Come Off It - It Aint That Small! Posted: 04-18-06 17:31pm
I'm slightly confused by my girlfriend.
She recently confessed that she wishes I
was a bit wider and longer. I am 5.5"
erect and im not sure about the girth but
it looks in proportion to be honest. From
what I have read I have always considered
this slightly below average, but not
exactly tiny.
What confuses me is that she has
practically no interest in foreplay, and
whenever we have sex she just wants me to
put it straight in and hammer away.
Considering what I have read about what
women like about sex, I find this bizarre.
I mean, has she always been really lucky
with boyfriends in the past (in terms of
size) and found a large penis just
shagging her for 15 mins (a good duration
she cited) to be enough to climax? It
seems this is not the case with me, and
has caused me to become anxious when we
have sex and get limp dick a lot.
Hard and deep is all it seems she likes.
Am I just unlucky that this is the only
thing that turns her on? Or, has she just
never experienced good oral sex, gspot
stimulation, slow foreplay build up, and
better use of positions etc...? I've
never really done these things with her,
but only because she just wants to shove
it in and get going
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Human
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Sep 2005 Posts: 89
Posted: 04-19-06 10:28am
Every girl likes it hard and deep however
most girls also like foreplay. Your dick
ain't small its average so don't worry
about it and I highly doubt that another
guy can make her cum just by having a
bigger penis and going deep.
One pointer I can give you though is if
say she's on top facing you. If you grab
her ass cheeks and spread them it'll cause
her vagina to shorten allowing you to go
deeper. This works for any position
obviously, try that its actually pretty
effective.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 04-19-06 12:26pm
Coming from a girl I like it when my man
goes slow at first but then just goes at
it hard and fast! So it;s not just her.I
think my b/f is about 6 hard and he is
fine for me and i've had larger guys
before,so size doesn't matter in my case
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ElsaSchultz
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Mar 2006 Posts: 118
Posted: 04-20-06 11:11am
Why the hell would your girlfriend tell
you this, anyway? It's not like you can
do anything about it. Did you say
something offensive to her?
Your penis sounds average to me and
average is nice. Maybe her first sexual
experiences were just the wham bam thank
you mam types so she is now turned on by
that? Maybe if you tell her you'd really
like a lot of foreplay, she'd do it and
learn to love it?
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dekemc
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Apr 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 04-21-06 04:18am
Well, we are not together now
(suprisingly!) I did push her on the
issue, because sex just didnt seem to
interest her that much in the end - but I
guess it is still a very cruel thing to
turn round and say that i'm not big
enough. It's hard because I always
thought she was a better person, and she
claimed that she loved me more than anyone
before
i think deep down I was always intimidated
when we had sex because she has had more
regular sexual partners - this usually
meant I wouldn't be fully hard or would
lose my erection a bit.
Maybe I am just unlucky and it was a
combination of her being a bit bigger than
average and me being a little smaller.
The fact that foreplay doesnt seem to
appeal to her just seemed to make us
completely incompatible in bed.
I would have done anything at all to
please her, but there was just no
communication whatsoever (or patience,
really)
unfortunately, it has left me with my self
esteem at an all time low
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everglide
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Apr 2006 Posts: 13 Location: Kent
Posted: 04-21-06 05:11am
:( sorry to hear that, at the end of the
day if she just wanted the sex, then in my
opion shes wasnt worth it, I kno sex
sometimes plays a huge part in a
relationship, but if u wanted something
seroius and she just wanted sex, well tbh
your better off without her.
At the moment your probly thinking your
not better off without her, but if it was
purely about the sex for her. And
nothingl ong term (which I think u
wanted?)
well as I said, you'll realise that it was
maybe for the best. Now get out there and
find a new girl. Its very hard , I know
:o but apprently girls want a guy more
than we want them, personally I dont think
that thats possible, but chin up mate
(i hope everything I said made sense :s)
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dekemc
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Apr 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 04-21-06 10:21am
That's the worst thing - she never just
wanted the sex. In her own words she
describes me as perfect and we were
together a year before anything went
wrong. Obviously though this is one part
of the jigsaw that is missing.
It just seems a bit odd that considering
how she claims to feel about me, she hasnt
talked or made more of an effort to work
around the fact that I am not quite as big
as she would like.
Apart from seriously suggesting surgery
(she is obviously so naieve)
