:? I am very overweight and my boyfriend
loves me. I have a hard time with this
cause I dont like the way I look so I have
a hard time seeing why he likes me. He
says he loves me for me and finds me very
pretty :?:
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 388 Location: Canada
Posted: 03-16-06 06:41am
I used to be about 100 lbs
overweight.....And that's when I met my
last beau....Lasted over 5 years. My
daughter is overweight and has a thin,
blonde green-eyed hunk who cherishes her.
There's some good ones out there and you
found one!....If I were you i'd believe
him but also work on your self esteem
cause you have to realize that your worthy
of love even if there's more of you to
love. :)
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diamondsz
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Oct 2005 Posts: 3333 Location: , Candyland-Canada
Thanks: 98
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Posted: 03-16-06 12:35pm
Every man has a preference for woman some
men like big woman some like small so if
ur man is telling u ur sexy that is the
way he sees you, I dont know how long u
guys have been together but if it has been
awhile then take his word hun. I was
really really tiny when I met hubby and
now im 30 lbs overweight not much but I
feel it and hubby loves me all the same.
If you feel insecure then work out and
stay healthy, honestly the only person who
can make u feel better about urself is
you, I had self esteem problems when I was
a teen (one of those girls who was tiny
and always felt fat) anyways I took kick
boxing and played soccer it worked wonders
I wanst skinny but toned and healthy.
Best of luck
~jess~!
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ashlee_veronica
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Mar 2006 Posts: 88 Location: New York
Posted: 03-17-06 01:17am
As long as he likes you for you and treats
you well, don't question it. What you see
in yourself is probably not exactly what
he sees in you. Don't let it get in the
way of your relationship.
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mongirl
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 93 Location: Michigan
Posted: 03-20-06 19:26pm
I agree with everyones comments. I just
wanted to say that I sort of had that
problem with self esteem but not your
situtation exactly. I was always the girl
with the big boobs and nice body and
everyone always says I am so beautiful but
I dont feel that way because I felt that
the only reason guys would talk to me is
because of my looks and not my personality
which was true about alot of them. It
sounds like you have a great guy and if he
says he loves you then I would believe
him. Best of wishes.
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ashlee_veronica
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Mar 2006 Posts: 88 Location: New York
Posted: 03-21-06 21:31pm
If he loves you as much as you say he
does, he's attracted to you in more ways
than just in the physical sense...And to
be honest, if he's a keeper, then you
want someone like him to stick
around because everyone's looks fade as
they grow older. So you need more than
physical attractiont to each other to make
it last anyway.
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bubbles9289
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 May 2006 Posts: 14 Location: england
Posted: 05-17-06 11:54am
Wow, you are so lucky, guys like that dont
come around that often. Youve found a
lovely man and you should believe
everything he says, he wouldnt be with you
if he didnt feel like that about you.
Good luck together xrx
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Honekaur
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 May 2006 Posts: 56
Posted: 05-17-06 18:29pm
Losing weight is a lot tougher then
gaining it! I gained maybe about fifteen
pounds since I started dating my
boyfriend. He can't notice it, but I
can. Don't nitpick yourself...Guys see
the big picture. They don't see the
pimple on your back, the vein on your leg
or the wart on your toe. If your boy
says he loves you, you have every reason
to believe it.
I was never really overweight but I never
had a boyfriend until after I graduated
high school. Why? It wasn't because I
was ugly, I just had no self esteem.
When I started flaunting what I had, boys
started noticing me and liking what they
saw! Confidence is sexy. Plus size
models are everywhere now...Just think
that big is beautiful because obviously
your bf does. And if that doesn't work,
try hitting the gym a few times a week.
Not only will you lose extra weight but
you'll feel a lot better and less
stressed.
