Hi
i've been seen this girl who is a bit
older then me for 6 months now, i'm 21
shes 24. We're doing really good and are
in love with each other she's great to me.
She's the fist girl that i've really had
a relationship with. The problem is her
past (which I know shouldn't really
matter) she has slept with alot of guys
and done some bad drugs, but she has never
cheated on anyone and has had only two one
night stands. I'm trying to forget about
her past because when I think about it I
just gets me upset and then we get in a
fight about it, it could destroy our
relationship which I dont want. I feel
the only thing that's really holding me
back from been madly in love her is
this.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can
forget about her past and just concentrate
on what we have now, it would help me out
alot, thanks
and I know it's stupid of me to let this
get in the way of what we have
if you want to know anymore details just
ask
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 05-18-06 07:12am
Advice to the ladies: never tell the
"whole" story about your sexual past. Men
say they love you and what's in the past
is in the past. They say it doesn't
bother them and they know you've had bfs.
They say alot, but the problem is it
"does" bother them, and the next time your
in a "fight" they will throw it in your
face................Sure it's nice to be
totally honest with someone you
"love"...........And they say they want to
hear it, but the truth is they really
"don't" want to hear
it.............Somethings are better left
unsaid.
Talk the talk: my advice, get over it,
everyone has a past, we've all done alot
of not-too-bright stuff. What matters now
is the person she is today. :)
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Kittykatus
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
Hmmm... Posted: 05-18-06 18:22pm
The problem with certain relationships is
that you find that if you have a sordid
past it can effect your future
relationships. Some people have been more
'active'; I don't know if that's the right
word to use, as I don't want to offend,
but at the end of the day, you'll always
find a problem within the concept of your
past relationships.
Now talk-the-talk; I felt the same with my
last relationship. It was weird as you
fall into the love trap, yet constantly
beat yourslef up, by thinking about your
partners past love life.
It's easy to say to you; "don't think
about it", but unfortunately, that is what
you have to do.
Talk to her about this, without causing an
arguement or fight. Let her know how much
you love her, so much so that you find
yourself being almost....Jealous of her
past.
I'm sure she will understand.
But I must admit, I do kind of agree with
spirit's argument....Mind you, do you
really want to live in silence?
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