Hey all;
this is my first time I write here, that's
cuz really I need help.
Well, am 24 yrs, am just graduated, and I
have had my first job as a computer
technical support in a multinational
company.. After one month I was promoted
into a technical supervisor.
I used to have a very good relation with
all there, specilally my gm.. He was very
good to me, he used to treat me good,
satisfy me and always do whatever I want..
He like me and I did.
One day, I was really frustrated from
work, so, as I used to do, I went to him
and I told him that I would like to leave
job because I feel that I am changing and
this job affects my personality and makes
me be a worse person.
He told me that this is a normal feeling
because am still a beginner, and I will
get used of that, and of course I will be
back again to have my same nice
personality, and he also told me that if I
feel that really my personality changes, I
have to leave work, but he asked me not to
leave work because he likes me and he
believes that I will be better.
So, he was always with me whenever I need
him, he was always beside me, I have had
many problems with my colleuges due to the
new position I was put in, and I loose my
best friend.. And he was always there
with me in all my problems.
Lately, he was sooooo busy, crowded,
stressed and awful..So he treated me very
bad! I gave him excuses, but he did not
change.One day,
i had a problem, I make a meeting with him
and with my direct manager, but the
meeting ends terribly, he shouted at me
very loudly, I couldn't help, I cried..And
ran to give him my resignation.
The problem that he did not accepted it,
he gave me a one week off to study my
decision..And he asked me to have a
meeting after my vaccation, I refused and
I told him that I am not going to make
meetings with him and I just want to
leave.
All people at work don't want me to leave,
they all loves me, and I do indeed, they
all called me begging me not to leave
work.
The problem that I don't want to take a
decision based on my emotions.
I really donno what to do, time's running,
and I need to have a clear decision.
I called yesterday, cuz my friends told me
that they are too much crowded in work, so
I called my general manager to let me come
and help them.
He was busy, so he did not answer me, but
he called me today, he thanked me and told
me that they managed to do all the
work...And asked me about the meeting, so
I will have a meeting with him next sunday
or monday.
Am so scared, I don't want to have a
meeting with him, he scares me when he
shouts, and I am so scared from going
through this experience again.
At the same time, I feel that I don't want
to leave work, because I love this place,
people, and I am scared from my parents'
reaction.
But internally, I want to leave, because I
feel alone without my general manager's
support, and I feel that I will not be
able to work with him hating me like that.
This is the second time I ask my gm to
leave job, he will not accept that if I
told him that I backed of, he will
consider me as a child!
Tell me what to do?
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Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Sep 2005 Posts: 267 Location: Eugene
Posted: 05-11-06 08:53am
Why leave a good paying job...
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Nano
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 May 2006 Posts: 14
Posted: 05-12-06 09:05am
You are probably to deep inside it all to
be objective. Ask yourself the following
questions:
1. Do you really like the job?
2. Do you have opportunities to move your
career the way you would like in this
company?
3. Forget the problems you are facing
now, do you see yourself in this company
in the next 5 years?
If you're answer is yes to the above it's
worth considering staying. If not, don't
even have the meeting, it's a waste of
time.
If yes:
think about an action plan. Maybe you
should have an open talk with your gm.
He clearly appreciates you, otherwise why
would he want you to stay? Talk to him
as an equal. Pretend to yourself that
you have nothing to lose.
Hope this is helpful, write back to me if
you want.
Goodluck!
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khokha
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 May 2006 Posts: 4 Location: Egypt
Posted: 05-15-06 13:22pm
Thanks :)
that really helps,
i am back to work now, although they meet
me very badly!
I hope things will get better
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