Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 42 Location: western australia
How Do You Know When Its Over? Posted: 05-15-06 01:58am
The question is, what are the signs to
move on? Is being loved or the idea of
love sometimes stronger than the love
itself? How do you know if he is the one
or just your first love that isn't meant
to last forever? Should you not waste
time on someone you love but isn't your
true love? Relationships have problems so
how do you know if it needs working on or
to give up? How do you break up with
someone you love? Does love and caring
after so many years get mixed up? I'm too
confused
any real life stories that can be related
to this is much appreciated. I don't know
whether I have an unrealistic view of
love? Too many disney movies as a child
perhaps?
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kezia333
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2005 Posts: 133 Location: Texas
Posted: 05-17-06 00:13am
I have battled the same questions you have
for a year or so now. April 05' me and
my fiance broke up. We had been together
a long time and I was so broken hearted.
I couldn't get out of bed for months. I
have come to realize that sometimes love
gets in the way of making rational choices
for our lives. My ex gave me a really
hard time sometimes, and I know that its
been a year and I should move on but love
stops me. I have the fear that I will
never find love again if I give up on him.
I have never had feelings for anyone
else like I do for him. True love to me
is someone you can absolutly not live
without, and I dont mean just for a year
or so but someone that you can never let
go enough to be with anyone else. Love
is a tricky thing and it is impossible ot
understand. I do know that if the person
you are with does not love you as much as
you love them and if you put much more
into the relationship then they do it is
not true love. True love is equal in all
things. I believe in the saying "if you
love someone let them go if they want to
be free and if they come back its meant to
be". Sometimes to get the answers we
want we must take the hard way out and
that means leaving sometimes. I dont
know if what I have said makes sence but
just play it by ear and try not to force
anything, give it time and be patient and
that is usually all we can do. Hope that
helps
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beautiful
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 May 2006 Posts: 146 Location: stockton
Posted: 05-25-06 10:44am
" if you love someone set them free if
they come back their yours if they dont
they never was" basicly let him go break
up with him if he calls or comes back in
any way he is yours and if he does not let
him go. Also tell him that you need a
break apart to see if things work out and
that you love him but you need time to
think!!! I may be only 17 but I had to do
this and for me it worked out for the
better... \\\
i hope that it goes the dame way with
you!!!
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luck~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
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fox1lady
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Aug 2006 Posts: 53
Posted: 08-26-06 08:28am
Trust me, be there recently, and one thing
I learned when you know you have the right
one you will know. My husband and I have
been married for a year. And at the time
I was not in the mood to be dating
anyone..Love at that time was sitting on
the back door step. When I found the one
I love, I wasnt looking for it, it just
happened. There is a connection that you
cant stop, rewind, or fast forward..As
much as I tried to avoid him getting close
to me at all, he did. When I didnt want
to talk to him sometimes he left great
messages that would make me call him back.
Everytime we were around each other,
just looking at him set me on fire..I
found myself going to the bathroom running
cold water and patting myself down just to
cool off.. But once I started to work on
myself and the thing I wanted from a man,
I found him. And we were best friends in
high school, then 8 yrs later we were
reunited and married the next year. So I
say to you have fun, and date a least a
year. If you still feel the same way, he
will too...And dont be to quick to have
sex with a man in the beginning..Bait him
a little bit to see if this is what you
want..Men sometime judge women who are
quick to jump in the sack..If you are a
good girl, you will make him wait awhile..
And if he is persiant with sex then you
know that is all he is about. If he wants
to get to who you really are then be
friends and let things lead up to a
relationship..
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mostly_afraid
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jun 2006 Posts: 16
Re: How Do You Know When Its Over? Posted: 08-29-06 14:08pm
sh5nton
wrote:
the question is, what are
the signs to move on? Is being loved or
the idea of love sometimes stronger than
the love itself? How do you know if he
is the one or just your first love that
isn't meant to last forever? Should you
not waste time on someone you love but
isn't your true love? Relationships
have problems so how do you know if it
needs working on or to give up? How do
you break up with someone you love?
Does love and caring after so many years
get mixed up? I'm too confused
any real life stories that can be related
to this is much appreciated. I don't
know whether I have an unrealistic view of
love? Too many disney movies as a child
perhaps?
if you feel that you are more in love with
your significant other than he/she is with
you, then i'd say, you need to let go and
date some other people.
If your significant other is not treating
you with respect or is not genuinely
thoughtful of your needs, then no matter
how much you love them, you have to let go
of them.
And hope dearly that you will one day get
over the pain and love you feel for them.
You shouldn't be with someone you
don't trust.
I believe in obsession and adoration more
than I believe in love. I believe that
people mistake the feelings of adoration
and obsession with love. I don't even
know if "love" is a word that should ever
apply to romantic relationships. I
think people should use words other than
"love" to describe their strong feelings
about someone they're with.
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 08-29-06 14:24pm
To me. You never lose the love you once
had for someon but their are times that it
does not grow but to me a relationship is
more about respect than anything else as
that is what we generally lose for one
another.
The best to all!
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pinksalter
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2005 Posts: 124
Posted: 09-06-06 19:24pm
What if someone has too much respect and
principles that what they are doing for
the best isn`t really for the best? You
love them and know your meant to be, so I
don`t think I could set him free and if
its right its meant to be, as much as I
believe in this saying its too hard to put
it into practice when its your own
situation.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 09-07-06 10:50am
pinksalter
wrote:
what if someone has too much
respect and principles that what they are
doing for the best isn`t really for the
best? You love them and know your meant
to be, so I don`t think I could set him
free and if its right its meant to be, as
much as I believe in this saying its too
hard to put it into practice when its your
own
situation.
the way you can tell if
its over.If you have done everything in
your power to make it work and can no
longer do anything, its over.You both have
to be willing to work out your
problems.Yes there will be fights but
until it gets to the point where you think
its getting rediculous you should know.
Love and caring go hand in hand so you
really can't separate the 2
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pinksalter
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2005 Posts: 124
Posted: 09-07-06 17:35pm
The only thing I can say is in my
situation everyone has a different opinion
on when things are over but you just know
in your heart when things are done. My
ex, I thought he was special but it wasn`t
until the guy after him came along that I
realised what love was.
