Serious Problem Letting Go Posted: 01-08-04 23:30pm
Hello everyone I know I should have posted
this in the relationship forums but I feel
like I can get advice from you all. I
just recently broke up with my boyfriend.
He was a big jerk too me when I
miscarried he wasnt even their for me(he
told me he had to go to work the next
morning and had took a sleeping pill).
He didnt even call me the day I had my
d&c, but the kept telling me he cared
about me. I kept trying to make it work,
but I got tired of being treated like a
second wheel in his life. He wasnt like
this in the beginning. I finally ended
it last week but he called me two days
later and I went and slept with him. I
know this was really stupid, but I had
feelings for him. I
feel like it was his way of proving to me
that he will decide when it ends. I
havent called him since I know in my mind
that it will never work and dont have any
desires to be with him , but my heart
still cares so much about him
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sparklypixie12
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003 Posts: 3099
Posted: 01-09-04 06:50am
I really dunno what 2 say about this but
if he wasnt there 4 u in ur times of
trouble,when he really should have
been,then he's not very supportive.The
miscarriage was a really big thing 4 u 2
go through & u should have gone
through it 2gether as a couple-if he
couldnt call u when u had 2 go through a
d&c then he obviously didnt care
much.
I dont know how long u were with him but
it sounds like u cared about him a lot
once & clearly,it'll take some time
getting used 2 him not being around.The
most important thing is that u decide
whats best 4 u in the long term.U say that
u dont have desires to be with him so the
only reason ur a bit down is because u
were probably used to seeing him&all
of a sudden,ur not.2 be honest,he doesnt
sound 2 nice-a boyfriend should be there 4
u in the good and even more so in the bad
& if he wasnt there,it shud show u 4
what he really was.
Im sure in time,u will realise that u need
someone more supportive 2 help u when u r
in times of need but u need 2 make the
choice that will make u the happiest,
hope I helped in some way, best wishes,
liz :d
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Mesmerizeu15
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 2729 Location: Pittsburgh,PA
Posted: 01-09-04 08:14am
This is toughy, it is hard to loose the
person that you love so much, but what may
you be good for you now may not always be
the best for you in the long run. I am
hoping that you are strong enough, or can
become strong enough to make it all
through!! I have felt like giving up
before, like laryr didnt care about me,
and I have mentioned it to the girls here,
but luckily we have mad it through. I
think that you need to get out with the
girls or someone, and you need to try to
take your find off of him for awhile. It
seems like with everything happening all
at once that you feel like it is worse
than it is. He is a bad man because he
was not there for you, dont reward him by
sleeping with him. That is just showing
him your weakness, and that is saying,
"yeah ill be your booty call"... Dont do
it you are a precious jewel, treat
yourself like one. I hope that you
understand where I am coming from, and I
hope to hear from you again soon, maybe
not about something like this though, lets
hear something to smile about!!
I
feel like it was his way of proving to me
that he will decide when it ends. I
havent called him since I know in my mind
that it will never work and dont have any
desires to be with him , but my heart
still cares so much about him 
