Am I Depressed? I Lost My Sense of Humour... Posted: 03-22-06 02:54am
Hi, i'm 18 and I haven't laughed in about
2 years. I fake laugh and I have the
occasional natural chuckle here and there,
but nothing has made me laugh out loud or
laugh really hard for a long time. Come
to think of it I haven't naturally smiled
a lot or been very happy for what seems
like years.
Yet I don't feel upset, I don't cry, I
don't resent anyone or anything, I don't
have any suicidal thoughts or anything...
I just feel like I don't feel much of
anything anymore.
On top of that, I haven't been able to
converse very well anymore. I used to be
a chatty, somewhat sarcastic person who
would have no problem talking to people...
But now I constantly find myself
struggling for things to say, and it's
usually obviously forced small talk. I
also seem to stutter and mix up words a
lot more (freudian slips?). This makes it
hard to meet girls, which gets
frustrating. Even getting drunk doesn't
help these problems that much.
There are a few things that I can think of
that might contribute to this:
1. I started smoking pot a few years ago,
and did it a lot over the past six months.
(i stopped for good a few weeks ago
though...) whenever I was high I would get
very introverted and would barely say
anything.
2. I've been getting bad migraines
occasionally over the past few years and
the doctor recommended that I stop
drinking anything with caffeine in it. I
used to drink a lot of pepsi and coke and
get hyper, but haven't had a drop of
caffeine in years.
3. I'm in university... So I stay up
pretty late most nights (it's nearing 3
right now). It's hard to get to bed early
with so much time 'wasted' working on
assignments and going to class, but I
still get a good 7-9 hours of sleep most
nights (late morning classes).
4. Sexual frustration... I won't go into
details.
Would any of these account for my feeling
this way? My dad is similar to me in
these regards, but I notice that he still
has his clever, spur of the moment,
sarcastic humour in tact. Is there
anything I can do?
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w0rldd0minat0r
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2006 Posts: 238
Posted: 03-22-06 16:01pm
Are u a confident person? I become
introverted too and have anxiety in social
situations
write back
gavin
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Pastah
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Mar 2006 Posts: 13
Posted: 03-22-06 16:47pm
Nah I don't consider myself an overly
confident person... But that's usually
because I can never think of anything to
say... Which doesn't really help the
confidence... So I don't say much...
Which doesn't help the confidence... So
I don't say much...
It's a vicious cycle
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Morning_Glory
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Mar 2006 Posts: 207 Location: NE Ohio
Posted: 03-22-06 22:15pm
Maybe you just haven't found anything to
laugh about over the past couple of
years?
Doing drugs and going to college, I would
think your head would be full between the
two of those things. And then to look at
the world around us these days, if you
follow the news, the war, bad things
happening to innocent, good people right
here in the us... And then worrying about
grades, getting caught with an illegal
substance, etc etc.
My brain is spinning just thinking about
it!
Personally I think that you have to be
able to laugh at your own short comings
and feel good about yourself before you
can find humor in other things. Also you
have to start enjoying the little things
and not be looking for something big to
trigger a laugh. You have to allow
yourself to laugh at life in general at
times.
But I don't think you've lost your sense
of humor, you've just misplaced it.
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w0rldd0minat0r
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2006 Posts: 238
Posted: 03-23-06 12:46pm
I am doing drugs and I am at college at
the moment I have cut down smoking weed
cos I was halucinating and finding myself
just thinking and not being social. I
have low confidence when I was a kid I
found that doing drama classes enabled me
to become more confident and be able to
use my voice more because I used to hate
speaking because I thought I had nothing
interesting to say! Thats so not true it
doesnt have to be interesting to talk and
the more you talk and develop
relationships you can then talk about
other stuff. Im not really too sure how
to help cos im in the same situation so I
will be following this closely but drama
classes does help and your never to old to
join one if I had the $ at the moment I
would
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Pastah
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Mar 2006 Posts: 13
Posted: 03-25-06 20:36pm
Wow dominator, that sounds like me to a
t.
I just quit smoking, don't think I have
anything interesting to say... Don't
usually have anything to say... I took
drama for a while, but that didn't help
cuz I couldn't ever think of anything to
do during improv =/
