
the both of you having a happy future
together. :)
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jen1604
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2006 Posts: 9 Location: UK
Posted: 04-09-06 08:19am
Hi there.I went to australia directly
after leaving school for a few months and
left my boyfriend at home.Because I was
travelling I hardly even spoke to him,we
emailed whenever I could get to a computer
and we were fine...Im back now and we're
moving in together,if you care for each
other that much you'll get through it.Good
luck.
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sh5nton
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 42 Location: western australia
Posted: 05-11-06 04:07am
Relationships are built on trust, I have
complete trust that my boyfriend would
never cheat. You should know the person
you are in love with. Are you on the same
page as eachother. Does she want a
career, to explore, have an adventure? Or
do you want to settle down? Does she want
you to go with her? Whats stopping you
from going to australia? Unless she is
going to canberra, australia is a
beautiful place. I think you need to talk
about the situation. A long distance
relationship is hard, especially with oz
being so damn expensive to fly from.
