My husband was diagnosed as bipolar 10
years ago. He did not like the label , so
went to a new doc 3 years ago and
apparently gave limited info to be
diagnosed as depressed. Without bipolar
meds he has progressively gotten worse
with depression, lack of motivation ,
anger, gambling and drinking and hiding
the bottles of alcohol. Now we are
seperated due to him threatening to kill
me. He was not under the influence of
anything when he threatened me, but also
not on meds. I have a no contact order
out. He has been arrested and I am
keeping the no contact order in place
because he did not take his meds regularly
and is unstable. Right now I am very sad
about the situation and heartbroken. I do
not regret having him removed from the
house. My son and I need to be safe.
However, I am hoping he will get treatment
even if it is court ordered for a mental
health eval, domestic violence counseling,
and anger management. I do not want my
marriage to end. I want him to get help
and become stable. I know that however is
"his" choice. I love my husband and hope
he still loves me. I know bi-polar is a
life long problem but can be managed. I
am also scared that if he does get better
and I allow him back into my home, I may
lose custody of my son. I also have an
ex-husband. My ex-husband has dragged me
through custody battles before but has not
won. This time he could. I love my
child and love my husband. So in some
ways I feel I have to just "move foward"
divorce my husband, even if he gets
treatment because my ex husband will
interfere our sons safety. I am sad,
confused and hurt.... Any suggestions???
