No Orgasm Through Intercourse Posted: 04-26-06 13:33pm
My girlfriend has only orgasmed once when
she was on top and again when she just
slid back and forth on my penis with her
on top. My question is how can I get her
to have an orgasm through penetration more
often? She orgasms everytime through oral
sex and when I use my hands. Is it normal
for a girl to not orgasm through sex? On
occasion ive held on for a very long time
and she still didnt seem near to orgasm
before I couldnt hold on any longer.
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Kia
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Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 04-26-06 14:19pm
Very common for penetrative sex to not
bring a girl to orgasm.
Most women need clitoral stimulation to
bring them to climax, hence why you
succeed with oral and with your hands.
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awkwarddepressed
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Mar 2006 Posts: 70
No Orgasm Through Intercourse Posted: 04-26-06 14:24pm
Does this fact make intercourse any less
pleasurable? Most of the time she likes
it hard and fast, is this a sign that she
just wants me to get it over with because
shes not really into it? I dont think
this is the case but I want a womans
opinion. She says giving me oral doesnt
do anything for her so I was wondering if
penetration wasnt doing anything for her
either in which case my penis has zero
value in the equation.
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Kia
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Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 04-26-06 14:57pm
Aw bless you - no it doesn't make
intercousre less pleasureable - it just
means that intercourse is not the be all
and end all of sex.
It is part of a team with your hands and
mouth.
Some girls find giving head erotic some
don't - personally I vary depending on my
mood.
Foreplay with out penetration is kinda
teasing but penetration without foreplay
is useless and foreplay is a bit
misleading because it doesn't have to be
all done before hand.
It can and should be used during and after
depending on what works for your girl.
To get a good idea of what she wants (if
she is willing to play a bit) is tell her
that you are her love slave for the
evening (or morning/afternoon) and that
you will do as she pleases (state your
objections if you have any).
So if she says she wants you to play with
her clit ask her how she wants it - soft
and gentle - up and down - round and round
- intense and hard.....
The list is endless!
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amaranthine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Apr 2006 Posts: 5
Posted: 04-30-06 19:17pm
Alright, here's some information for you.
Most women do not experience orgasm
through penetration. The vast majority of
orgasms women experience are clitoral.
One other thing; women do not need to
orgasm in order to experience sexual
fulfillment (but that doesn't mean that
you shouldn't bring her to orgasm in the
ways that you've been able to in the
past). Good luck!
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azgirl16
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2006 Posts: 9
Posted: 05-01-06 15:52pm
I've never come to orgasm through
intercourse, though I have many times
through oral
i still love having sex, though, sheerly
for the closeness and feeling it brings,
even though I know maybe I won't come,
it's still very very enjoyable :)
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doubtful
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Dec 2005 Posts: 78
Posted: 05-01-06 16:00pm
Definitely the big thing is clitoral
stimulation. I've only ever had an orgasm
once through just penetration alone. I
must have definitely been in the mood
then, because usually I wouldn't even come
close. The one thing that I really like
is him giving me oral until im close to
orgasm, then we start to have sex... The
orgasm is definitely better like that...
The best of both worlds I think.
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azgirl16
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2006 Posts: 9
Posted: 05-01-06 16:02pm
Yeah it's always much better if the girl
gets oral before :) everything's a lot
more stimulated and sensitive and 'ready
to go' :p
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awkwarddepressed
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Mar 2006 Posts: 70
No Orgasm Through Intercourse Posted: 05-02-06 09:38am
Thanks, although I wish that wasnt the
case. Actually im surprised that the
penis, or sex for pleasure didnt become
extinct a long time ago if this is how
most women are.
Its just wierd, like I feel like the penis
is kinda useless. Its like we had sex
last night before we went to sleep and I
came pretty fast cuz I was worked up, and
I felt stupid and she was like "its ok,
ill never come in that position anyway so
dont worry about it". Boy, shes got a
real way with words when shes cranky and
tired. Why bother right? Then we went to
sleep. I usually come fast the first
time, especially if im really turned on
and I havent ejaculated in a day or two.
Sometimes we just go to bed after that cuz
its late so I dont get a chance to redeem
myself, not like it would do any good cuz
penetration doesnt do anything apparently
anyway. I kinda go to sleep feeling like
a failure. Sometimes I can go a decent
amount of time, other times I cant. Does
it even matter?
I think I may need to start masturbating
regularly again (i basically stopped after
my girlfriend and I got together 3 months
ago) just for myself, not for pleasure,
but just so I dont come so fast and feel
and potentially look like a scrub.
I really wish I understood better. I
kinda just feel dumb. Oh yeah, and im 28
so har dee har har. Aint I cool?
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 05-02-06 21:06pm
Are you listening? Penetration is great
it's just that women need stimulation of
the clit....If the penis is going in the
vagina and the clit is north of that then
what's the solution?.......Bump and
grind.....It's not as easy to orgasm as
with oral cause there's no direct
stimulation but it is definitely not
impossible. Don't be shy get those hips
moving, up down, round in circles.....Her
too. And if a penis were useless we'd all
be lesbians, wouldn't we?
It's probably a mental hurdle for her to
overcome too, because she thinks she's
never orgasmed before from intercourse
that it's probably impossible for her.
Help her see the error of her ways. :)
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arcadia
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Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 4468 Location: Illinois,
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Posted: 05-07-06 05:18am
My boyfriend has confronted me with the
same concerns, awkwarddepressed.
I, like just about anyone else, rarely
rarely rarely will ever have an orgasm
solely from penetration.
He was asking me all sorts of questions.
If sex actually even felt good since I
don't orgasm from it &it alone. If
there's anything he could do to stimulate
me more to bring me to an orgasm from
penetration..
It's a tricky business. But I found
[through masturbation, hehe] that I can
orgasm from penetration [i used a
vibrator] but it has to be really slow
&gentle. Lots of moving the vibrator
[which would be the penis] around in
circular motions.
It can be done, it can just be extremely
difficult!
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