I keep reading everyones post that are
try'n to have a baby and everytime they
take a test and its negative they say o
well. I guess we'll keep having sex its
sooo much fun! I admit it use to be.. I
love my husband to be so much..But we both
want a baby so bad that sex just isn't as
fun as it use to be. Its almost like a
chore. Maybe thats why we can't have a
baby. But how do we get over that. How
can we help not feeling that way. Every
month its the same old.. "or I think this
months it!" then i'll take the test and
negative. My emotions loss control. And
hes disapointed. What can we do?
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Abbysmom
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Posted: 03-21-06 04:39am
Maybe you need to agree to take a break
for a few months. If you both relax and
start enjoying each other again, I bet it
will happen for you. Sometimes I think
the stress of it all hinders the process.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 03-21-06 11:35am
You know,thats a really good point you got
there!
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I Know How You Feel... Posted: 03-21-06 13:58pm
Hey cogoli!
I know how you feel, cuz I am in the same
boat. Sex seems like such an effort now
that we are actively ttc.
I was told by someone, and I thought i'd
pass this on to you. You may need a
change of setting, so like going away on
vacation, for a week (when you know it's
ovulation time) and relaxing, getting away
from it all. It seems like having sex
isn't as much of a "chore" when you are
away from the everyday, and it might be
just what you need for you to actually
conceive.
My hubby and I are going away for 10 days
in april.
I hope this helps! ;-) good luck!
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cogoli
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Posted: 03-21-06 14:22pm
Maybe a vac-k would help but its so hard
finding time..He works 60 hrs a wk and im
a full time stundent. I feel helpless..
Now im having baby dreams.. My mind needs
to relax its always racing. Im so
emotional all the time. I can't even
watch the snuggle commical with dropping a
tear or two. Its even worse with the baby
johnson commical."a baby changes
everything" well im waiting and wanting
that change.
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babyblue79
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Posted: 03-21-06 14:37pm
I am laughing to myself as I write this
because you sound exactly like me!! I am
always soo emotional and sometimes I feel
bad for my hubby cuz he has to put up with
me..He tries to be supportive, but he
can't do much either to make me feel
better.
My hubby works odd shifts and about 44
hours a week and I work a normal 9-5
monday-friday. It was like pulling teeth
to organize this trip, but we somehow did
it! Maybe when it's your summer break you
can organize something...Or even a weekend
away?
Just know you aren't alone in feeling this
way. But you have to have faith. I know
it's not reassuring, cuz I hate hearing it
myself, but that's all I know to say.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 03-21-06 14:41pm
Lol,it will come when it's time! Baby
dust to you*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*!
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cogoli
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Posted: 03-21-06 15:07pm
Maybe I guess we need to try to do
something.. I feel so bad though hes just
to tried.. He works his but off monday
though firday 7-6 and saturday 7-3 its
hard to just drag him away but its worth
the try thanks guys
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Abbysmom
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Posted: 03-22-06 09:03am
Cogoli - are you still having sex just to
have sex or only when you are ovulating
and trying for a baby. You may need to
add some "stress" free sex to your life.
Lighten it all up a bit.
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cogoli
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Posted: 03-22-06 11:08am
Well I set it up a 3day getaway.. It was
easier then I thought. The only the
problem with having sex to make a baby is
that I don't know when I am ovaulating..My
period it irruglar it comes and goes as it
pleases. Thats why its so stressful
because I don't know which days which. I
guess im just going to have to try and
forget about the baby for awhile until the
stops racing.
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toocrunkfaya05
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Posted: 03-22-06 12:32pm
Hey I say yall need to relax and whenever
you do have sex dont think about getting
pragnant just think about what you are
feeling at the moment and try new things
make it fun me and my boyfriend always
roleplay which is really fun and it make
the sex really great because ur not
thinking about what if I get pregnant ur
thinking about how u are pleasing the
other person.
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cogoli
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Posted: 03-25-06 14:43pm
Oh please believe we please each other.
But its still just like we have sex just
for the thought of wanting to have a baby.
We love each other very much but im just
say'n its become a chore. But really
lately mot really I took everyones advice
and its working so thanks everyone!
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