Ok here is the dilema i'm going to try and
make this stroy short if I can.I was in a
relationship with jared I moved in with
him I found out I was pregnant well after
that he was being really mean to me saying
he wanted me out for stupid reasons like
not screwin the cap on the toothpaste top
stupid little things well later in that
month I found out he had gotten another
girl pregnant she came to the house and
actually knocked on the door so I left
and stayed with my mom throughout my whole
pregnancy well jared had a change of heart
when the baby got here and decided he
really wanted to be in my life and he was
upset he treated me badly now its starting
back up again the same petty arguments
over basically nothing 3 months later ,
:?: he led me to believe we were going to
be a family now hes not coming home at
night hes dating someone else he doesnt
want me to leave because he wants to be
around the baby.But what about my
feelings?I feel bad for my little girl
also shes only 3 months if I go back to my
hometown shell be without her dadi grew p
with my dad in my life and it was a
special bond it feels like im short
changing her I dont know what to do.I cant
help from feeling hurt should I just not
worry about my feelings for him and get
over it for my baby I dont know what to
do.Should I stay or shold I go?My decision
wont be completely influenced on you guys
opinion but it will help me decide things
your opinion will be the deal breaker lol
I guess.
Confusedinoklahoma
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deliciousangel4
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 May 2006 Posts: 9 Location: WI
Go Posted: 05-24-06 12:16pm
I know from experience growing up with out
a dad, but you know what its ok. A mother
can be a mom and dad at once. My mom did
it and im doing it now. All your baby
needs is your love. You shouldnt be
hurting because of living with him while
he's dating other girls. That's just not
right. What is most important is going
and being around people you love. You
seriously dont want your girl to grow up
thinking it's okay to have your parents
date other people while they live
together. That's just weird and wrong on
so many levels. Your daughter needs to
grow up around people who respect each
other, you wouldnt want her to be in your
situation when she gets older and thinks
it's ok beacause my mom did it to would
you? I dont think so....Just go girl for
real. It will only hurt for a little
while, but if he really cares about his
daughter then he wouldnt be doing this to
you. He could come and visit you two in
your own home. You dont need the stress
worrying about him all the time. It
stressful enough rasing your baby by
yourself. So just clear your head and
move on for the better of you and your
daughter.
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rinsha
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2006 Posts: 305 Location: Alabama
Posted: 05-24-06 13:03pm
Okay first off he cheated and got another
girl pregnant. He didn't have anything to
do with you threwout your pregnancy. If
this guy loved you he would have been
there for you and the baby. If he wanted
to be apart of the babies life he should
have been there from the start. I think
he had a change of heart because he got
scared and child support. He went right
back to his old ways. Thats a sign he
isn't going to change. He isn't coming
home at night, if he cared about his child
or you he would be there. He wouldn't be
off dating other people. He could
obviously give a crap less, and he just
sweet talked you into moving back in so he
wouldn't have to pay any money.
I understand you want you baby to have a
father. But you also have to realize he
isn't being a father. What has he done
for the baby so far? He left you during
your pregnancy, he wasn't at the hospital
when she was born either was he? If he
really cared he would have been there the
whole time. He got another girl pregnant
to. Thats another sign.
Your baby deserves a father, one that will
be there she is 3 months old. Well if you
move back home and fall in love with
someone else, they could become her
father. And you could have someone to
love you both for who you are and not have
to worry about a girl coming up knocking
on the door pregnant.
You shouldn't had to have deal with a guy
that has cheated on you, that has not been
there for his child. He doesn't come home
at night. What type of life do you think
your child will have when she gets older
and you two are still together? He kicked
you out when you were pregnant for stupid
reasons would you want your child to see
the way he acts. Just think if he acts
this way now how will he act the longer
you two stay together?
This is just my opinion, I grew up without
a father he was alot like this the father
of your baby. He was married to many
different times, and had six kids. I met
him once and all the years he never
believed I was his child. The day he saw
me he and I both knew I was his child.
But I have never wanted anything to do
with him. I never wanted anything from
him and never asked anything of him. He
didn't even know my birthday, he died this
past year. I met him once and I didn't
even say one word to him and he was to
afraid to talk to me I was 8 now I am 18.
I hope you can make the right choice for
you and your daughter I hope my reply has
helped you in some way. I am not a mother
myself, but I know it must be a hard
decission to make. I hope everything
works out for you and her for the best.
My best wishes are with you. :)
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beautiful
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 May 2006 Posts: 146 Location: stockton
Posted: 05-26-06 14:10pm
Do whaty is right for your baby and leave
him odviously he gonna keep doing it
he did it onve he will do it again
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Kittykatus
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: 05-26-06 17:13pm
He's bad to you, and a bad example to your
baby... You are a great parent on your
own
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LadyKasper
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 May 2006 Posts: 9 Location: L.A.
You Can Do Way Better Posted: 05-26-06 21:33pm
Well what I think you should do is leave
him for good. I thik that you can
definitly do way better than him. He
doen't treat you the way he should. You
had his baby, you carried his baby for 9
months, you gave him more than one chance
even though of all the shi* he has done 2
you and how he treated you. If he really
loves you he wouldn't done nothing of
that. Just leave him. Your daughter can
see his daddy any day. Go and find the
guy you really deserve.
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LadyKasper
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 May 2006 Posts: 9 Location: L.A.
You Can Do Way Better Posted: 05-26-06 21:34pm
Well what I think you should do is leave
him for good. I thik that you can
definitly do way better than him. He
doen't treat you the way he should. You
had his baby, you carried his baby for 9
months, you gave him more than one chance
even though of all the shi* he has done 2
you and how he treated you. If he really
loves you he wouldn't done nothing of
that. Just leave him. Your daughter can
see his daddy any day. Go and find the
guy you really deserve.
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arcadia
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 4470 Location: Illinois,
Thanks: 1
Thanked:0
Posted: 05-26-06 22:00pm
Honey, when she is old enough, she can
decide if she wants a relationship with
her father. Who cheated on you, &who
has other children with these other women.
Leave him. For good. Don't look back.
You deserve someone who respects you
and your beautiful daughter. He
doesn't deserve you. You're way too good
for any of what you're being put through.
So listen to us! Lol, get away from him.
Be an independent woman! Ohhh yeah! :p
