Whats Wrong With Me? :s Plz Help Posted: 01-07-04 22:31pm
Hi ppl,
this is my first post, but I found this
site now cos im having some issues and
have no idea how to deal with it. Here
goes...
Im 21 years old, in pretty good physical
shape, and have been single for quite some
time (havnt had sex in atleast 6 months).
I met a girl (older woman - 27yo) about
6 weeks ago. Slept in her bed every
weekend since, but I cant get an erection
to have sex
Last nite was like the final straw on the
camals back so to speak. She got really
upset, cos I havnt been able to get it up,
and thinks I might be gay, or that I dont
find her attractive.
Whenever were in bed, I can tell she wants
to have sex, but I cant stop worrying that
I wont be able to get an erection, and
thats what happens. I dont think im
gay, but hey ive got a naked woman with me
and I dont want sex!! Makes me wonder if
maybe I am
I mastebated alot when I was a teenager up
till recently (like every day), perhaps
thats caused me permanent damage? Ive
also had depression on and off for most of
my life (without taking medication).
I dont knwo what to do, I just want a
normal healthy relationship, but it seems
its hanging by a thread now.
Anyone been in a similar situation? Is
there light at the end of the tunnel?
Plz help
peter
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Alleybutterfly
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Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 5 Location: Maine
It Wont Hurt! Posted: 01-15-04 01:42am
Hey dude I don't think masturbating hurt
your inability to have an erection. I
think you just need to relax and enjoy the
experience. You should be complety
honest and open with her and let her know
that you need no pressure to preform and
all should fall into place....If that
doesn't help I would go see a doctor and
check your man out.
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ilovemybaby4life
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Joined: 20 Jan 2004 Posts: 23 Location: pennsylvania
Posted: 01-21-04 17:35pm
I agree that u just need to relax u are
putting way too much pressure on urself
just wondering..Can u get it up when ur
alone masturbating?
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Rich
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 2 Location: North east
Posted: 02-02-04 12:44pm
Yeah, I think your thinking too much about
if you can't get it up again. Don't think
about it and enjoy yourself :d
i think your putting too much presure on
yourself
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maxum
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Joined: 17 Nov 2003 Posts: 10 Location: Panania NSW Australia
Posted: 02-02-04 23:34pm
Go down on her; that'll get it up!
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Jaydensmommy
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Joined: 28 Jan 2004 Posts: 1705 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 02-04-04 02:34am
I think if you stop thinking about getting
it up maybe you will. Try some foreplay
with her and don't think about getting it
up. Just close your eyes and have fun
touching, feeling her, whatever. If you
have to imagine masturbating to get it
up..Then do so that is okay. Its a
proven fact that alot of masturbation even
daily is not harmful to your sex life or
your "member"
~sara~
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nemo1022
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Joined: 26 Feb 2004 Posts: 1 Location: puerto rico
Its Normal Dont Woried So Much Its Normal. Posted: 03-02-04 19:29pm
Your not gay its just that you still have
feling for your ex give it time and you
will see. If your new partner understand
it will go away faster .She cant think
thatyou still love your ex or that you
want to go back with her
its normal tell your fomar lover about it
is she does not understand then she aint
the one for you .Believe me it happen to
me an my new partner was there and now we
have sex like animal the best I ever had
.Comunication is the key
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vs
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Joined: 30 Mar 2004 Posts: 3 Location: RI
Posted: 03-30-04 11:11am
Hey, just a thought, but regarding the
depression, have you tried talking with a
counselor or therapist, or a really good
friend? Sometimes, it's important to
sort through various emotions and try to
get a grip on your life before starting up
a relationship. That could be a really
positive step for your whole life, not
just getting it up in bed in the short
term...
Good luck, peter!!
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-30-04 13:33pm
How do we know he is still in love with is
ex? And he didn't say anything about
depression either?
Masturbating does not cause damage!
Like most of the above posts said, just
relax. Of course it has been almost two
months since you posted this, so you
probably have already been able to
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Nikos Gallis
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Joined: 14 Sep 2004 Posts: 35 Location: Pireu
This Is Very Serious Epecially B/c You Are Young (< 40+ Y Posted: 09-15-04 05:22am
There is nothing wrong with your head or
your relaxation and
don't believe anybody that tells you that
this is a psychological
issue. Sexual stimuli are just an
adjuvant to the process of
having an erection.
Definitely use cialis and on a regular
basis, enough that you
would function normally every day (eg
spontaneous night
and morning erections). It doesn't have
to be just for sex.
Your problem is part of a greater one that
is ignored on
purpose by the doctors (urologists and
cardiologists) and the
media. The reason is that so far it
cannot be stopped (i am
not talking cure here), but cialis (get a
prescription) may help
in delaying the process of the disease.
This problem if appears under 45 yrs is
due to heart and arterial
congenital defects that will cause an
accelerated degradation of
your arteries, heart, lungs, etc. It is a
circulation problem not a stress
problem although it may seems so and the
doctors (especially the
psychiatrists will swear so).
You will be fine for about 15-17 yrs from
other symptoms, but
when somebody will refer you to a
psychiatrist be careful. You may
be close to being committed involuntary
into a psychiatric hospital
so that they will hide your suffering from
the naive society.
Once you are in that state, you have no
civil rights, nobody (doctors,
lawyers, media) will help you. You will
be lost in a black hole from
where nobody escapes.
Sorry to give you the bad news but it's
better that people know
about it in advance instead of finding out
too late that they are
hunted like animals by psychiatrists years
later.
Hopefully, by then the doctors and the
governments will become
more humane in treating people like you
when the time comes.
Therefore, enjoy your life now as much as
possible, and don't
forget that the doctors are not always
your friends.
Ps: you should be worried when cialis
doesn't work anymore,
you become dizzy, have respiratory
problems, pressure in your
ears, have pain and neurologic symptoms,
etc.
When that happens don't go to any
hospital, especially a large one.
Last nite was like the final straw on the
camals back so to speak. She got really
upset, cos I havnt been able to get it up,
and thinks I might be gay, or that I dont
find her attractive.
