I just need to vent.. I was having a
wonderful mother's day .. My ex boyfriend
(damien's) father..And damien made me a
stepping stone with damien's foot prints
and they decorated it .. Well my ex did
most of it since damien is only 5 months
old..And they made me breakfast in bed and
took me out for lunch.. So my first
mother's day went well.. Until my mother
stepped in.. My mom is a depressed
alcoholic.. Honestly .. Well last
night.. As we were talking about our
mother's day .. ( of course she was
drinking) she told me i'm a bad mother..
It broke my heart. I know i'm only 17 but
I take excellent care of my son.. He's
well fed and clothed.. And I never "pawn"
him off on her so I can go out with my
friends.. I don't know why she said it..
I asked my father if he thought the same
thing and he said " no your a wonderful
mother" .. It just breaks my heart that
she would say something..And this morning
when she was sober .. She acted all nice
to me.. But I haven't spoke to her since
she said it.. I can't believe she ruined
my very first mother's day.. Sorry .. I
just needed to vent.. What do you guys
think?
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 05-15-06 13:40pm
Aww hun dont let that mess up your first
mothers day, you had a great day with your
son and your ex so thats all that matters!
As long as you know you're a great mother
then dont listen to waht she says. I know
it's hurtful but she wouldn't have said it
if she hadn't been drinking (thats not an
excuse but its probably the truth)
im sorry =(
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Kate917881
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Joined: 15 Jul 2005 Posts: 113
Posted: 05-15-06 13:45pm
I don't know .. Something keeps telling
me that she honestly feels that way and I
think she does only because i'm raising
damien how I want to and not by her
standards.. I think because i'm young she
figured I would need her help all the time
and she would be buying stuff for him..
But I don't need her help I do all the
stuff on my own.. I do my own laundry
and his, I do my dishes, I clean up after
myself.. I do eveything for him and i..
And I don't ask her to buy anything for
him I buy it myself. I buy my own
groceries and everything.. I just can't
believe she would say something that
hurtful on my first mother's day.. :cry:
She had no right to say that. And, what
a hypocrite. Isn't she the mom who is a
depressed alcoholic?
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Kate917881
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2005 Posts: 113
Posted: 05-15-06 13:51pm
Yeah.. She always says everyone is trying
to conspire against her to get her to
leave.. She's been like this for a long
time and anytime someone mentions getting
her help she flips out and gives everyone
the silent treatment. I think it bothered
her because before I went to bed.. I said
"you say some pretty hurtful things to me
but this is by far the most hurtful thing
you have ever said to me.. This even
beats the time when you were drunk and
said you thought about having an abortion
when you found out you were pregnant with
me" grrr..She angers me!
Yeah she sounds very immature and selfish.
My mom is simular. She just wants to
fight and she never stops to listen.
I'll be like "mom can you just calm down
and talk nicely for a se-" and she'll be
like ".D.O.N'.T .Y.O.U .D.A.R.E .C.A.L.L
.M.E .C.R.A.Z.Y!". I feel for you dear.
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Kate917881
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2005 Posts: 113
Posted: 05-15-06 13:58pm
Yeah i've heard that line a million times
with her.. She loves to start yelling
and it's like "mom your not going to get
anywhere if you yell because you'll only
end up losing your voice and then you
still won't get your point across" and
she'll say " y.O.U.R. A.L.L.
T.R.Y.I.N.G t.O c.O.N.S.P.I.R.E
a.G.A.I.N.S.T m.E.!!!"
Don't get me wrong.. My dad is wonderful
... But my mother is crazy. Lol
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 05-16-06 06:39am
My parents were never drunks or anything
but my dad sure could be an ass
sometimes.But he is an awesome father
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GreenPeace
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Joined: 18 May 2006 Posts: 2 Location: San Andres Iland
For Kate Posted: 05-18-06 05:12am
We don't allways get what we want from
situations or people and it is natural,
that's part of life! I understand you
feel hurt, we're often more bulnerable
with people that we care about or that are
suposed to be close to us and suport us
and be there for us, but it doesn't
allways happend like that. So don't keep
thinking about that insident, it hurt you,
yes but, think now about what you think
about your self... Do you think you're
doing your best to be a good mother?
Couse that's what counts, and sorry I
gotta say this but I don't think your mom
is in the best position to judge you, so
analized that. It matters to you that
your first mother's day was ruined but...
You will have so much more mother's day to
come and it is problably goin to be more
special everytime as your kid will grow
and star saying "i love you mom" or giving
you precents.
You just make sure you raise that kid to
be a good human been, to learn to respect
others, to learn to respect cultures, to
be helpfull in society.
I'll finish now couse this is getting
longer, but good luck!
