I have been dating this girl for 4 years.
Two months ago I got engaged. One of the
reasons I did it was because it was time,
not necessarily because I was ready. I
always fantasize about being single again
and about dating other girls.However I
will then think about some of the things I
love about this girl,and I cant think of
not having that in my life. Is it me
just being a typical male always looking
at the menu or is there a serious missing
link in this relationship.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 01-07-04 13:33pm
Well I think you should get it all out of
your system before its too late. It is
good to settle down, but you should not
marry if you have even one thought that
maybe "not yet". You dont want to go on
the next 5+ years always thinking, what
have I missed out on? Then it will lead
to divorce because you want out. Make
sure its what you want to do. Not just
because "it was time" thats never a reason
to get married. You marry because she is
the one you can spend the rest of your
life with. Last person you will have sex
with, the person who will have your kids
and you will wake up next to her for the
rest of your life. Make it work. Only
you know if you want to be married or want
to be single for a while longer. You need
to feel like "ive done it all, now its
time to settle down" please think very
hard about this. It is a big decision in
your life.
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purple333
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 01-07-04 13:46pm
Have you(actually either of you) ever
travelled ever had time away from each
other, time to sow some wild oats, time to
see if you really miss each other, time to
see who you are as opposed to who you
think you are or are supposed to
be????????????
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 01-07-04 13:52pm
Don't worry...Everyone goes through
this...But you have already answered your
question. You think about all the things
you love about her. This is perfectly
normal. Stick with your
relationship...It sounds like you really
love her.
