Trusting My Boyfriend After Drinking Posted: 05-22-06 10:30am
My boyfriend used to drink alot even at
one point he left me during our
relationship he didn't even tell me he was
leaving all he would do is drink now were
back together. I am always afraid of him
leaving me or start drinking again. I am
so scared of him being alone, because
thats when he drinks. Today his room
mates brought home a bunch of alchol and
had been planning on having a party. My
boyfriend told me mid afternoon that he
needed 'alone' time, and that he didn't
want to hang out with me for the day. I
was really upset and confused. I whined
all the way home. I even cried when we
got here. It was like he didn't even hear
me. I love him, but how do I trust him.
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Kittykatus
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: 05-26-06 10:18am
You can't let him bring you down. He has
his own problems to solve, and if he can't
do them then he should sort out himself
before he allows anyone in.
However that's my opnion, ad it may not
suit, so do whatever you feel is right
within you.
I wish you luck, hun
kitty
xx
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Re: Trusting My Boyfriend After Drinking Posted: 05-26-06 10:40am
stacyd
wrote:
my boyfriend used to drink
alot even at one point he left me during
our relationship he didn't even tell me he
was leaving all he would do is drink now
were back together. I am always afraid
of him leaving me or start drinking again.
I am so scared of him being alone,
because thats when he drinks. Today his
room mates brought home a bunch of alchol
and had been planning on having a party.
My boyfriend told me mid afternoon that he
needed 'alone' time, and that he didn't
want to hang out with me for the day. I
was really upset and confused. I whined
all the way home. I even cried when we
got here. It was like he didn't even
hear me. I love him, but how do I trust
him.
hey! You probably don't remember me but I
talked to you when you posted all that a
while back.I told you my boyfriend was
almost exactly the same way.We also broke
up a couple of weeks ago for the same
reason but we are now back together.I have
the same fears as you.Not so much the
drinking because the last fallout we had
with alcohol made everything so hard.We
had a long talk and everything seems
fine,but I am soo worried something bad
will happen.He acts the same way your b/f
does when I cry.He acts like i'm doing it
for pity or something,not because i'm
really hurt,and he thinks i'm whining.I
can't believe how cold he can be
sometimes.It's like when he wants
something and doesn't get his way he
b*tches but when I want something and
don't get my way and complain he tells me
to grow up and stop being immature!what!
He is backwards and I have been trying so
hard to hold us together but I can't do it
alone.Sry for the long post,i just wanted
to let you know I know how you feel.Your a
positive person like myself and you don't
need to be brought down by someone who is
negative.You can pm me if you want to
talk.
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beautiful
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 May 2006 Posts: 146 Location: stockton
Posted: 05-26-06 10:48am
Well if u really love him then u will
trust him but if u see something like him
cheating on u then u better leave is ass
and dont let him tell u that he was
drinking because hes full of caca if that
was the case then he should have went to u
for the sex tell him that trust me im a
guy I been though that caca befor I can
tell u anything u want to know about a guy
u can talk to me
love blast :)
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 05-26-06 12:11pm
Don't know if you were talking to me or
her but I wish you could help me out!
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MESTIZOFLIP
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 May 2006 Posts: 13
Hi Posted: 05-26-06 12:46pm
.....Well me and my girlfriend have been
together for bout 10 months....When we
first meet, I was drinkin alot, at the
clubs everyday, and partin. But I gave
that all up because I fell in love with
her.....She didnt ask me to stop, I just
felt that it wasnt healthy for our
relationship....Plus I didnt want her doin
it. No offense but drinkin and partin wit
friends everyday is for the single life,
and for him to say he needs alone
time....Says it all..... If he were in
love with you....He would spend every
second with you... Also, if he broke up
with you once, what makes you think he
wont do it again. Trust me im a guy, I
know how guys think....
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StacyD
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 83 Location: Canada
Yep Posted: 06-17-06 21:09pm
You guys are all right. I have let it get
me down so much that I am just really
depressed, and sad all of the time. I
start a new job on monday it's my dream
job, but I don't even want to go. I just
want to loay in bed and sleep
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blondie91
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jun 2006 Posts: 5 Location: SACRAMENTO
Posted: 06-18-06 20:00pm
Dont be a 'square' just drink with him and
have fun. Atleast then you'll be able to
watch him when he drinks.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 06-20-06 14:12pm
blondie91
wrote:
dont be a 'square' just
drink with him and have fun. Atleast
then you'll be able to watch him when he
drinks.
ive tried that.We were
able to get drunk about 3 times togheter
without him being an a$$,but every other
time it ended up in a fight. . .(i know
this question wasn't aimed at me but I
answered anywho : ))
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 06-20-06 14:47pm
It sounds like it is time to sit down with
him and have a little heart to heart talk
with him and let him decide if it is his
drinking and partying he wants with his
friends or you, he cannot have his cake
and eat it too, it is eating you up on the
inside and it is not right for you. You
could probabably do much better but it is
your choice and you are the one that has
to live with the decision as these are
only my suggestiions.
Good luck to you!
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sometimesiwonder
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Aug 2006 Posts: 16
Same Situation Posted: 08-31-06 13:52pm
Kind of...
-- when I met my boyfriend 3 years ago, I
was like your boyfriend. I drank, all the
time. I was hard to trust, and I never
wnated to be around him cause he'd be
upset with it... We broke up, and I lost
someone who was there for me.
Now, we're back together, alcohol is not
part of our situation. I had to erase it
completely, it's been the best decision of
my life. My boyfriend knows it bothers me
now, and I never told him he can't drink,
but he choses not to cause he knows it
destoys our trust.
Drinking with him won't solve the
situation, that'll lead to worse things.
Fights, fuzzy nights, everything that
single people could consider "fun" people
in relationships can consider damaging.
After all in all, alcohol has been
diminished for the sake of our
relationship, some people just can't
handle the addition of alcohol... He
sounds like one of them.
You need to tell him its bothering you.
You can't keep quiet
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bhabe
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2006 Posts: 9 Location: florida
Posted: 11-12-06 20:30pm
Your boyfriend has a serious problem with
alcohol and people like that changes into
better is difficult for him. You might
want to consider to forget him and move on
and find a better man that treated you
good and respect you....
