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Q: Me And Daddy Are Arguing Over Find Out the Sex!

asked by: so_n2_u1116 on April 23rd, 2006

New User

My boyfreind and his whole family want me to find out what i'm having. I feel like it is opening the present early. Me and him keep arguing (discussing) the topic. Is it wrong for me to keep him from knowing? Whats 4 more months going to hurt anyway! I know if he finds out I will end up finding out. He can't keep anything from me and even if he does as soon as he tells his mom (the biggest gossip queen in the world!!) everyone will know! Tell me what you think! Is it wrong for me to make him wait or do I risk going against what I really don't want and end up finding out. He says he wants to know because of the clothes. But I figure we tell the people not to get us clothes at the baby shower. And to buy a few neutral outfits beforhand and then buy more (send grandma out to shop!!) after the baby is born. He doesn't understand why I don't want to know and says it's wrong for me to keep it from him.

Replies(9)

shuna

replied on April 23rd, 2006

New User

It is your choice as to whether you find out the sex or not. If you do not want to do so, and it appears that you do not, then don't.

Although I did find out the sex of my 9-year-old twins at 25 weeks, we didn't know the sex of my baby girl until she was born. It was quite a thrill to have the doctor say, "it's a girl." we bought a few white, yellow, and green gender-neutral outfits beforehand as well as some white onesies and socks. It was nice to do the shopping for her when we could actually see her and figure out which colors went well with her coloring.

Angelfanmom

replied on April 23rd, 2006

Experienced User

My husband and I had the same debate. He really wanted to know what we were having. I was on the fence.

I am the kind of person that snoops for their christmas presents so I realized I was not going to be able to wait to find out what we were having.

We are having a boy and I was glad we found out.

justacanadiangirl

replied on April 24th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

My boyfriend and I are the same way. Whenever we discuss it, he says he doesn't wanna know, but I do wanna know. I just can't wait... I'm impatient lol

~rubmybuddahbelly~

replied on April 24th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

Your boyfriend could find out and you dont have to. The ultrasound tech writes in on a piece of paper and gives it to him. He can tell who ever wants to know and just remind them that you don't know and you don't want to know untill baby is here.

QueenBee2_3

replied on April 24th, 2006

Experienced User

We had an agreement with our first pregnancy. He wanted to find out so badly, and .I didn't, so .I told him if he let us keep the first pregnancy a surprise we could find out with the next pregnancy/ies.

If one of you doesn't want to find out, it's just common courtesy and respect to the person who doesn't want to know. If you wanted to know and he didn't, being a good partner would mean you shouldn't find out. He needs to give you the same respect. The rest of "his" family doesn't factor into the decision, they have no say.

Tell them that the ob office has a policy of not telling gender for fear of lawsuits or something. My cousin's office refused to tell her gender without a written and signed legal waiver.

Sunflower_pie81

replied on April 24th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

I agree his family doest' have a say in if ya'll find out the sex of the baby. Maybe you guys should have the tech or the doctor write it on a peice of paper and have them seal it up in an envelope and when you guys get home you can make the decision yourselfs alone. If you decide to know then open the envelope, if you decide later down the road then open it. But dont' let anyone push you into something you don't want to know.

(make sure the dr/tech hands it to you. Not him)

erinjacob

replied on April 26th, 2006

Experienced User

Jess

I found out with both my babies but the second baby at 36 weeks they said he was a boy not girl so I didnt tell any one you should have seen my partners face he thought we got the rong baby or there was still another one cumin it was pricless

Tess B

replied on April 26th, 2006

Experienced User

I had the same problem but it was me that wanted to know, I think i've said before when I went for my 20 week scan there were signs up saying to to ask about the sex of your baby because your request will be declined! I found out later that people still ask and get told but I was too scared incase they shouted at me! Lol

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OaTmEaLfAiRy

replied on April 28th, 2006

Experienced User

This same question has come up in a "what if?" 'session' of mine. If I were pregnant, would I want to find out the sex or not? So it really was one of these debates, but with myself rather than my significant other.

My mother pointed out that you can not find out, but buy things for both boys and girls (i like oranges and greens for a baby anyway, so the whole sage/unisex thing would work for me). You can always take back the blues or pinks for the baby you don't end up with.

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