Hey I Am 17 Years Old Pregnant..need Some Advice Posted: 05-12-06 12:39pm
Hello my name is chantelle.. I found out
when I was pregnant I was 10 weeks
pregnant I was with the father prior to
that for 8 months we had not wanted to get
pregnant this was a surprise completely as
soon as we had went to the clinic and got
the test and I was confirmed 10 weeks
pregnant he immediately told me have an
abortion or we are done and I want nothing
to do with you or the kid.. Well we ended
up breaking up and he absolutely hates me
because I did not have an abortion , the
reason I didnt is because I dont believe
in them adn my family would clearly be
angry at that as my sister had kids young
and is doing great..I am almost 16 weeks
pregant right now showing a lil bit but
not too much I ahve no signs really I am
carrying very low and gaining alot of
wieght in my butt which I think it might
be a boy lol:)... But what do I do about
the father I dont know how to make him
feel more confortable about the whole
pregnancy I really want him to be there
for his first child he is 19 years old and
thinks that he is too young we were
happily together until this but I could
not bring it to my heart to have an
abortion.. So I dont know what to do
now:s.... Is there anyone that can give
me some advice or has been threw the same
thing as me ?? Because I am very scared
for one.. And I want him by my side for
2.. Thanks everyone
chantelle
i will post pics soon
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whyte_kissez
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Oct 2005 Posts: 87 Location: Minnesota
Posted: 05-12-06 12:52pm
Hello hun!
Im in the "same" boat you are.. When I
found out I was pregnant the father of my
baby told me to get an abortion.. I
refused to so he left me.. I had my son a
month ago and we are doing great.. I
found someone new.. And he is helpin to
raise my child.. The father of my baby
has tried to get back with me but I refuse
to cause he left me and my son.. Im 17
and hes 19.. Pretty pathetic.. Cuz I
think hes old enough to realize and take
care of his responsibility.. Well good
luck to you.. I refuse to have my babies
father in his life because of the way he
treats me.. And he still tells everybody
this isnt his kid even tho a paternity
test proved it.. Guys can b so damn
immature.. <3 good luck :) you will do
fine!! :)
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Lalee
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2006 Posts: 991 Location: South Carolina
Posted: 05-12-06 13:05pm
First of all, good for you for standing up
for what you believe in and not letting
him pressure you.
Second, don't waste your time trying to
get him to come around. If he does,
great... If he doesn't, then he's not
worth it. You need to be focusing on you
and your baby right now, not worrying
about him. It sounds like you have a good
support system at home, which is a major
plus. You don't need him. However, I
would look into getting him for child
support. He might not want to be a dad to
this kid, but he is responsible and needs
to be a grownup about it even if it's just
financially. Don't let him just walk
away.
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chantellez1st
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 May 2006 Posts: 11 Location: london
Thanks Everyone For the Amazing Replys Posted: 05-12-06 22:08pm
Wow thanks everyone who had replied back
to me and ya it is going to be rally hard
but I can honestly say I do have a guy who
does care for me alot and he wants to be
in my life but it seems weird because I am
going to be with him but be pregnant with
another guys baby ?!.. I dont kno if
anyone of u ahs ever felt like that but I
feel awkward he tells me not to because he
wants to be there for me and step up to
the plate and be a father because he
believes that this baby should havea
father in its life its just too bad that
young guys can get young gurls pregnant
and then just leave like I dont know how a
guy could ever just walk around and act
like he has no kid in this world.. I kno
it would be sooo hard for me to do that if
I was a guy ... I dont kno I dont think I
want him in my babys life but I mean its
going to be rally hard I ama very
sensitive girl and I should of known that
this would happen I do not regret it but
being on my own with a baby is going to be
one of the most difficult things I have
ever had to face thanks everyone for the
great comments and advise I wish u all teh
best of luck with your babys:) and u made
my day :) thank u
chantelle
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chantellez1st
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 May 2006 Posts: 11 Location: london
Thanks Posted: 05-13-06 11:39am
Thanks everyone I will keep you up to date
with the latest news:)
chantelle
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chantellez1st
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 May 2006 Posts: 11 Location: london
New Post Posted: 05-15-06 16:00pm
Hi everyone been a few days since I posted
on here.. Well as of today I am having
major headaches lol so I think I might be
having a boy I dont really care what I
have just as long as its a healthy
baby:).. But as for the dad well he is
stilla jerk he told me that he would have
something to do with the baby if its a boy
and looks like him.. Like wut kind of @ss
says that grr he has a new girlfriend now
who thinks that she knows it all .. My
first question is how in the hell does a
jerk like that that backs down from being
a father get another gurll.... Wow sluts
out there I tell ya just looking for
nothin but dick .. Grr>. Anyways g2g
tty all later
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~rubmybuddahbelly~
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jan 2006 Posts: 752 Location: :( N.O. Evacuee now in TEXAS
Posted: 05-15-06 18:18pm
I cant really say that im in the same boat
as you because me and the father of my
baby planned our child. But I think you
are making a very mature choice to keep
your baby. If the father wants to act
immature and be an a** then he's not worth
it. Let child support handle him once the
baby is here. You have your baby and
thats all that matters and thats the only
person u need to worry about for the rest
of your life.
I hope all goes weel for you and your ex
boyfriend needs to remember if he is old
enough to have sex then he should be
mature and deal with the concequences that
come along with it.
I hope you do well and keep us all updated
on what happens.
_ jen
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tigresacanela24
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Joined: 11 Nov 2005 Posts: 5261 Location: Treat your children well, eventually they'll choose your nursing home.
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