Hey everyone! First off, i'd just like to
say thank you to all who replied to my
last post about this:) okay, I am still
having all of the same symptoms I was
having a week ago. I will repeat them for
those of you who did not read my last
post. I became pregnant on birth control
and now have an 8 month old baby boy as a
result (who I love very much). My husband
and I just recently decided to give the
pill another try. Well, I started my
pills three weeks ago and we began having
unprotected sex 48 hours after my first
pill (like the instructions suggested).
Well, just like with my first pregnancy, I
am having light diarreah, peeing alot more
often than normal, and over then last few
days, I have developed a little bit of
nausea. I also, still have that feeling
in my heart that I am pregnant. I know
that this is suppose to be a great and
wonderful feeling, but it can't be for me
now... My husband and I are not ready for
another baby (we weren't even ready for
the first). I know many of you are going
to tell me to just chill out and see if I
miss my period or not.... But, my mind is
constantly on this and I haven't been able
to get any rest. I have a few questions
that I would like to ask you guys.
1. Should I go ahead and take a test now,
sence my period is due in a week? Or, is
it possible for the test to be neg when I
am really pregnant and give me false
reliefe?
2. Should I continue to take my birth
control pills? The instructions say that
I should stop them if I think I may be
pregnant. Should i? I do not want to
harm a baby... If in fact I am pregnant.
3. What are my opions when it comes to
adoption? Have any of you ever given a
child up?
4. Should I tell my husband about this
now, or should I wait to talk with him
until I know something for sure? He
already has so much on his shoulders with
school and a wife and a child... I don't
want to put added stress on him.
Thanks so much for listening guys... I
can't talk to anyone else about this, you
guys are the only ones I can confide in:)
please reply!
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Ingi
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Posted: 03-20-06 17:23pm
I know the waiting is the hardest part.
You may be worrying needlessly.
It is too early to test. You can test,
but chances are, it wouldn't be accurate.
Wait until a few days into your sugar
pills.
Yes, continue to take your bc pills at the
same time every day. Wait until you've
tested positive before stopping them.
I don't know adoption options. Don't get
too far ahead of yourself here. Chances
are that you are not pregnant and you are
stressing yourself out when you don't need
to.
If you find bcps aren't a good option for
you, you should look into something else,
like iud or barrier methods.
Good luck.
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Rosh
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Posted: 03-20-06 17:25pm
God, you poor thing! Sounds like you need
a big hug, first off. My feeling is, if
you feel that you are pregnant, then you
probably are. You should probably stop
taking the pill but still use someother
form of birth control just in case. It
never hurts to be cautious. I don't know
about taking a preg test, tho. Can they
be accurate before your period is due?
Hope things work out for you, whatever the
outcome. Sounds like you need someone to
talk to and give you some support. If you
can talk to yuor husband, you could share
some of the load.
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candy_kissed_mommy811
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2006 Posts: 29 Location: Virginia
Posted: 03-20-06 17:37pm
rosh
wrote:
god, you poor thing!
Sounds like you need a big hug, first off.
My feeling is, if you feel that you are
pregnant, then you probably are. You
should probably stop taking the pill but
still use someother form of birth control
just in case. It never hurts to be
cautious. I don't know about taking a
preg test, tho. Can they be accurate
before your period is due? Hope things
work out for you, whatever the outcome.
Sounds like you need someone to talk to
and give you some support. If you can
talk to yuor husband, you could share some
of the load.
thank you for replying and being straight
forward with me, I don't need anything
candy coated. I think that I will stop
taking the pill but if I do that, I am
going to have to tell my husband for
sure... Because he is going to wonder why
we suddenly had to start using condoms
again. Yes, I know that you can take a
pregnancy test 2 weeks before your period
but, I do not know exactly how accurate
they are. I took one with my son, but I
can't remember how early I took it. Thank
you for the sympothy and the support.
Support is the number one thing I need
right now... B4 I drive myself crazy!
Thanks agian. I just really hope and pray
that I am not pregnant and that someone
else on this forum that wishes to be (and
is really ready for it) is.
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Rodge
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Posted: 03-20-06 17:37pm
I'm going to be horrible now and talk
about an adoption anecdote. A friend of
my mum's, who was adopted, recently
managed to track down her family. It's
all fine and dandy, apart from one thing,
which she is pretty bitter about. Turns
out she has an older brother and a younger
sister, and she was the only one adopted.
She ain't happy, and I can sort of see
why. Of course, I can see things from the
parents' side too.
I'd wait to take a test until at least
after your period's date has been and
gone. More accurate.
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wannababy25
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Joined: 29 Jan 2006 Posts: 262 Location: Near Ottawa, ON
Re: Still Happening, What Should I Do? Posted: 03-20-06 17:40pm
candy_kissed_mommy811
wrote:
1. Should I go ahead and take a test
now, sence my period is due in a week?
Or, is it possible for the test to be neg
when I am really pregnant and give me
false relief?
if you take a test now...It is possible to
get a positive result if you are preggo.
However, if it comes up negative...It's
still possible that it was too early to
test and you could still be preggo. Some
women have negative hpt's even a few weeks
after their period is late. It's because
their body hasn't built up enough hcg to
be detected or the test was not sensitive
enough. A blood test would then solve
that problem.
candy_kissed_mommy811
wrote:
2. Should I continue to
take my birth control pills? The
instructions say that I should stop them
if I think I may be pregnant. Should i?
I do not want to harm a baby... If in
fact I am
pregnant.
if you have been preggo before...You're
more likely to know for yourself if you
are pregnant now. If you have the same
symptoms and feelings...I would personally
stop taking them. You really should talk
to your doctor if possible though (maybe
even call his or her office and ask?)
candy_kissed_mommy811
wrote:
3. What are my opions
when it comes to adoption? Have any of
you ever given a child
up?
personally...I could never do it. I could
never live my life knowing someone else
was raising my baby. And lets face
it...There's a lot of really messed up
people out there. At this point too...You
have to think not just about how you and
your husband feel...But what about your
son? What if years down the road he
learns that he has a brother or sister out
there that he never got to meet? He could
end up developing major resentment towards
both you and dh for giving him up. I
think even though you're asking this...If
you have a baby already (who you probably
love dearly)...You wouldn't be able to
give up the next one.
candy_kissed_mommy811
wrote:
4. Should I tell my
husband about this now, or should I wait
to talk with him until I know something
for sure? He already has so much on his
shoulders with school and a wife and a
child... I don't want to put added
stress on
him.
nah...I would wait at least until your
period was late. No need in having him
stress over this too (could make things
worse for you if he gets upset over it and
it turns out to be nothing). If you need
to talk...There's almost always someone
here willing to listen. I really hope
everything works out for you. I wish you
the best of luck! Keep us posted on how
things turn out! :)
melanie
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candy_kissed_mommy811
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2006 Posts: 29 Location: Virginia
Posted: 03-20-06 17:43pm
ingi
wrote:
i know the waiting is the
hardest part. You may be worrying
needlessly.
It is too early to test. You can test,
but chances are, it wouldn't be accurate.
Wait until a few days into your sugar
pills.
Yes, continue to take your bc pills at the
same time every day. Wait until you've
tested positive before stopping them.
I don't know adoption options. Don't get
too far ahead of yourself here. Chances
are that you are not pregnant and you are
stressing yourself out when you don't need
to.
If you find bcps aren't a good option for
you, you should look into something else,
like iud or barrier methods.
Good luck.
hey! I'm sorry I didn't reply to you
first (i didn't see your post until I
posted the other). I hope that I am
worrying needlessly and that this feeling
of pregnancy is just in my head. I think
you are right about testing so early, I
think that I would still be worried
thinking that the test was wrong. If I
chose not to tell my husband yet, then I
have no choice but to continue the pill.
Like I said, I just don't want to harm a
baby. I wouldn't be thinking so far ahead
if the feeling I have wasn't so strong. I
thought that when I got pregnant on the
last bc pills, that I just happened to be
that 1 in how many ever that get pregnant
on the pill. I am just hoping now that my
body doesn't reject the pills or
something. Thanks so much for careing
enough to reply:)
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wannababy25
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jan 2006 Posts: 262 Location: Near Ottawa, ON
Posted: 03-20-06 17:43pm
Oh just read your last post. As for the
birth control...Just tell dh you missed
one and want to be extra safe by using a
condom. Like I said...If you think he'll
be upset over the pregnancy...You may be
better off waiting 'till you know for sure
that there's a problem before telling him.
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candy_kissed_mommy811
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2006 Posts: 29 Location: Virginia
Posted: 03-20-06 17:52pm
rodge
wrote:
i'm going to be horrible now
and talk about an adoption anecdote. A
friend of my mum's, who was adopted,
recently managed to track down her family.
It's all fine and dandy, apart from one
thing, which she is pretty bitter about.
Turns out she has an older brother and a
younger sister, and she was the only one
adopted. She ain't happy, and I can sort
of see why. Of course, I can see things
from the parents' side too.
I'd wait to take a test until at least
after your period's date has been and
gone. More
accurate.
i have heard many horrible stories my slef
about adoption. A close friend of mine
has a brother who her mother gave up for
adoption and now she is searching
constantly to find him. I can see that
side but I can also see the other side.
Many loving couples out there are unable
to have children and would love and be
able to care for a child. My husband and
I are struggling so much now that we
barely get by, I just don't see how we
would care for another baby. It seems to
just be out of the question. I dont'
know.... I feel like screaming! I am so
confused and worried! Ahhh! Anyways,
thanks for replying and giving your
opinion:)
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candy_kissed_mommy811
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2006 Posts: 29 Location: Virginia
Posted: 03-20-06 17:58pm
wannababy25
wrote:
oh just read your last post.
As for the birth control...Just tell dh
you missed one and want to be extra safe
by using a condom. Like I said...If you
think he'll be upset over the
pregnancy...You may be better off waiting
'till you know for sure that there's a
problem before telling
him.
that is a great idea! I didn't think of
that... Thanks! Now that leads me to
this question. Will stopping the pills
make my body do more funny things and will
it delay my period if I am not pregnant?
Thanks! And good luck with getting that
baby that you want:) isn't it something
how one person can really truly want a
child and another can absoultly .N.O.T
want one??
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wannababy25
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jan 2006 Posts: 262 Location: Near Ottawa, ON
Posted: 03-20-06 18:05pm
candy_kissed_mommy811
wrote:
that is a great idea! I didn't think of
that... Thanks! Now that leads me to
this question. Will stopping the pills
make my body do more funny things and will
it delay my period if I am not pregnant?
Thanks!
no problem...And yes...Stopping the pill
can make your period late. I guess it's
one of those damned if you do and damned
if you don't scenarios. But...A test
should still be able to determine if you
are pregnant around the time when your
period would be due.
candy_kissed_mommy811
wrote:
and good luck with getting
that baby that you want:) isn't it
something how one person can really truly
want a child and another can absoultly
.N.O.T want
one??
lol! How true! Well...Here's to hoping
you're not and here's to hoping I am!
Lol! :)
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rasuyoung
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Posted: 03-20-06 18:37pm
I'd keep taking the pill until you get to
the sugar pills... There are so many
cases where a woman thinks she's pregnant
and stops taking her pill when she really
isn't, but becomes pregnant by having sex
when she stops the pill because she thinks
she's prego! Does that make sense? Lol.
Awkward sentence. Good luck.
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 03-20-06 18:55pm
I would continue the pill just incase your
not and yea.. Try first response if neg
then wait abit and get another test. It
dosnt hurt to test.
