Ok I found out last friday that my girlfriend is pregnant with my child. It was though carelessness on both our parts and was not planned at all. I am currently 25 and she is 20.

She wants to get an abortion and already has schduled an appointment for this wedsday(2 days from now) and while I am pro-choice I have never been faced with this before. It is a different thing I have found talking the talk and walking the walk if that makes any sense to anyone. I honestly find myself with a deep sense of guilt and shame of her getting an abortion. I am finding myself with conflicting thoughts and I cannot make heads or tails of what to do.

First off we both come from fairly wealthy familys and we do indeed love each other very dearly and are talking about marriage. However, she says she does not want to be a mother yet and that she is too young and that we wouldn't be able to support the child. I find myself really not wanting to kill something that could be the best of both of us and I don't know how to tell her how I feel about this. I know she wants to do this and I doubt she would change her mind though I want to at least try and talk to her about it but I don't know how and I don't have a whole lot of time.

While I agree we both are not in a possition to take care of a child financially, because a child is mucho $$$ and time. However, I am willing to do it and honestly I want to. But I don't know.

I feel as this moment will forever haunt my life with a sad memory of what could have been and it makes me break down and cry. I have prayed to god and I have talked it through in my own mind.

Most of our family members don't know. My mother does on my side, and none on hers.

I just feel so lost and I need some guidance, be it good or bad. I just need someone to talk to really. Thanks everyone!