Pro-choice Views On Pregnancy Posted: 03-17-06 07:53am
I view abortion as much as to stop being
pregnant, as to not give birth. I'm
guessing that anyone who is anti-choice
doesn't undersand the idea that some women
would be totally horrified and disgusted
about a growth infesting their insides,
but I wonder what the views of pro-choice
people are?
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Tylanas
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Posted: 03-17-06 10:55am
I don't really ever plan on having
children myself, but the concept of
pregnancy is one that I have found to be
beautiful and as close to a "miracle" as
one can get. Obviously, I know the exact
process by which one becomes pregnant, but
it still is a truly amazing process and a
very unique way of bringing a new life
into this world.
Still, if you don't wanna be pregnant, i'm
sure it sucks mucho grande! For me, an
abortion would be for many reasons: I am
too young (in my opinion) for a child, I
am unmarried, I do not have a solid
career, home, etc, I have quite a few
years of education ahead of me (graduate
school and one more year of undergrad),
and I don't really want children any time
soon.
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Posted: 03-17-06 14:21pm
I don't really have any opinion on
pregnancy, it entirely depends upon the
woman expriencing it. Personally I do see
myself having children but I have had two
previous pregnancies and felt differently
about each. I have no right to tell other
women what to think about pregnancy and I
don't care to judge whether it's beautiful
or gross!
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Posted: 03-18-06 18:55pm
When I was pregnant, I was horrified from
the moment I discovered the pregnancy to
the moment it was ended. I felt like my
body had betrayed me and my better
judgment that we were not ready to
experience a pregnancy let alone have a
child result from one. I felt angry at
the people who make not only my brand of
pills but also the condoms we were using
at the time. Since I was vomiting
regularly, had growing acute pains in my
abdomen, my breasts hurt so badly I
considered having them removed, my skin
revolted and broke out everywhere (not just on my
face), and the pain from the location of
the pregnancy also pressed against my back
heavily. My body felt like it had been
taken away from me and it was not
responding to anything I tried to
alleviate all of my symptoms.
I sincerely felt like I had been invaded
and until I found out that I was pregnant,
I had no clue as to what it could have
been which added a terrifying dimension to
it. I was so confident that I was not
pregnant that I even told my doctor it had
to be something else, something far worst.
In addition to the simple pregnancy
test, he also ran a full cancer panel when
I insisted that I couldn't possibly be
pregnant as I took my pills religiously.
When he told me that I was, in fact,
pregnant I felt nothing but sorrow. I
knew, at that time, that the best option
for me was to obtain an abortion. Even
though I already knew this, I asked him
not to refer me to a provider just yet and
I went back home to talk to my husband.
There were no warm fuzzy moments when I
learned I was pregnant. There was cold
truth and the honesty with myself what my
choice would be.
Aside from the nausea, vomiting, pain,
breast tenderness, urinating every ten
seconds, acne, and body acne, I began
having horrible acute pains. Something
was very wrong aside from all of the
issues I was already having with the
pregnancy. Another trip to the doctor
that I already couldn't afford (at the
time I was unemployed) found that the
pregnancy was ectopic. In a way, this
gave me my first bit of real relief that I
felt during the length of the pregnancy.
There was no possible way of keeping the
pregnancy and living and our
health insurance would have to pay for the
pregnancy to be removed. Other than
relief, though, I also felt even more
threat from whatever force had taken over
my body.
After the procedure, I woke up and felt
instantaneously relieved. My breasts
were not aching as much, I did not have to
urinate every ten seconds, the pain in my
abdomen and back was blissfully gone, and
I finally felt like I had control over my
body again and I knew that my life was no
longer threatened.
Pregnancy, on the whole, I tend to view
positively despite my personal experience
with it. If another woman wants to keep
her pregnancy, more power to her. I
think that in the future if we are able to
plan my pregnancies, I might be able to
weather them better than the last one.
The amount of self sacrifice necessary to
keep a pregnancy that will not even allow
you to eat a full meal without vomiting
within the first 8 weeks was much, much
more than I was willing to give at that
time. I believe that in the future I may
be able to make peace with the invasion
that is pregnancy but we'll have to see.
The fact that I had an ectopic pregnancy
at first points to the possibility that I
may not be able to carry a pregnancy since
I have already experienced problems.
We'll see.
Peace,
jenn
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Posted: 03-19-06 05:12am
Im my own opinion, I find pregnancy to be
rather disgusting. First of all, the very
thought of having something growing inside
of my body just makes me cringe and gives
me goosebumps. The fact that this
parasitic fetus feeds off my body and robs
it of nutrients that I would need creeps
me out, and it would make me a little
agitated too (might prompt me to start
binge drinking as a way to tell the little
sack "bite me").
I have never seen pregnancy as being a
"miracle" either. It's as much of a
miracle in my eyes as having a bowel
movement. I actually wrote an essay on
this very subject a while ago - a miracle
is something unusual or incredible that
happens. If two people have unprotected
sex, there's a good chance the woman will
conceive. How can something that can be
so easily achieved (especially by young
fertile couples) be miraculous?
Also, what is so beautiful about gaining
50+ pounds, becoming too fat for all your
clothes, heaving your guts out every
morning, and just feeling miserable
overall? I know a lot of women like to
use pregnancy as an excuse to be lazy, get
fat, and gain everyone's attention, and
i'm sure it's fun. But when the child
pops out, all that fun disappears, because
the kid keeps mommy on her toes with
midnight feedings, changing, holding, and
whatever else. Mommy can't be lazy
anymore.
Like I said...I just do not see what is so
wonderful, miraculous, or rewarding about
pregnancy. It's one of my many reasons
for being childfree. I relate pregnancy
to myself and react how I would if it were
my body going through it. I don't give a
crap if other women are pregnant, but i'm
not going to lie and tell them that their
massive bulging gut is beautiful.
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For myself, pregnancy would be an absolute
horror. The idea of having a creature
inhabiting my body is like something out
of a low-budget science fiction movie.
I'm very happy for people who have chosen
to have children, and so on, but I really
wish that women wouldn't expose their
pregnant bellies. The belly-button thing
is...Ugh. And ultrasounds really freak me
out -- it is just too weird.
This isn't just humans, by the way.
Pregnant animals are just as strange. It
would be so much more civilised if we all
just hatched out of eggs.
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abio
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Posted: 03-23-06 08:00am
It's so great to find i'm not the only one
who thinks that pregnancy is sort of
gross. I don't want kids, but if I did, I
would have to adopt, I just couldn't
imagine wanting to be pregnant. When
people talk about feeling it move or kick,
I just get a bit freaked out, not to
mention the damage it does to your body.
That's why I have always been pro-choice,
because I would have to kill myself if I
was forced to be pregnant.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 03-24-06 15:16pm
Aw, i'm the only one who likes pregnancy!
Lol. Doesn't matter much; I wouldn't want
to be, and being so would be horrible for
me right now, and that's how it is.
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jenn_smithson
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Posted: 03-24-06 20:54pm
eiri
wrote:
aw, i'm the only one who
likes pregnancy! Lol. Doesn't matter
much; I wouldn't want to be, and being so
would be horrible for me right now, and
that's how it
is.
i am not negative about
pregnancy on the whole just the one that I
personally experienced. Which if
everyone had to go through what I went
through, far fewer people would keep their
pregnancies than already do!
I don't see it as a miracle, though. I
do tend to agree with cambion that
"natural" biological processes should
probably not be elevated to such a lofty
status when just about everyone can
experience it and it is a shared
experience by millions of people every
year. Nevertheless, any woman who
chooses it for herself because that is
what she wants should be supported. As
irresponsible as I think it is for women
who cannot afford children to have them, I
support their decision to do so. I also
understand that from a cultural
standpoint, having children is going to be
the biggest accomplishment for some people
which is why it has historically been
regarded so highly.
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sandyallen
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Posted: 03-24-06 21:14pm
It depends on the situation with the
pregnancy being o.K. Or not.
Cancer is not to great either but their
are times when it is ok or at least better
than the worst type , just like pregnancy.
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ElsaSchultz
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Posted: 04-08-06 19:47pm
For some reason I can't vote, so i'll just
say I am pro-choice and do not at all
think pregnancy is gross. I've been
through three pregnancies and found them
beautiful, even the one I lost.
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Mystery23
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Posted: 08-04-06 09:55am
I love being pregnant
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raziel1687
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Posted: 08-12-06 07:59am
I've never even thought of the thought of
pregnancy being disgusting. I think any
type of creature, human, cat, wild
boar...Getting pregnant and having babies
is fascinating. When I was younger I used
to be obsessed with things getting
pregnant, I would draw them and pretend my
stuffed animals got pregnant and had
babies.
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raziel1687
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Posted: 08-12-06 08:05am
cambion
wrote:
im my own opinion, I find
pregnancy to be rather disgusting. First
of all, the very thought of having
something growing inside of my body just
makes me cringe and gives me goosebumps.
The fact that this parasitic fetus feeds
off my body and robs it of nutrients that
I would need creeps me out, and it would
make me a little agitated too (might
prompt me to start binge drinking as a way
to tell the little sack "bite me").
I have never seen pregnancy as being a
"miracle" either. It's as much of a
miracle in my eyes as having a bowel
movement. I actually wrote an essay on
this very subject a while ago - a miracle
is something unusual or incredible that
happens. If two people have unprotected
sex, there's a good chance the woman will
conceive. How can something that can be
so easily achieved (especially by young
fertile couples) be miraculous?
Also, what is so beautiful about gaining
50+ pounds, becoming too fat for all your
clothes, heaving your guts out every
morning, and just feeling miserable
overall? I know a lot of women like to
use pregnancy as an excuse to be lazy, get
fat, and gain everyone's attention, and
i'm sure it's fun. But when the child
pops out, all that fun disappears, because
the kid keeps mommy on her toes with
midnight feedings, changing, holding, and
whatever else. Mommy can't be lazy
anymore.
Like I said...I just do not see what is so
wonderful, miraculous, or rewarding about
pregnancy. It's one of my many reasons
for being childfree. I relate pregnancy
to myself and react how I would if it were
my body going through it. I don't give a
crap if other women are pregnant, but i'm
not going to lie and tell them that their
massive bulging gut is
beautiful.
i never knew how having
children was a such a miracle either. It
happens all the time to millions of
people. It's not rare at all. And some
women say they felt their best when they
were pregnant. And the strange thing is
when I had to take care of a fake baby
that woke up at night in high school and
made me get not a lot a sleep, I actually
liked taking care of it, and when my
sister got hers for a weekend, I begged to
take care of hers. But I can see your
point.
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Posted: 08-12-06 20:48pm
I love it when old posts pop up
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diamondsz
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Posted: 08-12-06 21:00pm
Yep me too....
I mixed sometimes I hate being pregnant
but when you have them you almost want
them back in your belly lol..
Ill leave it at that
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raziel1687
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Posted: 08-15-06 20:56pm
diamondsz
wrote:
yep me too....
I mixed sometimes I hate being pregnant
but when you have them you almost want
them back in your belly lol..
Ill leave it at
that
are you insulting your
children by saying they are a lot on your
hands? Lol I don't get it......
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Cambion
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Posted: 08-15-06 21:01pm
At least when they're in your stomach, the
most they can do to you is kick you. When
they're out, you become a slave...You live
in a world of screaming, soiled diapers,
and four a.M. Feedings. I almost
wouldn't blame a pregnant woman for
wanting the kid to stay in utero...Almost.
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raziel1687
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Posted: 08-15-06 21:03pm
cambion
wrote:
at least when they're in
your stomach, the most they can do to you
is kick you. When they're out, you
become a slave...You live in a world of
screaming, soiled diapers, and four a.M.
Feedings. I almost wouldn't blame a
pregnant woman for wanting the kid to stay
in
utero...Almost.
*laughs* I wouldn't
blame them for feelin that way at all. I
must have annoyed/annoy my parents just as
much as they annoy me lol.
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sandyallen
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Posted: 08-16-06 19:31pm
Pregnancies are great as long as when they
are born that they are treated right! I
enjoy watching the fathers when the
mothers are in labor as sometimes you
would think they are in labor and
sometimes the mothers can be so mean and I
guess they don't mean to be but they have
set their and said that you will never
touch me again and see what you did to
meit is sometimes funny and then again
their are times that it is sad!. I used
to work labor & delivery and we used
to have some fun, we would have post
pregnancy races and have fun.
