Zanny
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Pregnant And Alone, Please Help =(
Posted: 04-01-06 08:10am
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I've just found out i'm pregnant, and as
soon as I told my boyfriend he dumped me.
We had been going out for 3 and a half
years, and he suddenly decided he wasn't
ready for a baby so he left me. I don't
know what to do, I love him but I can't
have an abortion... I want this baby so
much, but I want him, too. Please help
:(
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Rodge
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Posted: 04-01-06 08:29am
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Ask .Dalicia to pin him to a wall by his
scrotum. Hell, ask anyone, we'll get a
gang together. :)
seriously, though. Ditch the fecker.
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ElsaSchultz
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Posted: 04-01-06 10:53am
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He's probably terrified. Yeah, it's a
caca t y thing he's done to you, but he
might come around. I know you're scared,
but try to hang in there. If he doesn't
call you, in a few days to a week or so,
i'd call him and ask him if he wants to
talk. Remind him that this is his baby
and it's not going to go away (unless, of
course, you've decided you do want to get
an abortion).
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Tayzia
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Posted: 04-01-06 20:42pm
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Haha, rodge. I agree, d is your girl for
that. :)
okay, well...Nothing hurts me more on this
forum then teenage girls who get dumped
when they tell their boyfriend. It takes
two, it's not only your fault!
If you have to pick between your boyfriend
and your baby, I would go with the baby*.
He's already proved that he's not afraid
to dump you, and that doesn't seem like a
very secure relationship to me.
* however, you need to make sure that
you're ready for a baby before you make
your decision! That's the most important
thing! But please don't have an abortion
or anything without thinking about your
decision.
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Lucy_16
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Posted: 04-02-06 01:45am
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Ok hun im by myself also.. And it sucks
so much.. The boy totally said wud stand
by me.. But he pissed off and seriously I
am much better by myself.. And I know it
going to be so hard for you.. But you can
do it... Just be strong.. You want this
baby do not get rid of him.Her just for
your ex's sake thats not the rite thing to
do.. You just want to make sure you and
your baby is safe... You will fine hunny
pm me if you wanna talk :)
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Zanny
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Posted: 04-02-06 12:48pm
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Thank you for your advice, all of you =)
this is really hard, the father isn't even
talking to me now and I can't get in touch
with him. I'm also bothered about telling
my mum and dad, they're gunna freak out,
they're so old-fashioned. Does anyone
have any advice on how I can break it to
them?
Thank you again, I really appreciate your
support!
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 04-02-06 13:16pm
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Whenever I have something really big that
I want to tell my family I write them
loooong letters and spill out my guts lol
I don't know if that's how you want to do
it, but that's probably how i'd go about
it, and then you could leave and give them
time to cool down, and talk it over when
you get home.
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whyte_kissez
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Posted: 04-02-06 13:31pm
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Hey there. Your going to be a great
mother with or without him. Im in the
same situation you are my boyfriend left
me after I told him that I was pregnant.
But that just shows that hes not
responsible for his actions and he can go
n f*ck himself cause me n my baby dont
need him. Its hard thinking whos gunna
help me raise my baby... But you can do
it.. Your family n friends are there for
you. I really wished my ex would just
come around n help me out cause I grew up
without a father and I didnt want me baby
to have too.. But theres just some ppl in
this world who are so immature. Well good
luck with everything! :)
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Zanny
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Posted: 04-02-06 17:55pm
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Thank you, I might try the writing a
letter thing, it'd probably make things
easier.. For me anyway! And thank you
for your support whyte_kissez, it really
cheered me up =)
i found out that my lovely ex spent the
night with a random girl in a hotel last
night, so the chances of us patching
things up aren't looking good right now!
It's all really stressing me out though,
surely that's not doing the baby any
good.. The worst part is that i'm still
in love with the b*stard.
*sigh* life can't be simple can it
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 04-02-06 17:58pm
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Life will never be simple lmao I wish it
were.
I wish I could say something to help more
=/
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Zanny
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Posted: 04-02-06 18:04pm
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Don't worry, I appreciate any support.. I
just don't wanna feel alone right now coz
it feels like I don't have anyone to turn
to... My friends are supportive but they
have no idea what i'm going through really
and it's hard for them to understand.
I'm glad I have this forum to keep me
company (wow that sounds sad) =| hehe
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 04-02-06 18:24pm
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No believe me this forum is great support
when you need it, it's not sad at all lol
i sent you a pm.
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 04-02-06 18:25pm
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| zanyzanny
wrote: | | i'm glad I have this forum
to keep me company (wow that sounds sad)
=| hehe |
it's not sad, I am on here all the time.
I have no one else to talk to except my
hubby or his mother.
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Zanny
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Posted: 04-03-06 08:38am
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Ok it's not sad.. And I didn't mean to
offend anyone by saying that!
*wishes i'd kept my mouth shut*
oh yeah.. I keep getting a strange taste
in my mouth after I eat or drink stuff..
Is that normal? It's a bit weird, and it
made my chicken noodles taste yucky! =(
hehe
i'll try not to say stupid things from now
on.. Although I can't promise anything =/
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ElsaSchultz
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Posted: 04-03-06 08:42am
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That's normal, honey. I had that taste my
entire pregnancies. It's funny though,
the minute I gave birth, it stopped.
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Posted: 04-03-06 08:50am
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You dont need him, he sounds like a real
jerk having done that. You deserve
someone who treats you better!
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Zanny
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Posted: 04-03-06 08:57am
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Thank you, i'd better get used to the
taste of it then because I have another 34
weeks to go!
And I know I deserve better, but right now
it doesn't feel like i'm gunna stop loving
him any time soon.. We used to be really
happy. He said he wanted kids in his
20s.. Well he'll be 19 and a half when
the baby is born.. Not the end of the
world for him in my opinion.. But he
still left me to do this alone.
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