Erection Difficulties- Please Help Posted: 04-24-06 21:07pm
Hello fellow members
i have a erection problem - sort of speak
- which i've been living with for about a
year and a half now. The problem with me
is this. I can get a great erection while
masturbating, and maintain in during
masturbation until ejaculation. During
sex I am very unstable. Basically, I have
never been able to have sex with my
girlfriend for more than 4 minutes. The
problem isn't that I ejaculate too fast, I
basically loose my erection when i'm
inside of her. Thankfully, I don't have a
"size" issue, because i'm fairly well
established in that region, so i'm hoping
this is a psychological issue rather than
medical. I have only tried having sex
with her about 4 times during our 8 month
relationship (i'm 22 years old) she now
understands that we need to work this
problem out together.
Here are some of the questions I would
like to ask to other guys - maybe this
will prove my theory that this problem is
in my head, I would really appreciate any
replies, as this is very important to me.
Here we go:
1. During masturbation, when you are in
the "middle" of the self-pleasuring, when
you stop "stroking off", how long does it
take for you to loose an erection?
2. This is regarding the first question:
when you stop stroking off, does your
body's position have any influence on how
fast you loose your erection?
The reason i'm asking those first is
because I think that I may loose my
erection pretty fast when I masturbate, 15
seconds and I start loosing it. When i"m
standing, sometimes it is even 10 or less.
Other questions regarding sex:
3. Precum - I get pre cum early during
foreplay not that much, sometimes it
leaves a small stain on my boxers.
Sometimes I pre cum even during
conversations with my girfriend,
especially when we're talking sex. Does
anyone else get that?
4. During sexual games in bed - 2 last
times we started up with oral sex - when I
get undressed and undress her, I don't
always get an erection, i"m flacid, and
then when I start giving her pleasure, I
get an erection... For a while. Then,
the moment I stop, I maintain it for about
20-30 seconds and I loose it again. Then,
when I give her head again (yeah, that
happens often) I get an erection again,
only to strangely loose it when i"m done.
Does anyone else get that? Should I get
an erection at the very begining of the
foreplay and maintain it?
5. I have a feeling that the erection I
get during masturbation is different than
the one during sex, foreplay. During
masturbation I have much more feeling than
during sex. During masturbation, I don't
have precum- maybe untill after about 20
minutes right before cuming. During sex I
get pre-cum very early, and I barelly feel
my erection. I somehow know it's there, I
can see it, but when my gf strokes me off,
and when i"m in her (for those few
minutes) i'm excited but I just don't have
that much feeling there. Does anyone else
have that? Is that normal?
6. Last question. When I masturbate, I
get an easy erection and have absolutely
full control of ejaculation, I used to use
too much pc muscle and ejaculate much
faster, but I overcame that and now i'm
100% in control. During sex, just like
with the odd erection instability, I have
problems ejaculating, and very often,
after so many ups and downs, I have to
work really hard (myself, my gf just can't
do it) on my penis to ejaculate, usually
in a semi flacid state. Can someone tell
me what is up with that?
Thank you so much for your input and I
really hope your answers help me figure
out how to solve this. I have read
something about venous leakage and the
posibility of me having this, but 1 doctor
which tested me said that I have no venous
leakage anywhere. I'm confused, please
help me!
