I am very depressed right now!!! My
future husband well fiance is now trying
to leave me, I have been with him for a
little over 3years now!!! I love him to
death and I dont want to loose him!!!
Ever since we got together like a little
over being to gether for 6 months thats
when he started to accuse me of
cheating!!! And I would actually go
through depressions over him sometimes!!!!
Like crying myself to sleep, not eating,
eating to much, smoking up to 3 packs of
ciggaretes a day, and cutting, and plenty
other stuff too!!!!! I love him to death
and dont want to loose him, I have even
planned my future just in order that we
could be together and make him happy!!!!
Like he hates ohio, were we currently
live, and he wants to move back to
flordia, so I found a college there just
so that I could make him happy!!!! But
now hes saying that were not going to make
it, when hes the one who calls me and
accuses me of cheating constantly and says
that im ho* and all kinds of stuff!!!! Im
not trying to make him sound like hes
abusive or anything, but he is mentally
abusive, and right now I feel like im
going to have a heart attack!!! I smoke
too much, and I dont have no friends dont
go anywhere or anything like that!!!! I
have stayed with him for so long and I
dont want to loose him and I know that if
hed just try he could change!!! I have
tried and tried to help him, but he has
just seemed to be getting worse!!!! But
what im basically saying is that I need
some kind of advice or support!!! And
also he has a lot of problems like for
example: anxiety, ocd, panic attacks,
hypochondriac, and plenty more, but do you
think this might be why, and do you think
he will really leave me? :cry:
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esmass
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 May 2006 Posts: 1
Posted: 05-02-06 09:37am
I really think that you should think on
yourself. Your fiance is probably saying
these things because maybe he is afraid of
commitment or because he probably has been
cheating himself. Your reacting on based
on your depression and this is a very bad
thing. Reevaluate your situation - what
has your fiance done for you. Has he
supported your expections and requests?
Or have you been the only one making the
changes. I hate to admit it - but if
your the only making the changes to make
him happy then it is really not a good
healthy relationship to be in. Marriage
should be shared on an equal level. From
what you have described this relationship
is really not healthy physically nor
mentally for you.
