Why Do I Contunie to Love Him?! Posted: 03-15-06 18:54pm
Ok, so i've been with my bf for 14 months
this coming weekend. The first 8 months
of our relationship was perfect, we fell
in love and he was the best thing I could
ever ask for. So sweet and caring, don't
get me wrong he still is but a lot of
things have changed since september.
I think I know one reason why though.
September 6th I broke up with him to get
with someone else, we were arguing all the
time, dunno what I was thinking getting
with someone else, but I did. It was a
big mistake. So, I think that could be
part of his problem? Scared that i'll
leave him.
I just care about this guy so much, but I
dunno what to do. We've been through so
much together, everytime I think about it
I start crying. He's been making me cry
almost everyday, but i'm very sensitive
also. It never seems like he has time for
me either, except for evenings and some
weekends. I make time for him no matter
what i'm doing, i'll drop it. I just want
the same in return. Everytime I mention
taking a little break so I can get my caca
togehter, he starts screaming and
yelling..All that jazz.
So, what i'm asking, how should I confront
him on what his problem is? Does it sound
to you that he could still be heart broken
with what happened in september? He
always tells me i'm the problem, i'm
dumb..But he always apologizes and sucks
up.
Ohh, he was at my house a few days ago,
and I fell asleep on accident because I
was tired. He said I started talking
about my ex, telling him that I love him
and miss him. I don't know whether to
believe that or not because i've never
been told I talk in my sleep.
I'm just so confused on what to do. I
love him, but i'm not strong enough for
all this pain he has been putting our
relationship through!
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 03-16-06 14:41pm
I think you just need to ask him strait
out what his problem is with you. If he
is acting in a way that is always making
you cry(even though you are sensetive),its
wrong,and calling you dumb is not the best
thing to say to someone you say you
love.You just need to talk to him and ask
him what he wants.And if he wants you and
wants to stay together tell him he can't
act like this anymore.I have an agreement
with my bf that when we havea problem or
we fight,we talk about it once,get
everything out,and then its over,we are
not allowed to talk about it anymore.It
has seemed to work well!
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ashlee_veronica
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Posted: 03-16-06 20:30pm
When he started talking about your ex
(when you fell asleep), he could just be
fabricating it to strike up a conversation
with you about how he's feeling, or maybe
you really did talk about your ex while
asleep. Who knows. I think you need to
sit him down and have a real relationship
talk and find out how he currently feels
about what happened in september. Let him
know that you didn't cheat on him and you
didn't do it to hurt him...You broke up
fair and square because of the fighting
that was ensuing (which is a common reason
for break-ups and people needing space
from their partners for awhile)...And
don't let him call you dumb or insult you
again, because you don't deserve to be
harassed for doing what you felt was right
for you.
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~baby~g~
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Posted: 03-17-06 13:36pm
Thank you!
We started having a biiig long talk on the
night I wrote this (wednesday I believe)
all was going well, I asked him about the
whole ex thing and he told me he has
gotten over it, and we promised each other
to never talk about him again! Yay!
Then I brought up the subject of taking a
little break so I can clear my mind and
just get away for awhile...And that
started a huuuuge argument! Wow, he said
I just wated a break to get with someone
else, which so isn't true! We were
arguing until like 1 in the morning ....
And finally he just hung up on me and I
cryyed all night, it sucked!
Then thursday he was sending me txt msgs
when he got out of school and he called me
just yelling and screaming saying that I
was being so mean about something, and
that i'm just upset with him and holding
it in. Finally, he realized everything
and I think everything is okay now...But
who knows!
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 03-17-06 13:52pm
So you guys are good? Are you on a break?
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~baby~g~
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Posted: 03-17-06 14:08pm
It's not really a break, i'm just trying
to give myself a little space from him!
If ya know what I mean
:)
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ashlee_veronica
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Posted: 03-17-06 22:05pm
I think having some space would be a good
idea for both of you... He clearly needs
to stop getting so mad, you shouldn't have
to put up with that.
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