Naming a Child After Someone? Posted: 05-22-06 18:54pm
So my bf and I have had several
discussions about baby names - no, i'm not
pregnant yet but we've been tossing the
idea around a fair bit lately. Anyway,
he's determined that if we were to have a
boy it would have to be named after him,
and the prior ten generations that had the
same name. Most of them go by their
middle name, but that's where the problem
is. I have no problem with using his
name like that (even if a close family
member did just name their baby that), but
he also figures that he can just put any
mn he wants with it and i'm gonn accept
it. I've been basically ignoring his
ramblings about it since i'm not pregnant.
Here are my questions...
1. What is your opinion on naming a
child after someone else? And does it
change if it's a 200 year tradition in the
family?
2. How do you reason with someone who's
got a definite set opinion on a boy's name
- i'm just looking for a compromise on the
second name - the name he has picked will
definitely get my child beaten up on the
playground. Any ideas?
Thanks.
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 05-22-06 19:08pm
I think it's cool when the name has a
special meaning behind it and tradition to
boot! The child will ask you why you
named him/her that, and what's better than
a 200yr tradition.
Okay but how bad is the middle name?Don't
keep us hanging...........I wanted to name
my boy francis, and for the same reasons
as you decided against it.........Although
I still like that name.
I was also playing with the idea of naming
him after my now ex.................Thank
goodness I nixed that idea as I don't
particularily care for him anymore, lol.
If all else fails...................Pray
for a girl. :)
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Songwriter105
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Apr 2006 Posts: 22 Location: Windsor
Posted: 05-22-06 22:55pm
My middle name's michael, my dad's first
name, his dad's middle name, his dad's
first name, and so on....I've been doing a
lot of talking with my gf about babby
names (as our relationship is heading to
the final plateau) and we've decided to
keep, but change tradition...We have
"brandon" picked as a first name, but
instead of going "michael brandon, or
brandon michael" we're going to take my
first name...Making him a brandon
christopher. I know i'm messing with
tradition, but change is good...Even if we
have a girl "hailee christina". Just an
opinion...Although spirit had a good idea
too. (pray for a girl)
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zamboni_kate
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 May 2006 Posts: 17
Posted: 05-23-06 10:40am
Pray for a girl is a good idea lol -
except that I know that the sex of the
child is determined by the father and that
it is based on the family history of the
paternal sides... Well there hasn't been
a girl born in the last three generations
of his dad's family - that doesn't bode
well. But yes, one can hope
the middle name in question is eskel.
Frankly, it's a bad bad name in my
opinion, and i'm afraid that there is
going to be a lot of hurt feelings about
the whole situation, but I can't let it
happen. I'm willing to give on the first
name, but there has to be some give on the
middle name. I'm sure that i'm probably
being too stubborn on this and shoudl just
give in tho.
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sandyallen
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 05-23-06 11:15am
Can you use the 20th or put a slash in it
or just use the .E if the .Eskel part is
what you do not like about it. Even
though it is written on the birth
certificate does not mean that he has to
go by it. I used to know a guy who had a
middle name of .Pinrose and their was a
few other different middle names. My
.Mom did not like her middle name so
sheused her maiden name initial. Most of
us do not go by our middle names anyway.
I always have liked michael for a name,
that is my sons name. You can also
suggest to him to take his name, .Michael
and your .Dad or grandfathers middle name
good luck!
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zamboni_kate
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 May 2006 Posts: 17
Posted: 05-23-06 18:37pm
Oh I don't think that I would have too
much of an issue using that as a middle
name if I could throw in another name with
it, after all, you are right, middle names
are rarely used. The problem is that the
tradition is usually to have the child
called by their middle name - that isn't
happening if that's the middle name. I
fear i'm in for a bit of a battle. Lol.
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 05-24-06 07:50am
If everything in your heart is going
against this name than I say stick to your
guns. Frankly I find it kind of hideous
but maybe it would grow on me, lol. I
also think your making a fair compromise
by suggesting a second middle name. In
the final analysis, it's your baby and it
don't matter what you call the
child..............You will love him/her
no matter what.
Songwriter: brandon is my boys name and
how I suffered coming up with that one!
Chris is my beau's name. So brandon
christopher will be the initials .B.C -
before christ ...............Ironic to me
as my beau's birthcertificate had a
misprint and says...................
.................Christ........Instead of
chris...............You have no idea how
difficult it is to deal with someone so
righteously full of themselves,lol. :)
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Lalee
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2006 Posts: 991 Location: South Carolina
Posted: 05-24-06 08:22am
You shouldn't be afraid to tell him you
don't like the name... It's not like
you're telling him you don't like his
family name, for christ's sake. Also, the
fact that you're stressing about it when
you aren't even pregnant is kind of
amusing.
Anyway, i'm having a boy, and my guy and I
picked out logan jesse: logan because we
liked it, jesse because it's a family name
(in both our families, actually). Bf told
me from the beginning that he wanted to
use jesse as part of the name, and so I
got to pick the other name. I just came
up with a bunch I liked and found out
which ones he liked.
Just tell him he doesn't have the sole
right to name his children whatever he
wants. Period.
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zamboni_kate
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 May 2006 Posts: 17
Posted: 05-24-06 12:18pm
Yes, i'm sure it's amusing to everyone
that i'm stressing when i'm not even
pregnant - at least I don't think I am -
but he has made this abundantly clear that
there is no room for movement on the first
name - which is fine, even tho i'm not
thrilled about it, i'll go along with it.
I've never liked the idea of naming a
child after someone else, I think that a
child deserves their own identity, but I
understand the tradition is important to
him. Seriously tho, the middle name
issue, and having the child go by his
middle name is one of the major factors
that i'm not jumping into this idea of
having a baby right away. I don't want
to deal with all the arguing over it at
the moment. But thanks for all the input
everyone.
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Lalee
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2006 Posts: 991 Location: South Carolina
Posted: 05-24-06 12:26pm
My mom goes by her middle name. So does
one of my best friends. I know a lot of
people who do, but someone at work pointed
out to me something I didn't really think
about. Her son goes by his middle name,
and she said she wished she had never done
that because when he goes to school for
the first day of the year, the name his
teacher has put on all his stuff is not
the name he goes by. And they always have
to correct people, and it causes a lot of
confusion sometimes.
That's part of the reason the first name I
had picked out for my son didn't stick,
cause he would have gone by his middle
name, and I didn't really want that.
And I don't see naming a child after
someone as stripping them of their
identity. It's more about showing respect
than anything... However, if you don't
know why in the world that name has been
passed down all these years, it is kinda
silly to do it just because. Lol
