What Do You All Think????? Posted: 03-28-06 19:04pm
Okay so I am pregnant here finally. It's
also funny that my sister is pregnant at
the same time. These are going to be our
parents first grandchildren, so we are all
really excited. My sister however just
lost baby at 4 months - less than a year
ago....So she claims to be really nervous
about it happening again. I say "claims"
because she is a smoker. She quit with
the first pregnancy - but has not with
this one. Now she is mad at me because I
told her that was stupid, and
irresponsible. It started because I told
her I don't want to be around her smoking
- I am not putting that into my body. Am
I just being a b*tch....Or should I not
feel bad about not wanting to be around
her while she's smoking. She acts like
it's no big deal and tries to make me feel
bad.....
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SamanthaM
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Re: What Do You All Think????? Posted: 03-28-06 19:09pm
kb77
wrote:
okay so I am pregnant here
finally. It's also funny that my sister
is pregnant at the same time. These are
going to be our parents first
grandchildren, so we are all really
excited. My sister however just lost
baby at 4 months - less than a year
ago....So she claims to be really nervous
about it happening again. I say "claims"
because she is a smoker. She quit with
the first pregnancy - but has not with
this one. Now she is mad at me because I
told her that was stupid, and
irresponsible. It started because I told
her I don't want to be around her smoking
- I am not putting that into my body. Am
I just being a b*tch....Or should I not
feel bad about not wanting to be around
her while she's smoking. She acts like
it's no big deal and tries to make me feel
bad.....
i agree that if she was that worried she
would quit smoking. I completely
understand why you don't want to be around
her while she's smoking. I smoked for 8
years, but quit when I was 3 or 4 months
pregnant. Me and my hubby have friends
who smoke constantly and I can't stand to
be around it. It makes our clothes smell,
it makes me feel sick, and it's not good
for the baby in my belly. You shouldn't
feel bad at all! Good luck, and I hope
she quits for the sake of her baby!
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 03-28-06 19:09pm
I don't think you're being a b*tch, it's
your decision and if she wants to be
around you and smoke too then she can go
elsewhere and smoke.
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 03-29-06 00:02am
No need to feel bad. That is your baby
and your body and you have every right to
want to keep it healthy.
My parents smoked for something like 35
years and when they found out I was
pregnant they took steps to stop smoking,
and finally when I was about 2 1/2 months
along they were finally smoke free, and
still are today. Is it possible to help
your sister quit, as in be her support
system? That is if she actually wants to
quit. I know support goes a long way, and
i'm sure you would be a good person to be
her support. Especially since you don't
want to be around it for yours and the
baby's sake, and i'm sure you want to keep
in touch with your sister since you are
both pregnant! I wish you luck and maybe
your sister will quit! Who knows.
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ashleighgurl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Mar 2006 Posts: 23
Posted: 03-29-06 05:49am
Don't feel bad at all! You're protecting
your health and your child's. There
isn't anything wrong with that.
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Sunflower_pie81
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Joined: 17 Jan 2006 Posts: 5041 Location: to hell with this crap
Posted: 03-29-06 10:34am
I agree with the other posters. I lost a
baby at 24 weeks and I am really worried
with this preganacy....I am 21 weeks now.
I am really stressed about it. But I
didn't smoke, drink or do any of that
either time. Haven't really changed
anything from before but then again I
don't smoke.
You can't change her mind and make her
quite. You need to do what is right for
you. If that means staying away from her
when she smokes then that is what you need
to do. You need to do what is best for
you.
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kb77
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Dec 2005 Posts: 100
Posted: 03-30-06 14:02pm
Thanks you guys - I am sure I can try to
support her, but I am not sure that she is
ready.....I feel better knowing that I am
not just being a health forum.
