Friend Drinking And Doing Drugs While Pregnant

Wow,thank god for that,at least the kid had a chance! I think she should call the police and ask them.

My friends x got caught with crack just a month ago and she admitted to the cop she had been smoking it earlier and they were going to keep her in jail but the idiots did the drug test 2 days later and nothing showed up so they let her out on bail.She admitted it,that should have been enough

Bleh. Your friend is very stupid. I honestly don't think presenting this information to her will do any good (but you can try if you want) if she is old enough to get pregnant she is old enough to know what what she is doing is irresponsible and selfish. In today's day and age there is no way that you could not have a clue that smoking, doing drugs and drinking don't have extreame negative effects on unborn children. She is just stupid for thinking that she's special in some way and she can have her cake and eat it too.

I would either call cps or your local police station. I know you may not want to go that route, but if she hasn't listened to what you guys have said before I am positive she wont listen to you now. People like that need something .D.A.R.A.S.T.I.C to change their behaviour. Maybe a visit from a social worker or a cop will do that too her. Plus they can't tell her it was you that called in and filed the complaint, so she'll never know.

I wish you luck terra on helping her out and getting through to her. :et me know if you need any help. You know my email if she ever needs to talk to someone.

Aw thanks, you guys are helping a lot. So what should I say when I call? Just tell them shes doing drugs and drinking and smoking still? She really doesn't deserve this baby

He!! Yeah,i would tell them everything she is doing and include the fact that she is underage to be doing any of that sh*t!

Yeah i'd just tell them that you know your friend who is pregnant (tell them how far along she is) is drinking and doing drugs for a fact and that she is underage and for the well-being of the child and her you want to know if they can do anything.

Also if you know she is going to some big party where there'll be lots of underage kids and drugs and drinking, you could "tip" them off (if your calling the police). They by law can't tell her it was you who called. But the police to bring her ina nd charge her will need to find something on her. They just can't take her in. But it's worth a shot. They'll atleast call cps.

Yeah I agree with kimmeh all the way.I think you would be doing the right thing for her and definetly for the baby!

Definitely do this!

Someone has to look out for this kid - and it don't look like it's gonna be the mom.

Brave thing to do, hope it helps. Goodluck!

I am not sure about the whole party thing, I wouldn't get a whole bunch of people in trouble because of one person. I am not against them having fun. I just think that you just need to give them a tip and let the athourities know that she is doing this stuff. If she has a b/f let them know that he does this too. She should not have this kid and to help him/her have a good life you need to do something. It won't change after the little skoot is born and that is perfectly clear now.

Good luck and keep us informed.

Gen

I know two people who drank and did drugs while they were pregnant. The first sounds like your friend. Her baby ended up being born with all kinds of illnesses and disabilities and ended up dying when she was 9. Very very sad. Of course, her biological mother gave her up for adoption after she found out all that was wrong with her. She just couldn't handle a child like that, you see.

The second one is a friend of mine who smoked weed throughout her pregnancy. Her baby was born with a minor lung problem and had to stay in the hospital for a couple of weeks (though he was full term) and now he might be diagnosed with something else. He's very small for his age and has very large, low set ears.

Babies with disabilities are blessings, just as babies without disabilities are, but it is much more difficult to take care of them. Your friend, selfish as she is, might want to think about that.

She wont care until she sees that baby and finds out all the things that are wrong.I bet she will want to give it up and continue to 'party'.

Yep thats exactly what I was thinking, shes so pathetic. We were even talking about it today, just not in the context of what could happen. She was just like "drugs aren't bad its just how you use them blah blah blah, nobodys gonna tell me what to do im .Stevie .Chelle. Mother f*ckin .Thompson" thats what she says all the time, she thinks shes a god or something. Shes not my friiiiiiiend, but my best friend hangs out with her so shes around ya know?


And then she was saying "i cant imagine what its going to be like to hold my baby, something that my body created. And she started crying, I know she loves the baby already but I don't understand people who drink and stuff while theyre pregnant. Blaaaaah I just wanna take her baby and take care of it myself id be a better mommy lol

My 10 yr old neighbor would be a better mommy!

I can tell you now that your friend's friend isn't thinking of the way things are going to be if her little skoot is born with disabilities. And on the same token I dont' think that she realizes that when she holds her baby once she is probibliy going to be tired of it the next day. You know???? If she can't control herself right now she isn't going to be able to control her and her baby once he/she comes. Having a baby is a wonderful thing but taking advantage of it ruins the whole thing. Babies dont' change things that are already bad for the good, if anything they tend to make it worse. That is why a lot of men can walk away from a baby and not think twice about it. We ladies have a little baby in us and we tent to become attached to it and we change because we know we have to in order to make the baby survive. Just because your friend can't wait for her little skoot, it doesn't mean that she is going to change once he pops out. She will get tired of him/her and once she does something bad can/will happen.

If you are comfortable interveining on this baby's life then kudos to you.

Genipher