Me And Daddy Are Arguing Over Find Out the Sex! Posted: 04-23-06 21:48pm
My boyfreind and his whole family want me
to find out what i'm having. I feel like
it is opening the present early. Me and
him keep arguing (discussing) the topic.
Is it wrong for me to keep him from
knowing? Whats 4 more months going to
hurt anyway! I know if he finds out I
will end up finding out. He can't keep
anything from me and even if he does as
soon as he tells his mom (the biggest
gossip queen in the world!!) everyone will
know! Tell me what you think! Is it
wrong for me to make him wait or do I risk
going against what I really don't want and
end up finding out. He says he wants to
know because of the clothes. But I figure
we tell the people not to get us clothes
at the baby shower. And to buy a few
neutral outfits beforhand and then buy
more (send grandma out to shop!!) after
the baby is born. He doesn't understand
why I don't want to know and says it's
wrong for me to keep it from him.
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shuna
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Apr 2006 Posts: 21
Posted: 04-23-06 22:55pm
It is your choice as to whether you find
out the sex or not. If you do not want
to do so, and it appears that you do not,
then don't.
Although I did find out the sex of my
9-year-old twins at 25 weeks, we didn't
know the sex of my baby girl until she was
born. It was quite a thrill to have the
doctor say, "it's a girl." we bought a
few white, yellow, and green
gender-neutral outfits beforehand as well
as some white onesies and socks. It was
nice to do the shopping for her when we
could actually see her and figure out
which colors went well with her coloring.
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Angelfanmom
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 121
Posted: 04-23-06 23:19pm
My husband and I had the same debate. He
really wanted to know what we were having.
I was on the fence.
I am the kind of person that snoops for
their christmas presents so I realized I
was not going to be able to wait to find
out what we were having.
We are having a boy and I was glad we
found out.
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justacanadiangirl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 04-24-06 01:20am
My boyfriend and I are the same way.
Whenever we discuss it, he says he doesn't
wanna know, but I do wanna know. I just
can't wait... I'm impatient lol
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~rubmybuddahbelly~
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jan 2006 Posts: 752 Location: :( N.O. Evacuee now in TEXAS
Posted: 04-24-06 14:39pm
Your boyfriend could find out and you dont
have to. The ultrasound tech writes in on
a piece of paper and gives it to him. He
can tell who ever wants to know and just
remind them that you don't know and you
don't want to know untill baby is here.
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QueenBee2_3
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jan 2006 Posts: 194 Location: CT U.S.
Posted: 04-24-06 14:41pm
We had an agreement with our first
pregnancy. He wanted to find out so
badly, and .I didn't, so .I told him if he
let us keep the first pregnancy a surprise
we could find out with the next
pregnancy/ies.
If one of you doesn't want to find out,
it's just common courtesy and respect to
the person who doesn't want to know. If
you wanted to know and he didn't, being a
good partner would mean you shouldn't find
out. He needs to give you the same
respect. The rest of "his" family
doesn't factor into the decision, they
have no say.
Tell them that the ob office has a policy
of not telling gender for fear of lawsuits
or something. My cousin's office refused
to tell her gender without a written and
signed legal waiver.
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Sunflower_pie81
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jan 2006 Posts: 5041 Location: to hell with this crap
Posted: 04-24-06 16:35pm
I agree his family doest' have a say in if
ya'll find out the sex of the baby.
Maybe you guys should have the tech or the
doctor write it on a peice of paper and
have them seal it up in an envelope and
when you guys get home you can make the
decision yourselfs alone. If you decide
to know then open the envelope, if you
decide later down the road then open it.
But dont' let anyone push you into
something you don't want to know.
(make sure the dr/tech hands it to you.
Not him)
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erinjacob
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2006 Posts: 219 Location: australia
Jess Posted: 04-26-06 03:47am
I found out with both my babies but the
second baby at 36 weeks they said he was a
boy not girl so I didnt tell any one you
should have seen my partners face he
thought we got the rong baby or there was
still another one cumin it was pricless
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Tess B
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2005 Posts: 80 Location: Aberdeen
Posted: 04-26-06 06:07am
I had the same problem but it was me that
wanted to know, I think i've said before
when I went for my 20 week scan there were
signs up saying to to ask about the sex of
your baby because your request will be
declined! I found out later that people
still ask and get told but I was too
scared incase they shouted at me! Lol
i
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OaTmEaLfAiRy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Oct 2005 Posts: 192 Location: Iowa
Posted: 04-28-06 01:22am
This same question has come up in a "what
if?" 'session' of mine. If I were
pregnant, would I want to find out the sex
or not? So it really was one of these
debates, but with myself rather than my
significant other.
My mother pointed out that you can not
find out, but buy things for both boys and
girls (i like oranges and greens for a
baby anyway, so the whole sage/unisex
thing would work for me). You can always
take back the blues or pinks for the baby
you don't end up with.
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