Plz Help Me In Making Decision Posted: 03-23-06 22:00pm
Hi,
I am a 24 yr old person from india. As
many know arranged marriage is common
here. But talking before marriage is also
allowed. I have talked to a girl. She is
very nice person. Has very good qualties.
I know 100% she can be a good friend. I
can see she is very much beautiful inside.
But some how outerlooks are not
attracting me. But I know outer look is
going fade. My question is, is it must
that outer look should attract each other
for good marriage relation ship? I ma
confused. I could not say no...But at the
same time I could not say yes for her.
Any thoughts?
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lil_mo_7622
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Mar 2006 Posts: 11
Posted: 03-24-06 18:48pm
I married a man that I love deeply that I
thought didn't look good to me after
getting to know him, great person to be
around make you laugh just cares in a
genuine way. I think he looks sexy and
good looking now!! Lol I think you should
go with what makes you happy and looks
shouldn't matter if you love the person,
or like the person. Maybe things can
grow to be something stronger.
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Jennifer23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2005 Posts: 76 Location: Texas
Posted: 03-26-06 21:11pm
Alright ... Let's say you had a very
pretty woman (on the outside), who was
very ugly on the inside (bad qualities,
rude, no morals/values, etc.)that ugliness
will start to seep out and, although she
may be beautiful on the outside, you'll
feel very disgusted to even look at her
because she's so ugly on the inside.
Now, take a woman who's not that
attractive on the outside but is so
beautiful on the inside that she makes you
want to be a better person. That beauty
will seep (the same as the ugliness) to
the outside and you won't see the
unattractiveness that you first saw.
I believe that inner beauty is more
important than outer beauty. But, it's
just my opinion. A lot of people want or
need to have their mate look great on the
outside. I've been asked on several
occassions, "what were you thinking?" with
some of my past boyfriends because they
were so unattractive ... And my answer is
always the same. They had a great
personality, they were fun to hang around
... I wasn't looking for the way they
looked on the outside. I was looking for
the way they looked on the inside. How
they made me feel and how they treated me.
(even though every single one turned out
to be a jerk later on in the relationship,
lol.)
so, to answer your question ... No, I
don't think your mate has to look good on
the outside in order for you guys to have
a wonderful marriage. It's how you guys
make each other feel when you're around
each other. Beauty on the inside
out-weighs beauty on the outside in my
book. Good luck! :-)
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alphabeta
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Mar 2006 Posts: 3
Thank You Posted: 04-05-06 08:36am
Thanks for the suggestions. I had similar
opinion. Just wanted to confirm it. It
was very nice to hear to know opinions
from other women.
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Jennifer23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2005 Posts: 76 Location: Texas
Posted: 04-06-06 08:19am
Sure ... Hope everything works out great
for you! :-)
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alphabeta
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Mar 2006 Posts: 3
My Mom's Opinion Posted: 04-22-06 00:11am
Thanks for all suggestions. I just have
one more question. My mom is having this
opinion of outerlooks more important. I
tried to convince her. But I could not.
Is it all moms think so? Are they right
in their own sense?
