After searching for answers I finaly
decided to have an abortion. I found some
help on this site but the site
imnotsorry.Net as suggested by jenn (i
think) gave me the most help. I also
found it helpful to write out everything
that was going through my mind. I was
never 100% happy with my choice but knew
it was the right thing for me to do. I
accepted that one day I might regret it,
but also I vowed that when the time was
right, I would try to raise a child in the
right environment and I could teach the
right values and give them the upbringing
they deserve. Just before my abortion, I
had the scan, it showed no pregnancy.
While undergoing other tests to see if it
was ectopic, it ruptured causing me to
undergo emergency treatment to remove the
pregnancy from my tube. I feel relieved
that my guilt of abortion has been lifted,
but I still would have gone through with
it. Im now coping with the feeling of
losing a child, whether it was meant to be
or not. I think im doing ok. The last
few weeks have been the toughest of my
life but I have learnt so much about
myself and about how it could feel to be a
parent. I definately see the world
differently and my priorities are
changing. So if I can offer any advice to
someone considering abortion I would say
its probably the hardest decision ever but
use the experience positively. There is a
lot of soul searching to do and whatever
you decide, make sure you come through the
other side a stronger, wiser and more
positive person. No experience is a bad
experience as long as you keep learning
and growing. I now truly believe that.
Good luck.X
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fmieremet
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Apr 2006 Posts: 7 Location: south africa
Posted: 05-01-06 02:10am
Hay thanks alot I really needed that! I
am going for an abortion in 3 weeeks time!
And I am very scared! Cauld you tell me
if it is painfull? And if you dont mind
cauld you tell me how they did it?
Pls help!
Thanks again! :(
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Shellyuk Posted: 05-01-06 14:32pm
I am sorry about what happened to you!
Jenn is very good on this sight! She is
great about her resarch and she too has
gone through it.
Abortion is a very difficult decision but
one that is made for not only in the best
intrests of the mother-to-be but also for
the fetus as you start to get older you
see so much soo, many so-called mothers
that should not have that right along with
the fathers and I am not talking about all
of them as there are good also. When you
have to deal with them like I have had to
it is very difficult not to say anything.
Let's just hope that abortion can remain
legal so that we may still have that right
aand the choice.
Please, do not feel bad, things happen for
a reason, how well I know that! Just do
not blame yourself, it just was not the
right time.
We are here for you(bad typing and all)!
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Moo
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Feb 2006 Posts: 1045 Location: London
Thanks: 21
Thanked:91
Posted: 05-02-06 06:13am
Shellyuk, i'm so sorry about your
experience.
fmieremet
wrote:
hay thanks alot I really
needed that! I am going for an abortion
in 3 weeeks time! And I am very scared!
Cauld you tell me if it is painfull?
And if you dont mind cauld you tell me how
they did it?
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