Bridget
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:00pm
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First of all, you're a week late so go
take a test! You could be worrying for
nothing.
Second, i'm pro-choice. But not when
people are using it as their bc. You need
to grow up and take responsibilty for your
actions. If you're so uneducated about
sex then maybe you shouldn't be having it.
How about adoption? Do you know how many
women long for a baby and can't get
pregnant? Yet here you are referring to
this as your "mess". If you're worried
about your boyfriend leaving you, well
you're 15. You're not going to be
together forever and you're going to break
up eventually anyway. If he leaves you
for this, which is also his fault, then
he's a jerk and you don't need to be with
him anyway.
I think you need to take a test right
away.
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:02pm
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| alex06
wrote: | | well I dont care because its
my body and my
life |
well, if you don't want to hear people's
opinions, don't come on a public forum and
say stupid sh*t. And I can criticize you
all I want for not using birth control
once. It was stupid and now you will have
an abortion to fix this "mess". You are a
little tramp.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:05pm
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You're right, it's your body and your life
so don't come here and post and get pissed
when we tell you our opinions. doing it
leave of you don't like it!
It's unfair because you're being an
immature little b*tch and using abortion
as a way out, you're 15 but you .C.O.U.L.D
take care of this baby if you wanted to.
But you see it as a "mess" and don't want
to take responsibility. You're the one
who opened your legs so take some doing it
responsibility, don't kill the baby
because you chose not to use protection
this one time. That's all it takes honey.
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seksiHily
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:06pm
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| alex06
wrote: | | it is a mess im 15 and
pregnant come on, and I usually do use
birth control but I didnt think one time
would matter. |
freaking health class
now in magazines and television they even
tell you that it only takes one time don't
tell me that you "didnt know" take
responsibility, now I dont mean you have
to keep the child, but stop diverting
blame.
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alex06
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:08pm
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Ok im sorry im just stressin out at the
moment I didnt come on here to start
arguing with people
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:09pm
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| alex06
wrote: | | ok im sorry im just stressin
out at the moment I didnt come on here to
start arguing with
people |
well, that's what happens when stupid
people come on here and say stupid things.
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alex06
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:10pm
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Ok well all im going to say is sorry
theres nothing else I can say
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:12pm
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| alex06
wrote: | | ok well all im going to say
is sorry theres nothing else I can
say |
don't be sorry to me, be sorry to the baby
growing in your belly.
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alex06
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:13pm
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I know, I jus dont know what to do keep it
and throw me life away. Or get rid of it
and feel guilty
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:17pm
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You don't have to throw your life away,
you could give it to a family that could
love it and take care of it! And even if
you kept it it wouldn't "throw" your life
away. But "getting rid of it" as you say,
isn't the right choice. You chose not to
use birth control so you shouldn't just
have an abortion "just because" because
that's not right. There are lots of
people who want a baby, and you just want
to have an abortion because it doesn't fit
into your agenda.
Tell me how thats fair?
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alex06
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:20pm
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It isnt fair, I had unprotected sex and
now I should take responsibilty for my
actions and keep the baby. I might even
regret having an abortion anyway
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:20pm
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| alex06
wrote: | | i know, I jus dont know what
to do keep it and throw me life away.
Or get rid of it and feel
guilty |
i am pro-choice, it might not sound like
it, but I am. I understand that sometimes
it's necessary, but you shouldn't use it
as a form of birth control the way you
are. Being young and having a child
doesn't always ruin your life hun. I am
only 18 and i'll be 32 weeks pregnant
tomorrow. I even considered abortion for
a while, but I am so glad that I didn't do
it. I couldn't live with an abortion.
You have to do whatever you can live with,
but not because of your boyfriend.
Chances are that you won't be together
forever, no matter how much you think so.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:24pm
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You could keep it or give it up for
adoption which in my eyes, would probably
be pretty hard.
Good luck though, i'm glad you changed the
way you were thinking about things.
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alex06
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:25pm
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Yeh your totally right, I would feel
guilty if I had an abortion, but I just
need to get my head around things. I
think next time I decide to have sex I
will take precautions now and I always
will. Its juste telling my mum im scared
about because she sadi she would kill me
if I ever ended up pregnant
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alex06
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:26pm
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Thanks for helping me hun, you think it
would be hard to give my baby up for
adoption?
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alex06
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:30pm
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But im going now thankyou everyone for
your help and advice chat soon
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:33pm
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You're welcome
yes I do, but it may be the right
decision. If you don't think you can give
the baby the life it deserves that might
be a good choice. I just think it'd be
hard because you have a life inside of
you, growing, for 9 months, and you can
feel it kick and hear the heart beat and
you start to love it.
If I got pregnant, i'd do everything in my
power to get a job, even though you're 15
i'm sure there are some places you could
get a job? Maybe not, but there are other
things you can do to get money. But if
you don't believe you can give the baby
the life it deserves, then adoption is
probably the right decision.
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matthieusmom
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Posted: 03-14-06 14:52pm
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I was 15 when I got pregnant and it wasn't
a "mess" it was probably the best thing
that ever happened to me. And I see it
this way, if u are mature enough to jump
in bed w/someone, then u should be a
little more mature then just chosing
abortion because u think your life will be
over. Mine wasn't since I had my son it
has been the best two years of my life,
especially now when he can say "i love you
mama". Don't have an abortion just
because of you boyfriend that's a little
inmature if you ask me. So I mean think
about adoption, like someone else said
there are plenty of families out there
that can't have them and want them and
here u are just wanting to get rid of your
"mess". And as for your mom everything
will be okay. I thought my mom would kill
me too but she didn't she was beside me
the whole way and now she can't get enough
of you grandson. So really what i'm
trying to say is just because you are
pregnant you are not throwing you life
away. Don't get me wrong it will be hard
but in the end it will be all worth it.
So really just sit down and think. Oh the
boyfriend thing, as u get older there will
be plenty of men out there that will want
you if you boyfriend does decide to leave
you. But as for me we are engaged but
pleassssse just really think about this
before you jump the gun and do something u
will later regret.
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 03-14-06 15:32pm
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Omg I was about to add to the list of
health forum but im glad uve seen the
light. It only takes one time to get
pregnant, what did ya think it was a three
part deal or something geez. Ne ways if
you watched some baby creating shows or an
abortion im sure ud change your mind on
calling your baby a mess. Politically im
liberal but when it comes to abortion I
think it was one of the stupidest things
invented and should be only available to
serious cases not just girls who think
they wont get pregnant and then when they
do need a way out. This is a pregnancy
forum where lots of ladies wish they could
get pregnant and the rest of us are
pregnant and presonally I dont wanna here
anymore talk of baby killing I could
imagine being one of those wishing for a
baby reading how your gunna get rid of
something they long for. Ive heard lots
of girls on this and the teen forum
getting government housing because they
are a pregnant teen in the uk so y cant
you? Im sure if you sit down and work
things out you could raise your baby or at
least give it to a loving family. Id
rather have the heartache of knowing I did
the right thing and gave a family
something they couldnt have than knowing I
killed my baby.
(im due next weeek and im really irritable
so...)
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 03-14-06 15:41pm
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| alex06
wrote: | | yeh your totally right, I
would feel guilty if I had an abortion,
but I just need to get my head around
things. I think next time I decide to
have sex I will take precautions now and I
always will. Its juste telling my mum im
scared about because she sadi she would
kill me if I ever ended up
pregnant |
look first of all, I dont' think your mum
is going to .K.I.L.L. You. I don't
think that she would want to go to jail
because her daughter made a mistake. Ok?
If you have an abortion because you are
too afraid of telling your mum you are
pregnant....That is a choice you have to
live with for the rest of your life.
If you can't take care of your little
skoot then adoption would be your best
bet. I thinkt at people wouldn't look
down on you for that decision. There are
millions of people out there that would
love to take your "mistake" off of your
hands. You look at your skoot as a
mistake, but it's not his fault you
couldn't keep your legs closed....So grow
up and take care of the situation.
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