Help! In Love With a Lesbian Posted: 05-28-06 22:50pm
Ive known this girl for awhile, at least 6
months, I really like her. Whenever
I see/talk to her, I get a weird feeling
in my stomach. When we hug, I just
dont wanna let go. Shes really cute,
and just my type of girl.
Well shes really cute, but kinda a tomboy,
and low-maintanence, sometimes our friends
just joke around with her saying shes a
lesbian and stuff. Well, I was
messin around on myspace, and I saw some
girl's page (a lesbian), and it had a
picture of the girl I like, and had a
caption that said "my wife." theres been a
few other signs, like the girl I like has
her lip peirced. But she has talked
to me before about a past boyfriend, and
sometimes I overhear her talking about
"hot guys" with other girls. And one
time she asked if I would "go out with her
out if she wasnt already in a
relationship." I thought she was just
kidding, and trying to make me jealous,
but now im thinkin she really was in a
relationship, and it is with that girl.
So im like 80-90% sure shes a lesbian
now after seeing the myspace stuff.
I guess its possible shes bi, or it could
just be a phase, or a big
misunderstanding. But what do I do?
How would I be able to find out? If
I ask her and she is a lesbian, then im
done, and have no chance with her.
But if I ask, and she isnt a lesbian, then
I probably offended her, and will have no
chance with her. What do I do?
And if she is a lesbian, how can I get
over her? I really really like her.
I never liked a girl like this
before, I cant stop thinkin about her, how
can I get over her?
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Kittykatus
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: 05-29-06 15:30pm
Lol omg, scarily it could go both ways.
But females are more emotional with each
other. I mean, my mate apparently is 'my
wife' and I have a misteress too!!
I'm not joking or taking the mic; it may
just be like a nickname she has.
Why not casually bring it up; talk about
relationships; talk bout another random
girl you saw on tele or whatever, and say
like 'oh god she's nice.'
see her response.
And if she really is a lesbian/bi then i'm
afraid crushes do come and go.
Good luck
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jimmy123
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 May 2006 Posts: 19 Location: ny
Posted: 05-30-06 11:14am
Yeah, but is your mate a lesbian? I dont
know what to do. The only girl I ever
liked this much was a girl I dated over 2
years ago, but she moved, and I still
think about her. And I like this girl
even more than that one. Im sure if I
brought it up, she would deny it. If she
turned out to be straight, and I said
something like: hey, I have a serious
question for ya, do you like boys? Do
you think she would be offended?
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beautiful
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 May 2006 Posts: 146 Location: stockton
Posted: 05-30-06 11:40am
She might be bi just ask her but tell her
that you are not trying to be mean but you
are curious
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jimmy123
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 May 2006 Posts: 19 Location: ny
Posted: 06-01-06 18:31pm
Well, she's defenitely going out with that
girl. I knew she was too good to be true.
I dont get it, why would she flirt with
me so much? She would always tell me how
cute I looked in my work uniform or
warmups after practice. I dont think
there was one time that we walked past
each other, where she wouldnt touch me or
smile, or do something. She would always
give me a big hug if I havnt seen her in
more than a few days, or if I didnt notice
her, she would sneak up and give me a hug
from behind. She always jokingly called
me her boyfriend, and sometimes jokingly
introduced me as her boyfriend to our
friends. Whenever I would leave and out
of state, or far away, she would always
tell me not to cheat on her while I was
gone. She would always feel my chest or
arms and joke about my muscles, but you
could tell that she just wanted to feel
them. I hear her talking about guys with
her friends, and shes even talked to me
before about a past-boyfriend.
I just dont get it. Most crushes dont
last 7-8 months, I really liked this girl.
I was gonna ask her out as soon as school
was out, and I was 100% sure that she
would say yes. Untill now obviousally.
Why does she do all of these things when
she is a lesbian? Was it all an act? Was
she just using me, and experimenting to
see if she liked boys?
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jimmy123
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 May 2006 Posts: 19 Location: ny
Posted: 06-05-06 09:26am
Please read my last post, what do you
folks think? Think she's bi? Or a
lesbian and shes just experimenting with
me or something?
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beautiful
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 May 2006 Posts: 146 Location: stockton
Posted: 06-05-06 18:56pm
Shes bi just ask her
tell her what you have told us
i am bi and I do almost the same thing as
her
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jimmy123
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 May 2006 Posts: 19 Location: ny
Posted: 06-05-06 23:51pm
On her myspace account it says married for
her marital status, and lesbian for her
orientation. And thats all she filled
out. I know shes not married, so maybe
shes not a lesbian either. But her main
pic is her and her girlfriend together,
but her girlfriend also has myspace and
shes even not on her friends list, but her
girlfriend also has lesbian and married in
that section. Im too scared to ask her!
Haha. Were pretty good friends, I
dont want things to get awkward. Whats
a nice way to ask her?
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beautiful
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 May 2006 Posts: 146 Location: stockton
Posted: 06-06-06 23:04pm
Tell her that you are not trying to be
mean, but she has been acting like she
like you but you see her with tht girl and
you were just wondering if she is bi or
not but tell her that you are in no way
tryin to hurt her and you really like her
and if she thinks that you two can hook up
and continue to be friends if she is with
that girl
