Melissa_20
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Location: Florida
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Sry,not Pregnancy Related : (
Posted: 04-17-06 11:52am
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Hey eveyrone,ugh I need help badlywith my
boyfriend.I can't stand it anymore! We
havn't got into a fight in a while but we
got into a fight on saturday night.I don't
think you want to hear the details about
it but every single time we get into it,he
walks away and or doesn't want to talk
about it anymore.Bringing something up to
his attention that I want to talk
about(that can be done without arguing or
making it a big deal) is so hard b/c he
does either one or both of those things.I
don't know what to do.He doesn't want to
communicate about any of our problems big
or small and he wants to act like nothing
is wrong.It's like walking on egg shells
with him.I know this must have been a main
problem in his relationships but he
doesn't think he needs to change,he
doesn't even want to try.I have done a lot
of changing for him,personal choices and
also some of the way I do things.I have 2
cats and a dog,he does not like animals so
I said I would give them away.But now I
think why should I do one more thing for
him when its not evident to me that he has
done anything to change.I should probably
metion he has anger problems,and gets
angry very easily,and in no way tries to
control it,or talk about it instead of
yelling out at someone or something.I
don't know how to bring things up to him
without starting a fight. . .I need
help.Sry so looong
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 04-17-06 12:03pm
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Im sorry you two are fighting me, wish I
could say something to help =/ other than
in the pm. Hope things get better :)
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yellow ribbon
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Location: FL
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Posted: 04-17-06 12:35pm
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Aw im sorry mel guts can be such butts. I
dunno what to tell ya. Maybe tell him if
ha cant figure out how to communicate ur
relationship isnt gunna work :(
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Melissa_20
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Location: Florida
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Posted: 04-17-06 12:39pm
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And you know dani,thats the crappy thing.I
was telling terra everytime we have a
fight it feels so weird afterward and I
always feel like sometime we are just
going to break up.It seems like a no win
situation,i can't tell him how I feel
without him getting mad,and not talking
about it doesn't make it better.The messed
up thing is that in the beggining of our
relationship he was like "you need to tell
me when you have a problem,blah blah blah"
and now it's like he's done a total 360!
I so feel like crying.I was by myself for
almost 3 years,i don't want to be alone
again. . .
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 04-17-06 12:58pm
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Get a dog it could prob communicate better
:p
steven angers me off when if is my idea he
doesnt like it like last night I wanted
him to move the empty boxes out of the
house and park the cars a certain way and
hes like no I dont like it that way but u
no if it were his idea hed be all for it
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Melissa_20
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Location: Florida
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Posted: 04-17-06 13:12pm
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| macysmama
wrote: | get a dog it could prob
communicate better :p
steven angers me off when if is my idea he
doesnt like it like last night I wanted
him to move the empty boxes out of the
house and park the cars a certain way and
hes like no I dont like it that way but u
no if it were his idea hed be all for
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lol,i have a dog and she listens better
than he does.Jerrid just has anger
problems.I think whenever I want to have a
talk with him it;s about something he did
and he doesn't want to hear it.The truth
is,it .I.S something he has done most of
the time cause he's the one creating the
issues.It's not like I attack him or
anything,i just want to talk and he always
turns it into something bigger.I just wish
I could get my point across to him w/o him
freaking on me somehow.I try to just sneak
it in when it comes up and it starts out
good but then he's like "ok,it's
over,we're not talking about it anymore".I
wish he would realize talking isn't a bad
thing and it does help.Whats so hard about
that? Sry I am rambling but my best
friend is not being a best friend right
now and I have no one to talk to about
it,i have to get it off my chest! : (
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 04-17-06 13:18pm
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Its ok ramble on im sure its helping a
little
*new resolution- when he says its over
just punch and b like ok now it is
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 04-17-06 13:22pm
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| macysmama
wrote: | its ok ramble on im sure its
helping a little
*new resolution- when he says its over
just punch and b like ok now it
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you mean punch him? :?
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 04-17-06 13:34pm
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Yea sorry I was holding liam and was hard
typing with one hand
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Melissa_20
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Location: Florida
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Posted: 04-17-06 13:58pm
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Yeah right,i don't know if he would hit me
back or not
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 04-17-06 14:04pm
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Oh you dont want it to become violent
aswell. Could you arrange a time to go
out somewhere quiet away from distractions
like tv, friends etc, where you can both
talk and listen?
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 04-17-06 14:11pm
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If he hits u back mel ill kill him!
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Melissa_20
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Location: Florida
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Posted: 04-17-06 14:21pm
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: )thanks d.I think that though b/penis,we
have only been together for about 31/2
months and he use to drink a lot.Well
everytime he would drink he would get piss
a$$ drunk and be an problem to me and yell
and scream and b*tch about my animals,and
blah blah blah.Well the last time he got
wasted was on st. Patricks day.We got
home and we were fine.He went to kiss me
and my cat sniffed him in his ear.He
grabbed him and threw him so I yelled at
him (my animals are my babies : )) and he
was slurring saying "i'm over here trying
to make passionate love to you and your
doing it cat is sniffing in my ear" we
started to argue bad.He walked out and put
my dog in her cage.By this time I was
crying and I took her out,put her in the
room with me and locked him out cause he
was screaming in my face.He kept banging
on the door and yelling that he was going
to call the police and call the front
office to have me kicked out(i'm not on
his lease) so I opened the door and he
yelled at me so I screamed in his face and
he came at me and sat on me while holding
me down on the bed and screaming in me
face.Luckily his dad was there to get him
off of me but it was scary.I thought about
leaving him a lot after that but it
gradually got better and he promised me he
wouldn't drink anymore,and he hasn't.Uh,i
don't know what to do dani. . .
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 04-17-06 17:44pm
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Mel he sounds like a butt. Drunk or not
no one should ever do that 2 you. You
deserve better. You dont need him, im
sure you can find someone who knows how to
treat you right.
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DylanJacob
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Posted: 04-18-06 05:03am
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| macysmama
wrote: | | mel he sounds like a butt.
Drunk or not no one should ever do that 2
you. You deserve better. You dont need
him, im sure you can find someone who
knows how to treat you
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i agree completely... Hugs mel.
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Melissa_20
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Posts: 6806
Location: Florida
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Posted: 04-18-06 06:25am
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Thanks guys.Well it looks like I will be
getting rid of my cats anyway.They peed on
the brand new suede(sp?) couch last night
but jerrid doesn't know about it.Man if he
did he would turn in to the the incredible
hulk or something he would he would be so
mad.Well his dad told me they did it a
couple of weeks ago too but he didn't say
anything,he just cleaned it up.He didn't
want to say anything cause he know j will
shoot through the roof.I am going to go
home around lunch and try to clean it up
and have my sisters take the cats to the
humane society.Ugh,i so hope I can get it
cleaned up,god please let me be able to
clean it up!!!! : ( he is gonna kill me
if he finds out!
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 04-18-06 09:31am
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Aw it isnt your fault that happened. Hope
hes not too mad with you.
Dogs are better than cats anyway lol
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Melissa_20
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Location: Florida
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Posted: 04-18-06 09:38am
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| allie_18
wrote: | aw it isnt your fault that
happened. Hope hes not too mad with
you.
Dogs are better than cats anyway
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well hows this,he's not going to find out!
:d I talked to my dad (he use to work at
a furniture store) and he tols me how to
clean it up.He also gave me this
protectant to spray on the couch so it
couldn't get anymore stains on it or
anything.He said if the smell of the pee
is there or shows up after a while,the
smell of the couch spray will kill it and
cover it up,cause its a protective
coating.He is going to be home late
tonight so I will have more time to clean
it thank the lord! Praise to jesus!
Lol,seriously though lmao! I love my dog
and he could never make me get rid of
her,.E.V.E.R! : p
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 04-18-06 09:45am
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Praise the lord!! ...Lol thats really
good though!
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Melissa_20
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Location: Florida
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Posted: 04-18-06 11:24am
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Damn,i can't go home for lunch! Well I
guess that means I can tell my boss I need
to go home early to clean up cat pee!
Yay!
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