Alright. I am really startin to worry.
Why is it that it takes so long for it to
hit them that "you are guna be a daddy!"
ugh..Im so frustrated..Hes 18, playin with
his car,clubbin,and doin things a kid
does..While im sittin here gettin fat by
the moment..Haha..N e one kno an online
Dr. Phil that would like talkin to him?!
.. I really love
him to death, but ladies does it ever hit
them, or should I give up?
Well sweetie,
unfortunatly, sometimes guys never grow
outta this. But in some cases, yes,
reality sets in but it may take until he
actully holds his child the 1st time for
him to know hey wake up, i'm a daddy now.
That is the problem with young guys
concieveing children. While the mother
has basically no choice but to care, the
guy can just play play play.
Hope it gets better.
Love,
chanda
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Munoz1226
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 130 Location: Tucson
Not to Scare Ya! Posted: 01-07-04 23:47pm
Hey!
I am 24 and my man is 25. We have a 3
year old daughter. He is still out
clubbin, hanging with the boys, playing
video games and getting high. It is so
freakin pathetic! I get so frusterated!
Not all men are alike so yours might
change. I know in my heart I am not meant
to spend the rest of my life with her
daddy. I love him like no tomorrow also,
but I will never accomplish my dreams for
her and I sticking around waiting for him.
He is really great with her when he does
stay home or anything with her, but as far
as being in a serious mode about it all
the time....Yeah right! Keep your head up
and hope he changes. Maybe when the baby
gets here reality will hit. Maybe!???
Best wishes!
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Mommy_2_b
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Oct 2003 Posts: 811 Location: Brookfield, N.S.
Posted: 01-08-04 06:43am
Hunni, some guys never grow up. The
father of my twins and I were engaged and
on our wedding day he called me from cuba
with another girl....See some guys never
grow up now I talked to him a couple weeks
after it happened and I havent heard from
him since, and I probably wont. Boys will
be boys and you just learn to live with it
and accept it. He does not have to give
up his entire life for this although he
should be supporting you, but you dont
have to give up your life either!
Good luck
melissa chastity and joshua
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 01-08-04 09:46am
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Iluvmy3boys
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jan 2004 Posts: 47 Location: Maryland
Posted: 01-08-04 09:57am
Yes hun! Evenly it will! My fiance I
think that it did it when the twins were
born! But it will take time! But us on
the other hand it changes as soon as we
find out that we are having a baby!
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youngmomtobe
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Oct 2003 Posts: 728 Location: Illinois
Posted: 01-08-04 10:46am
My counselor at school said that theres a
reason why woman carry their babies for 9
1/2 months not only for the baby to grow
but for the guy to come to the realization
that they are going to be daddies he siad
that of course they see there girldfriends
or wifes getting bigger but it just really
never kicks in until like a month before
he said it didnt hit him until she was a
week be4 her due date.....See I told raven
to go out have fun with the boys go
dancing and that b/c he loves to dance
thats how hes gets rid of his stress and
he knows he wont be able to do that once
river is born and hes okay with that ...
Thats why hes living it up now and I dont
have a problem one b/c I hardly see him
anyways!!Lol! But I love him to pieces!!!
Well hang in there sweetie I hope for
yours and the babies sake that he comes
around just give it some time or try
talking to him! Anything u do we will
support ya! Muhc love and god bless!!!
Jen &
river
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pInKpAnThEr
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004 Posts: 626 Location: Indiana
Posted: 01-08-04 19:04pm
Once again, he was sick and didnt go to
school.Yah, danny, youre a winner! Lol im
less stressed now though thank god for you
girls, you are good at calmin me down.
Your replys were very encouraging and I
jus gota member to keep mah head up..
.. I really love
him to death, but ladies does it ever hit
them, or should I give up?
