Yes, after considerable time has passed/pain subsides.
0%
[ 0 ]
No, never again.
37%
[ 3 ]
Depends on the circumstances.
62%
[ 5 ]
Total Votes : 8
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ashlee_veronica
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Mar 2006 Posts: 88 Location: New York
Infidelity In Relationships...anyone? Posted: 03-16-06 19:19pm
I'm just looking for everyone's general
opinion on how to deal with a relationship
once trust has been violated...
Can you get past it?
Can you ever trust them again?
Are there any steps that can be taken to
gain trust back?
This is something i'm sorta dealing with
right now...My relationship is more than 2
years old...He cheated during the
beginning stages, during what I call the
"just seeing each other" time... But he
slept with someone else and it's taken a
long time to move on. He's more than made
up for it...But the trust factor is still
an issue when he's out with friends or at
the bar...
I'm just wondering where everyone stands
on this topic??
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lsipes
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jan 2006 Posts: 325
Posted: 03-16-06 19:50pm
Nope. Not me. Been there, done that.
Could never trust him again. He didn't
really try to gain it back, though either.
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nightangel73
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Posted: 03-18-06 21:20pm
No way get past it. A guy cheats on me I
will break with him in less than a ny
minute.
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ashlee_veronica
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Mar 2006 Posts: 88 Location: New York
Posted: 03-18-06 22:43pm
Even if he did his best to prove himself
trustworthy again?
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nightangel73
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Posted: 03-19-06 10:03am
ashlee_veronica
wrote:
even if he did his best to
prove himself trustworthy
again?
absolutetly. Once trust is lost, it's
lost forever.
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lil_mo_7622
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Mar 2006 Posts: 11
Posted: 03-19-06 13:04pm
How long did you know about him cheating
before you carried on with the
relationship? You've been with him for
two years, I would think it would be in
the past if you already decided to move on
with the relationship. I think trust is
a major issue in relationships. If you
don't have it, then it isn't a healthy
one.
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ashlee_veronica
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Mar 2006 Posts: 88 Location: New York
Posted: 03-19-06 13:23pm
Well what happened was, he slept with
someone else about 2 months after we
started seeing each other...And then I
found out about 2 months after that. He
confessed and everything but said we
weren't officially dating, and even
thought I knew we weren't "official"
(then), I still figured he'd have enough
respect not to hook-up with somebody else.
But then he spent the next few months
trying to make it up to me and it's been
like a year and a half since then.
I feel pretty confident that I can trust
him again... I've already told him it's
not a 100%, but it's more and more
everyday.
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lil_mo_7622
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Mar 2006 Posts: 11
Posted: 03-19-06 13:56pm
If you believe that you weren't really
seeing each other, like friends with
benefits.... Then I think you should
trust him, and feel confident in your
relationship, unless he has given you a
reason to think or feel other wise.
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ashlee_veronica
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Mar 2006 Posts: 88 Location: New York
Posted: 03-19-06 14:31pm
Exactly... That's what it was... Friends
with benefits. But I had just assumed
that since I wasn't in a rush to get with
anyone else, then he wouldn't either, but
ya know how guys are..
But anyway, a few of my friends still have
a problem with me getting so serious with
him... Of course they're the ones who've
never met him, but they think that if he
did it once, regardless of the fact that
we weren't dating, then he'll do it
again...
I mean, even my parents love him and they
know the whole situation...
It's just so tough. I still get worried
sometimes because everytime I start to
assume I can fully trust him again, I tell
myself that i'm being naive.
