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Friend And Stupidness Posted: 05-01-06 01:46am
Hey.. I dont know what to do or say to my
friend, because she has hiv and shes
sexually active with her bf, but they use
condoms. Shes not on b/c or anything, and
one day she said to her boyfriend
something about "if you loved me you would
take it off" I guess it was in the moment
and she was talking about the condom and
he took the condom off and continued so
now he probably has it.. He already knew
that she had it though so he knew what he
was getting into.. So yeah, now my
friends worried that he has it.. She also
has irregular periods like has it for a
week heavy and dosnt get her period for
liek 2-3 months.. So if she got pregnant
from that she wont even know.. What
should I say to her? She went to me for
comfert and I didnt know what to say other
then if she was expecting her period she
might be fine, but I couldnt say anything
about her bf and hiv
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Cambion
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Posted: 05-01-06 07:14am
Your friend doesn't need comfort - she
went and screwed around without a condom
and may have possibly given an std to her
boyfriend. Both were aware of the
consequences of their actions, so what she
needs is to be reprimanded for being a
selfish fool, not coddled for helping to
spread venereal diseases and possibly
making another child to plague the
earth.
I say bed, made, lie - whatever bad comes
out of her situation, she deserves. You
just can't sympathize for people who do
stupid things like this.
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DylanJacob
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Joined: 17 Apr 2006 Posts: 559
Posted: 05-01-06 12:59pm
cambion
wrote:
i say bed, made, lie -
whatever bad comes out of her situation,
she deserves. You just can't sympathize
for people who do stupid things like
this.
that's a bit harsh - yes it was her fault
and yes she made the decision but I bet
everyone on here (even you?) has made a
bad decision at some point in their
life... Maybe not that drastic but we all
could one day.
Just be there for her - let her know
whatever you think, but she may need a
mate too. If her bfd knew as well then it
isn't wholly her fault and she alone
should not be given the whole stick for
it, he could have said no.
Get her to see a doctor - does she want
kids? There are ways you can have a baby
who is not hiv positive even if you are -
you just have to be really careful and
arent alloed a vaginal birth or to
breastfeed etc. It's not the end of the
world.
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 05-03-06 01:49am
No she dosnt want kids.. Well not yet,
she wants to once she's older but not now,
(she's only 16) but yeah.. Her siduation
is kinda hard for me to simpathize for her
cause I dont completely understand cause I
have never had a desease or virus I could
pass on sexualy so yeah I dont know..
She's on meds that would allow her to have
a baby that wouldnt get hiv, but yeah she
dosnt want one, not just because her
parents would kill her, but because she
hasnt been in the realationship that
long.. She also wants to grad first.. I
dont know what to do, and she's my best
friend.. When she first told me she was
having sex I freaked out later when she
wasnt around, I told my bf the whole
siduation (he already knew she had hiv and
she dosnt care if I tell shawn things
anyways) but yeah he was pretty ticked too
because she should be careful, not
careless
