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Q: Selfish Or Not?? I Feel Terrible!

asked by: Uniquecc on January 6th, 2004

Experienced User

I really want to have another child. My first born will be five years old on the 18th of this month. I really went through some depressing times after I had him. I felt so unhappy with the way I looked after giving birth. My stomach was so jelly like, my boobs sagged all the way to my stomach, I have stretch marks all over my body. It took me a long while to get back to where I feel a little more comfortable with myself. I had to take depression pills and I am so scared of feeling that way again.
There are no other worries I have other than that. Am I being selfish? Should I really be thinking of my child to be other than myself? What should I do?

Replies(4)

ThatGurlAj

replied on January 6th, 2004

New User

Same Here

I actually know where your coming from.No, I don't think your being selfish.I've felt the same way I mean especially after having a baby u want to look and feel the same way b4.I guess it's just a part of life,either u deal with it or do something about it.When it comes to things like this u have to be your best in order to give someone the best.If your feeling down in the dumps your not gonna wanna do anything.Having another child would be too much 4 me,because of how I felt during and after my pregnancy,and to be honest I dont want to go through that again.

Uniquecc

replied on January 6th, 2004

Experienced User

I Thought I Was the Only One

I guess I felt extra bad because I thought I was the only one feeling this way. In my case, I was a teen mom. I had my son at 17. I used to model here and there. So after I had my son, I guess I thought I would go back to normal. I was wrong. I actually stayed the same weight (103), but had all the other problems I mentioned. I'm still so confused!!

DismalEuphoria

replied on January 7th, 2004

Experienced User

All of those symptoms are normal, and it is probably more abnormal not to have them!!! Don't you remember how much joy you felt when you first felt a kick, or seeing your baby for the first time? It's a beautiful thing, even though you feel less than beautiful at the time! If you really want another baby, go for it! You can always work on your physical appearance afterwards, you won't stay that way forever, and you won't always be able to have a baby forever! Goodluck!

Uniquecc

replied on January 7th, 2004

Experienced User

Your right. I'm sure there's lots of people out there that wish and would love to give birth to there own child. But can't, due to age or health problems. And here I am worried about the way my body will look afterwards. But it's true, this is the way I feel. I'll just take it day by day.
Thanks.

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