Just recently i've been seeing my
ex-girlfriend which we dated for like 6
months in the past, which was about 2-3
years ago but we ended our relationship
due to long distance. Now i've seen her
for like two weeks and we know each other
quite well and I feel that there is love
floating in the air but she hasn't
graduated highschool but I have and
currently holding my diploma in education.
I feel like i'm ready to have a baby with
her. Any advice, i'm really confused.
Thanks.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 01-07-04 13:40pm
Wait a little bit. Its too early to
already be thinking family, when she hasnt
been out of highschool yet and you two
arent that serious. Take things slow.
Find out what she wants and and what shes
looking for. You cant know all this in
two weeks. The 6 month relationship was a
long time ago and people change. She
could be different mentally and
physically. Date a while and then get
serious after youve been through alot. Do
you know what she wants to do after she
graduates? Talk with her. Things are
very different from dating and living
together. When you combine two different
lives its very hard. And then adding a
baby to be responsible for, for the next
18 years is a big decision. Think it over
and take it slowly.
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purple333
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 01-07-04 13:43pm
I so totally agree!!
take it slow, talk to her, think before
you leap & find you're in quicksand.
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 01-07-04 13:50pm
I feel you should wait. Let her get her
life situated before you move ahead. I
got preg at 16...And my guy was 23...He
was ready and I really wasn't. Now, it
worked out for us, but it was very hard.
I say wait until she graduates...Decides
if she wants to go ahead with schooling,
if she wants to just get a job, or even if
she is ready to be a mommy. But talk to
her and get her honest opinion before
making any decision.
Good luck and god bless,
jennifer
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kat6963420
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Apr 2004 Posts: 38 Location: ohio
Posted: 04-01-04 13:17pm
I say go slow. Especially when involving
a baby. Whether you think you are ready
for one or not, chances are she wont be.
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BeckyA
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Apr 2004 Posts: 3 Location: kansas
Please Listen Csolly19 Posted: 04-14-04 00:27am
I think it is great u want to be committed
and that you feel love towards this young
lady!!!!! But please listen u are what 19
now look back at just a lil while ago when
u were 17 or 18 now I know (because we all
did) you did things u regret now just
imagine being 23 or 25 looking back at 19
you are going to do things u regret it is
inevitable but baby don't let one of those
mistakes be starting a family too young
now your woman maybe a wonderful young
lady but if u start a wife out young and
she has a baby which is a stressfull
lifechanging event there is a high chance
even if she doesn't see it ahead in a few
years of playing mommy she might feel she
is loosing her young life experiences
blame herself but will resent u and she
could turn very cruel it could happen to
any young lady trust me by cruel I mean
she could stay a great mom but u will be
put on the back burner she might even
leave u or cheat on you people who feel
trapped have a nature to act out and you
could be biting off way too much with life
u have to look at all and the best parents
always seem to be that 30 plus year old
couple in the park that went to college
did their dirty secrets and lived alot
grew from their experiences and then as
knowledgable adults decided after long
consideration and after maybe getting a
dog maybe a child will or will not be
right for our life cause have u ever owned
a dog I have a dog and children and I am
not comparing by any means but the
responsibility of owning a dog if cared
for properly being a parent to a gift from
god is literally a million times more
joyful but also a million times more
stressfull
