If you broke up with him and he slept with someone its not considered cheating

This like the .Friends episode where .Ross and .Rachel were on a break and she kept saying he had cheated on her and he kept saying, "we were on a break!!!"

apparently he loves you, he is back with you. You two are having a child together. Your only option now is either to forgive him or not. If you don't, you may as well not even be with him because it will only cause bitterness.

As far as him 'deserving' you sleeping with someone else...I find that to be immature thinking. You made the choice to sleep with someone else to hurt his feelings because he slept with someone else and hurt yours? How did that work for you?

Good luck. A lot of the anger and hurt you may be feeling at this moment might be hormones and thankfully those get easier to deal with in a few months. Sit down and talk with him. Be honest, encourage his honesty. I hope you can work this all out.

I wasn't with someone else to spite him I was with someone else to try and get on with my life however it didn't work and I took him back because I love him. I guess you don't understand the meaning of cheat to me. That is that he cheated us not on me directly because you are all right we were broke up but he cheated us he shared that one thing that we didn't have to share with anyone else and gave it away freely without really thinking about his actions and fighting for us (that he claims is his whole world). I don't expect any of you to understand the depth of our relationship and where we were at, at this point in our lives. I just wanted some advice on how to move on and try to accept what happened without feeling overwhelmed and always on edge about whether or not he is being honest about all of it. I didn't expect to get attacked.

what advise were you looking for? If you see, I did give you advise - but it seems you wanted something more and telling you that you are completely justified in your feelings. You totally are, but they aren't getting you very far and what you need to do is get past it. How you do that is up to you. I'm sorry that you are hurt but you need to figure out how to resolve the issue. Your boyfriend did what he did, it is past now. Your past and his past and it cannot be changed. You either accept it and move on together or don't accept it and be bitter.

isn't this what you said? People only commented on your own words.

If you don't want advise, don't ask for it.

Yes you are right. I guess it just hurts and in an odd sense when we got back together I did feel justified in being with someone else (he was very mad about it) but I did want to move on because at that time I didn't feel like I could forgive him because I felt he betrayed us. I understand what you are saying and you are right I need to pick up and move on. Thanks

good luck!

what are you talking about? (forewarning) i'm not attacking, i'm being honest...What you just said made no sense. And i'm sorry you can try to pretty it up now, but your original post maqkes it sound remarkably like you "hooked up" with someone else to get back at him. I'm going to paste your own words here.
You said; "...And I took him back in february after my own fling with someone else (hell I figured he deserved it!!)...".


I'm not going to argue as to whether that was immature or not. I'm just making the point that you can't blame people for thinking that is what you did especially since that is the way that you yourself portrayed the situation.

Let's get past that and get to the topic at hand. If you weren't together at the time, then this episode wasn't important. You shouldn't even be concerned about it because you said that you broke up with him because you couldn't worry about what he was doing anymore. You broke up with him. You dumped him and now you're upset because he tried to be with someone else? My advice to you is, every single time you think about it remind yourself of a few things. 1) you were not together when this happened so there was .N.O cheating. 2) you have no place to be angry because you did the same thing. 3) if you want this relationship to work you've got to learn to let some things go. 4) for goodness sake you've got a baby coming! You can't afford to be unnecessarily stressed out. If he was cheating on you now, then this would be a different story.

Let it go, girl! :lol:

thanks

i'm not going to respond to that because you don't know the whole story only my ramblings of being hurt and confused. Thanks for your advice

i love that show! : ),good luck with everything and tell us how it turns out!

that is my favorite one. Lol

doll, all I am going to say is that if you want to get on with your life with your baby and boyfriend and try to have a wonderful (non-drama) relationship, then you need to get past all of this. The stress will not help you while your pregnant. I really dont' think that he cheated on you....As you put it....But you had a 'fling' too. You took him back because you love him. Has it crossed your mind that he came back to you because he loves you? I know it hurts to think that he was with someone else, and he shared an intimate thing that he should just do with you but, as you were together but I think that it's whats in his heart that matters. A just 'sex' thing is better than an emotional one. So just chill...Breath....And try to let it go. If you never let this go...You will not be able to have a stress free relationship, and it will be harder to live with him than move on.

Give him a chance...And now that you are together, work on your relationship for the sake of the little skoot that you have made.

Good luck to you

genipher

one that I really like,i don't remember what it's called but it was when pheobe didn't know how to ride a bike so she hid the one her friends bought her under a sheet in her room! Lmao

Yeah, that is the best part. I have every season on dvd. Well all but one and two. I can't find them anywhere. I know thats a little crazy....But what can I say I love friends. I'll have to look at the boxs and see if I can figure out which one it is.....I don't think that it's on the first two though.

thank you genipher I appreciate your advice. I agree with you to a certain extent but regardless of how I look at it I do need to move on and just accept that things are what they are. Thanks again.

I don't know if you need to accept anything. It upsets you that he apparently didn't mind 'trying' to hook up with someone so soon after you broke up with him. But if drinking was involved then I don't think that it can really be used against him. The point I was trying to get across was that I think that you don't need to dwell on it because it will only begin to fester like a scab that keeps getting picked at. It tends to get worse and infected. You will infect your relationship and the scar may be much worse if not left alone. Does that make since???? Acceptance of the situation may help to a point, but getting on with your life and new relationship together you and he may become stronger than before.

I know that it hurts, and I think what hurts the most is that it happened so fast after the break up....Just try to get on with the relationship as of it was a new one and there was no past history.

Good luck with the b/f and the new baby.

Genipher

i'm only going by what you said. You missed the point that I was trying to make. Anyhoo, it isn't important. The only thing that's important right now is that you de-stress so you and your little m&m can be happy and healthy! This is definitely going to be a very different and exciting time for you! I hope that everything works out so that you can enjoy it. :o

i know what the point was, pick me, pick me, I know I know.

.L.O.L I am kidding

:lol: oh well, I guess I must resign myself to being misunderstood by everyone else but genipher :lol:

Lol I try.......This has been the most boring day here at work....I got all my work done by 10:25am. what my boss won't let me just have the rest of the day off. I would love to go home....I fell lastnight and it left a large bruise on my tummy. Went to the er last night and they saw me right away(weird huh?) and nothing was wrong but I just feel that I need to rest right now. I am soo tired. Ack