Hiya, it's me on an official "sit-up" period. Thanks to everyone who posted such kind things on my other post. We're doing ok. Jemma is a delight, as are toby, rose and my husband. I'm still not sure of what to say to tobes- he understood there were two babies coming. I don't know how he'll understand what's happened. Even if I say they are in heaven- it won't make a whole lot of sense to him. Rosie-posey never really "got it" anyway so thst's actually easier.

I had a peep at the miscarriage and stillbirth forum- where I probably belong now- but I don't like it very much.

Don't get me wrong, i'm sure they are all very nice, but the whole thing is full of- "when can I get pregnant again" "whats the soonest I can get pregnant after miscarriage" "could I be pregnant again?"

it's just kind of frantic. Even if there was a possibility of my getting pregnant again (fatfamily, i'm looking at you !!) I wouldn't be anywhere near even thinking about it yet. I know everyone's different, but I think some of the people on there are still actually going through the miscarriage, and already thinking about when they can try again.

I know the forum was created so that women who are pregnant don't get upsaet by having "miscarriage" thrown in their face everytime they visit.

Would anyone mind if I continue to post here even though i'm not pregnant or ttc ??
What if I promise to post a ohoto of the magical jemma?
Deal?