Hi, I'm 16 And I Want a Baby Posted: 05-27-06 23:20pm
Hi, i'm 16 and my bf and I have been
dating for about 3 years and we want to
have a baby. I know how it feels to take
care of a baby day and night. I have
taken care of my niece seen she was born
when ever I could and she just turned 4
this april. There are girls in my school
that are and have been pregnant by mistake
and if I get pregnant they will prob.
Think i'm a tyipical mexican or i'm just
trying to copy them. But I just don't
know what to do. Help!
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MamiClaudia
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Hmmm Posted: 05-28-06 08:03am
I dont regret it I love the baby alot! I
just need to get my act together and stop
being depressed. Luckily I still have the
baby dady with me, he already has a
daughter that he had when he was 16 and
she will be 2 in october. Once I get
another job (i got my stupid ass fired)
and he gets a better job and we get the
hell out of our houses I think we will be
okay... I hope =0). Of course it is
diffrent for someone who is 19.. And then
16. Im sure its hard to find a fulltime
decent paying job so young.. But you can
do anything if you really try.
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kissofangel20
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Posted: 05-28-06 08:42am
Ok this is kinda off the point but then
kinda not. Has anyone here seen pay it
forward....And if not I wish you would.
I like the idea of the movie.....Your life
might not be what you expect or
want.......But there is always a chance to
help someone else no matter what is going
on in your own life.
I know it seems hard right now...But god
has plans for us all...And some have
tougher roads to go than others. I wish
you the best of luck and hope it does work
out for you in the end.
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 05-28-06 09:14am
This is an old topic but anyway....I dont
regret having my son, or being a teen
parent, im enjoying it right now and my
son is doing well. The thing I regret,
is getting with the guy who got me
pregnant. If I could go back, i'd have
waited to meet a better guy. I feel
sorry for my son that hes never going to
know his real father. I didnt give it
much thought when I was pregnant, but now
when I see kids with their dads, I do feel
bad about it. Sometimes I feel like
getting in contact with him, but I know he
would bring a lot of trouble for us. Its
like should i, shouldnt i? Type thing =/
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Kia
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Posted: 05-28-06 12:50pm
Confused :(
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arcadia
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Posted: 05-28-06 12:56pm
Taking care of your neice &taking care
of your own child are two very different
things. Honey, you do not need a
child right now. You're only 16. You
have so much life ahead of you. Finishing
high school, riding out the remainder of
your teen years.. Prom, movies, friends,
sleepovers, just driving around, staying
out all night in the summer.. You won't
be able to do any of that if you have a
baby. If you really want one that bad,
wait until you're at least out of high
school. &.If you're still with your
boyfriend, then... Then you can consider
it. But don't have a baby just because
you see other girls who have one &you
want one, too. I'm guessing you still
live with your parents, &.I don't know
you, but .I'm also going to guess you
don't have a job since you're only 16.
What would your parents think of having to
support your child? Just think
about it. It isn't all fun &games.
Good luck.
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kissofangel20
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Posted: 05-28-06 23:34pm
Oopps....Lol...I posted here instead of
anther post...Lol...Sorry.
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haliparot
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Posted: 05-29-06 02:12am
I can help but to feel anguish sometimes
to girls that think they want a baby? I
am not here to judge you hun...You told me
you can take care of a baby? Well if you
say so then no question with that but here
are the other questions? If you had a
baby right now, are you sure your bf will
get married soon and he won't leave you
for the rest of your life? He will
probably tell you he's going to stay but
you both I believe are still very young to
conclude everything that will happen in
the future? What if your bf left you?
Will you raise a child alone and w/o a
father? Second question, do you have work
or enough money to raise your child, to
buy all his/her needs, to provide
everything from diapers and milk until his
tuition and allowance when he/she grows
up? If you doubt or you say "no" then you
are just want of those people who are
wasting their lives and wasting the lives
of their kids at the same time...Sorry for
the word honey...Another question? Are
you willing or can you bear making your
parents disappointed at you for being
pregnant? Is it okay to you not to
experience all the fun and good stuffs of
being a teen including parties, going to
the malls, concerts etc. And you mature
enough to raise a kid or a child? Do you
think you can provide him/her a good life
w/o hassle and will be able to show a good
example...Honey a kids life doesn't stop
when he/she is a baby...So being able to
take care of a baby really doesn't
count...The harder stuff will still
follow...Are you capable of handling that?
If you answer no or you doubt with any of
these questions then I beg you ...Please
do not consider having a kid anymore...Not
just because of your sake...But for the
sake of the future kid...
When all my friends are partying and doing
drugs and being irresponsible part of me
wishes that I could still be doing those
things with them.
So just make sure you are ready to give
that stuff up, because I don't feel like I
was, but I know when my baby comes it'll
all make it all worth it. But why not
experience everything you want to first
while you have no one to worry about
besides yourself. I went to visit my
sister at university last march and even
though i'll be going to university it
won't be the same experience as it is for
her. She gets to do the whole party
thing and the school and just have fun at
the same time. When I get there i'll be
doing the work then taking care of a kid.
So I will never really experience it the
way she is and it looked so great when I
was visiting. If anyone is reading this
and considering having a baby just
appreciate that you get to be young and
irresponsible for a couple more years.
After that it's the real world, wait to
have a baby until then. Until you
experience working and paying bills and
being on your own. Not just for yourself
but because after that you will be better
prepared to meet all of the child's needs.
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kissofangel20
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Posted: 05-29-06 10:52am
I think that was very well said
tanya.....You made very good points and I
have to agree with them......But your also
young and know some want what they want
when they want it and don't care what
anyone has to say.
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Chrissy87
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Posted: 05-30-06 15:57pm
You are 16 years old and still a child
yourself.
How do you plan on taking care of a baby
and going to school?
Do you and your boyfriend work and are
financially stable to support a child?
Are you prepared to give up everything in
life such as hanging with your friends and
partying?
The thing is your only 16 and have yet to
really experiance life because your still
a kid and have to live by your parents
rules. What happens when you turn 18 and
all your friends are going to clubs and
out partying and you are finally free to
do what you want?
I have none so many people who wanted kids
as teenagers but then once they had one
they regretted it. Most but not all
teenage mothers end up dropping out of
school and some end up on welfare, I am
not saying all but some end up like
this.
The keyword here is baby which is what you
want, have you ever thought this baby is
not going to stay a baby for long. They
grow up really fast and once that baby is
a toddler then what?
Are you prepared to stay of with a
screaming baby when it is sick, trust me
when they are sick they are a nightmare.
Getting pregnant as a teen is never a good
idea and their are hundreds of young moms
who commit suicide every year because they
thought they could handle it but could
not.
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linuxChique
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Posted: 05-31-06 12:44pm
To the mod who split this topic up: please
select only the replies that have to do
with the one you want to split and click
"split selected posts" .N.O.T "split from
selected posts." this will make sure
replies that should stay attached to the
original thread do. There are some
replies in this topic that should have
stayed on the old topic.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 05-31-06 13:05pm
allie_18
wrote:
this is an old topic but
anyway....I dont regret having my son, or
being a teen parent, im enjoying it right
now and my son is doing well. The thing
I regret, is getting with the guy who got
me pregnant. If I could go back, i'd
have waited to meet a better guy. I
feel sorry for my son that hes never going
to know his real father. I didnt give
it much thought when I was pregnant, but
now when I see kids with their dads, I do
feel bad about it. Sometimes I feel
like getting in contact with him, but I
know he would bring a lot of trouble for
us. Its like should i, shouldnt i?
Type thing =/
well allie,you didn't try to get pregnant
on purpose as far as I know.This girl is
trying and I think she needs to wait.She
probably wont even be with the same guy in
a couple of years who knows.And as for you
not talking to the father,its probably for
the best interest of both you and your
son,especially if you think he will only
cause trouble.You will find someone one
day who your son can call dad : )
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 05-31-06 13:18pm
sandralynn
wrote:
yeah lol that made me look
stupid.. I was like, I know this
question was in a different topic
before... Hmmm..
Lol
lol,well we all know your not stupid so
its ok! : )
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dontletitfadeaway
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Joined: 31 May 2006 Posts: 4 Location: maine
Posted: 05-31-06 14:34pm
I agree completely with everyone that is
saying not to have a baby. I just turned
17, and I found out 3 month ago that I am
pregnant. I have shattered the dreams
that I had. My boyfriend of almost 3
years is in a band and that is his dream.
I get really jealous because I cant do my
dream. Being a teen pregnant I think
would be a bad choice for you. You do
miss out on alot of things, then you start
regretting because you are not able to do
the things that your friends are able to
do. You get sick during pregnancy so it
isnt like you are able to run the town.
And you dont want to put the burden on
your parents of buying everything.
Because that is what happened to me, plus
the doc appt. Are not cheap unless you
have some medicare or insurance. I am
telling you from what I am going through
right now, I wouldnt do it. I didnt get
pregnant on purpose, and I wish I was more
careful. Just think about all the
questions people are asking you, they will
come into play even before the baby is
born. You will worry constantly about if
your boyfriend is gonna be there for you.
Just live out your life as a teen, maybe
you will change your mind.
Good luck.
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tiffanyg
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Joined: 31 May 2006 Posts: 27 Location: Oklahoma
Posted: 06-01-06 11:59am
Hi i'm 20 and had a baby when I was 18 I
graduated just about a week after I had my
son I fell in love and we decided to try I
had a miscarriage with our first pregnancy
I don't regret having my son or my
daughter who is only 2 1/2 months we're a
happy little bunch. The thing I would
stress to a teen in the same situation is
make sure you can live with the daddy
forever things happen and people change
taking care of a baby is hard work not to
mention expensive the other obvious thing
to think about is are you ready to gain
weight and not be able to get it off or
have a lot of loose skin i'm not saying
this happens to everyone but just think
about it plus theres other medical issues
to think about like :oops: hemorrhoids
:evil: sore breasts sleeplessness (even
after the baby can sleep all night), and
crying for absolutly no good reason and I
can't say for sure my pregnancies have
anything to do with this but other mothers
have said the same that they get sick
really easy like our immune systems were
weakened a bit
well just remember the diaper changes,
every 3 hour feedings, fatigue,
tantrums---thats the easy part I would
tell you to enjoy your teenage life now!!
Go to the parties stay up all night do
what teens do now because as soon as you
become pregnant all that will change you
get tired sick and you will miss the time
you had just think about it
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Before I begin, this is in no way directed
towards anyone who has accidently
conceived a child and has decided to keep
it. My hat is off to you, ladies. This
is directed instead at teenage girls that
want to get pregnant on purpose.
I've felt a strong need to have a child
since I was 15 years old, so I completely
understand the emotion behind it. It's
not always "babies are cute, I want one."
but please consider a few things. If you
do not pay rent, utilities, insurance, and
for food, then you're not experienced at
how the real world works. And when you're
finally in a position to learn what it
takes to make it on your own, it won't
just be you... It'll be an innocent child
who will be directly affected by your
decisions, good and bad.
If you live with your parents, and have no
immediate plans to move out and support
yourself, choosing to become pregnant is
selfish. You are subjecting your family
to providing not only for you, but for
your child as well. Babies are extremely
expensive, and it's irresponsible to put
that kind of burden on people who have
probably put their baby years far behind
them.
You should really consider what a
pregnancy would mean to everyone involved.
You might feel completely ready to handle
having a child, but what about the father?
Is he ready to be responsible for another
human being so early in his life? And if
he decides he doesn't want a part of your
baby's life, what will you do? There are
many single mothers out there who do
wonderful jobs, but if you were given a
choice, would you honestly choose a father
who didn't want your child? Wouldn't you
rather have someone that, even if they
didn't want you, wanted to be a part of
the child's life? Boys mature later than
girls, we all know that. As much as he
says he loves you, the reality of a
pregnancy will probably scare him away.
Your life is going to change so much in
the next few years. There is so much more
out there than you know. You need to
experience life, learn some hard lessons,
and meet some great people. You'll be
surprised how much you don't know until
you look back. Don't let it be with
regret. You have plenty of time to have
children. The mark of a good mother is
putting her child's needs ahead of her own
at .A.L.L times... Including before
they're even conceived. If you care about
them at all, you'll wait until you're
better prepared to give them everything
they deserve.
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 06-01-06 15:20pm
linuxchique
wrote:
to the mod who split this
topic up: please select only the replies
that have to do with the one you want to
split and click "split selected posts"
.N.O.T "split from selected posts." this
will make sure replies that should stay
attached to the original thread do.
There are some replies in this topic that
should have stayed on the old
topic.
yeh mine wasnt a reply to the girl wanting
a baby, it was from a way old post she
replied to asking if people regrett having
their baby at a young age.
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